On a particularly long day, after an 8 hour drive home
from Northern
Wisconsin on vacation, I was feeling tired, and the day’s events had
hit
me.
When I got home I decided it would be best to take a walk around the neighborhood to clear my mind. I found myself walking without a direction or second thought as to what I was doing or where I was going, until… I passed by the local coffee shop, and sitting outside under a shading umbrella, at a table, was a cute girl sipping on a mocha frappe.
This girl caught my eye against my empty thoughts and, though I wasn’t very much up to talking, I wasn’t going to let the opportunity pass.
I sat at a table across from her, and looked up to the sunset, breathed in deeply and exhaled slowly as she looked my way and smiled. I brought my head down, looked across my shoulder at her, and smiled as I tilted my head back up to tints of oranges, purples, and pinks.
After a generic agreement on how beautiful the sky was, I sat next to her, didn’t say a word to her yet, but again saw her look at me, and this time I locked eyes with her, tilted my head to the side raised my eyebrow, then pulled back a tad.
She exclaimed, “What?!” and was thrown off by the gesture. After telling her that I thought she was cute, with a prolonged sexy stare, I ran my fingertips against the backside of her hand, and saw her pupils dilate and her breathing got a little heavier.
An hour later she was lying on top of me at the pavilion of a nearby deserted park.
That’s nonverbal attraction: the ability to communicate messages to and even arouse a girl without saying much - and it’s powerful!
Nonverbal attraction and communication lies at the center of most great seductions; it is the bread and butter of easy and natural pick ups; it is something we all know subconsciously; and it’s something you can use to skyrocket your success ratio… and today I’m going to show you how to use it.
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Great Article
Another fantastic article,and it will also contribute in the non verble movements section
Great work
RICHARD.
Really solid!
Great article, I've been waiting for one like this honestly. The Psychology of it is really interesting.
Do young girls pick up on this just as well?
Anyways,
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Keep up the good work!
Side note: In the beginning of the article you said that your don't want to let the "opportunity pass" you should link that to the "Threats and opportunities" article.
Anon - Young girls pick up on
Anon -
Young girls pick up on this as well, and I think I mentioned in the article how we have these abilities from birth. Facial recognition/facial gestures/ smiling is all recognized by infants because its a safety precaution.
As such, everyone has this ability naturally, but for most people, its natural-ness becomes dormant as you grow up because it becomes an unconscious ability (automatic processing is the psychological term), and you learn to fend for yourself in other ways.
Bottom line is, yes: young girls are receptive to this as well.
-Richard
Pupil dilation
Richard:
Terrific article, thank you! The opening tableau really drew me in, too... Imagine being able to do that after a long journey!
You mention that "everyone can" control pupil dilation, but you don't say how. Yet in the following section, you give a hint that just thinking about something arousing is enough to cause changes in your facial expression. Is that the technique behind conscious control of the pupil dilation too?
Thanks!
-Marty
Pupil control
Marty,
I think I may bring some clarity to the subject. Your pupils will dilate when you think, as you and Richard mentioned, about something arousing or exciting. They will also dilate when you think about something agreeable or when you cocentrate on a task and block out everything else. However, they will constrict in accord with negative emotions, e.g. when you think about someone you don´t like. You can change your pupils on command by changing your emotions.
Hope this helped!
-Balsir
Note to Richard: Thank you for writing this article! You did a great job!
Marty - Balsir was right in
Marty -
Balsir was right in everything he said, when you think about a positive emotion your pupils expand, and negative emotion causes your pupils to shrink.
However, another thing you can do:
Stand in the mirror and tense your abs/ stomach muscles and you should see your pupils expand, release your abs and they will shrink as well.
You can train your brain (as I have) with a system of positive reinforcement... tense your abs to cause dilation while coming up with a trigger (like focusing on a thought or emotion), and eventually your trigger becomes enough to cause natural dilation.
Its a little weird tensing your abs to causw dilation in your eyes for women, so I trained my brain to do it naturally.
-Richard
dont overblow it though
They naturally dilate because of light or lack thereof.
Or because of drugs.
Or some people have them naturally always dilated or the other way around.
Great Article and a Question
I thought this article was really useful.
Richard - do use the breathing in deeply and exhaling slowly as one of your nonverbal techniques or was it just a one off kind of thing given the situation?
Also, can you give us the rest of the details on how to went from the cafe to the park? I really liked the setup of that story.
Rob - Different styles of
Rob -
Different styles of breathing communicate different things, and it's best to use in a quiet area, or in one on one conversations.
In this case, the area was quite and the deep breath conveyed ease and relaxed-ness. Think of a movie scene where someone does a deep sigh of relief almost after having a proud moment (Ive seen a bunch but can't think of one right now).
Also, from the café to the park. It was a lot of emotion on her part, I had her opening up to me really fast, and that's not uncommon for me, my natural vibe puts people at ease. Anyway, from the cafe, I got up midway through a sentence and walked off a bit, looked oover my shoulder and cocked my head signaling her to follow.
She caught up and asked what we were doing: We ended up at the park, and I escalated from there, had no resistance either, she was swept up in emotion.
Afterward she sent me this text:
"you sure do know how to keep a heart waiting & a mind wandering; feet moving & hands shaky ."
Good one! Do you a "field
Good one!
Do you a "field report" (damn I hate PUA's lingo :D ) for that?
Really great article
Hi Richard,
First off compliments on the article, I love psychology and non verbal communication. Could you write more on it?
Also, I would appreciate if you could translate ft into meters because I have to look up what the difference is every time I read an article(some articles already have translated ft in meters) I think it would be benificial to a lot of readers on this site because meters is used by the majority of countries.
Again, great article I have been waiting for something like this and when I read that you could go on and on about non verbals but the article would be really long I was like please do make the article really really really long!
Greetings from Holland,
- Pablo
"Bedroom eyes" is a bit different
Just a note, the "bedroom eyes" are not exactly excited dilated pupils, which are often associated with wide open eyes, but are more like unfocused, somewhat inattentive eyes with a drooping eyelid, which I mostly associate with a slow situation mood, often post sex.
Arouse Women
That was Fuckin amazing. I'm tired of all these programs being difficult this
made shit so simple and easy to apply. Thank You
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