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Your Best Chance Is on the First Date

your best chance is on the first date
Whether you want a serious or casual relationship with a woman, you need to get her in bed before attraction windows close. Pro tip: your best bet is the first date.

Editor's Note: Pierre has been a long-time member on our boards, and this is his first article on Girls Chase. He'll be 50 this year, divorced in 2012 after 15 years of marriage. Now, after several years back in the game, we’re stoked to add his perspective on women and dating to our blog. Here he starts things off with a very educational story! – BT


By August 2015, I had hit the one-year mark in my seduction education. I had a few successes, but there was still much to learn.

In particular, I was missing a key element in my dating mindset, and it took a monumental failure to finally beat it into my skull. Lucky for me and you, failure is a powerful learning tool, and the story I’m about to relate is what taught me the most important dating lesson I’ve learned so far, namely:

Your best chance to make it happen is to push for sex on the first date.

And that goes for whatever you want to “make happen” – whether that’s just having sex with a girl or making her your girlfriend.

For a lot of guys, this mindset can seem counterintuitive, but I promise you it’s not. In this article, I’ll share the epiphanies that finally convinced me just how crucial – and effective – it is.

Storytime!

As Mating Complexity Increases, Do Reproductive Returns Diminish?

mating complexity
Mating gets more complex as our societies become more complex. But as complexity rises, does the law of diminishing (reproductive) returns set in? (image source: Darwin Leo)

Bit of an abstract/sociological article here.

A little more academic than usual, too.

If you'd prefer tactics on dealing with an increasingly complex mating market, see my Game Imbalance Theory series. Otherwise, if you're down for a little academic sociology, let's proceed...

I'm reading through John Tainter's brilliant The Collapse of Complex Societies. Tainter's premise is civilization (or society, as he prefers to call it) is a problem-solving entity. As a society encounters new problems (like a food shortage or a militaristic neighbor) it adds new layers to itself, to address the problem (more intensive farming, or the training of a better military). These new layers make the society more complex.

As the society becomes more complex (to deal with more problems), it requires more resources. For a while it gets these through conquest or opening up new resource channels. Later it must get them by raising taxes on the population and by controlling more and more of its populace's lives. The further along this process it goes, the greater the demands on the society's support population become, and the smaller the returns on its increasing complexity get. It must demand more and more, to support greater and greater complexity, for less and less return.

As I've read Tainter, it's gotten me thinking about romantic relationships. There are some fascinating trends in dating, mating, and reproduction... trends like:

Anecdotally, the Battle of the Sexes seems to have reached fevered pitch, with many jilted women asking "where all the good men have gone" and many jilted men complaining they didn't go anywhere but were overlooked while these women were too busy "riding the cock carousel" (and now no longer want these "post-wall" women). This is something it's harder to quantify, but I've gone through a fair few newspaper advice columns from the 1880s through the 1950s and don't recall coming across anything close to this level of back-and-forthing between the sexes.

Divorce rates have skyrocketed, even as the availability of sex partners seemingly has too (I can't find much data on historical lifetime sex partners, unfortunately, but I find it hard to believe the average number of lifetime sex partners was "seven" in the 18th and 19th Centuries, as it is now -- though here's an interesting article on changing views on sexuality across the times).

As I looked at all this, I had to wonder: is the ever-increasing complexity of modern dating to blame for dating's shabbier and shabbier results overall for men and women alike?

Keep Girls Interested in Casual Relationships with the Silent Method

keep girls interested in casual relationships
Casual relationships tend to fizzle out quickly, but sometimes we don’t want them to! Here’s a method to boost her attraction for you and keep her interested.

I have a bunch of good friends in the pickup industry, and we often have interesting chats about different topics in the niche. During a recent back-and-forth, we came across the subject of keeping girls interested longer-term in casual relationships.

Casual relationships don’t usually last very long, but sometimes we’d like them to!

Over the years, I have developed a killer method for keeping girls in my rotation, and this also applies to how I deal with them in texts; most other pickup artists are using other methods. My friends found my ideas interesting, and when applied, they got excellent results!

So they asked me to write this article to enlighten our readers about this important topic. I always was and am still interested in ways to keep a hot and intelligent girl in my rotation long-term, so I have developed a special way of handling girls and so that you keep them invested and chasing you.

Tactics Tuesdays: Recovering from Botched Escalations to Sex

failed escalation to sex
When you try to have sex with a girl, but fail, often that's it: you won't get another shot with her. Yet all is not lost with her – you still have options.

Failing in your escalation to sex is, often, a kiss of death.

You were inches away from intimacy with a girl... and then you didn't reach sex.

Perhaps you started to kiss her alone at your place, but she broke things off and left. Or you got her clothes partly off and had your hands on her body, only for her to get up, dress, and depart.

What's more maddening still is the power dynamic shift that occurs after a failed attempt at mating like this. She cools off to you dramatically... while you go crazy trying to get her back!

It's nuts. And it drives you nuts.

How can she be so cool toward you when the two of you were so close to intimacy?

In today's article we'll talk about a few tactics to attempt to turn things around in these sorts of situations. We'll also talk about why, from a strategic point of view, unless the girl is an absolute keeper, it's often better to take at best a few more shots, yet be ready to walk away.

14 “Anytime” Compliments to Use on Her Today

how to compliment a girl
A good compliment goes a long way with women. But to give a good compliment and have it be effective can take a bit of know-how. Here’s everything you need.

I love to give a good compliment. It makes me happy to compliment girls, because if I’m not being brazenly honest with someone, I’m uncomfortable. I have to be like that.

Plus, it’s so beautifully polarizing to compliment women. It’s the epitome of strength, in my opinion.

All of that “oh, never compliment a girl, because you’ll make her think you’re just another loser who’s chasing her” nonsense is exactly that – nonsense.

Are there times when you shouldn’t compliment a girl? SURE.

If she’s being a snotty ho with her nose in the air? Don’t compliment her. She doesn’t deserve it.

But if you just met her and you’re having a conversation, and she’s been nothing but nice and warm?

GIVE HER A COMPLIMENT.

I find the “don’t give her a compliment” camp quite funny because they’re so afraid of coming off like they’re “beta” that they inevitably come off as beta. They’re afraid of some girl thinking, “Oh, he likes me.” Sounds pretty lame to me.

Complimenting a girl makes it a man-to-woman interaction. She knows you’re attracted, have a sexual and romantic interest in her, and are going for it.

Girls respect that purposefulness.

Okay, so why is the title of this article “14 Anytime Compliments to Use on Her Today”?

Because you can use these compliments anywhere and anytime.

The sun is up? Compliment.

The sun is down? Compliment.

The world is ending in an inferno of chaos? Compliment.

You can use it at any point in the conversation.

The first thing you say (the “open”)? COMPLIMENT.

Five minutes into conversation? Compliment.

As you’re fishing for the edge of her uterus with your dick? CUMPLIMENT.

K. Cool. Compliments are cool.

So, how do you give a good compliment?

9 Things Women Want from the Men Around Them

What Women Like in Men
What do women want in men? The “what” is relatively simple; but in a romantic context, it’s also about what you should and shouldn’t give them as a man.

What do women want? More specifically, what do women want from men?

Most of the time when these questions are asked, you get some derivative of “Who the hell knows?” and everyone laughs.

But we’ve figured it out and have it all cataloged here at Girls Chase. We have a pretty darn good idea of what women want from a romantic partner.

We know what women want in the short-term and the long-term.

And we teach you how to become a man who can supply it all.

I’ll go over what women want in this article, but just because a woman wants something doesn’t mean you should give it to her. That shouldn’t sound too revolutionary. If you were to give everyone what they want all the time, your resources and time would drain in an instant.

You should only give women what they want so long as it aligns with your personal values and if it helps you achieve your goals.This might sound like a business framework applied to romance, and it very much is.

But while one should be kind and generous, there are limits to how much you should give if you are romantically interested in a woman. And that’s the departure-point premise of this article.

So, with that said, I'll tackle the subject from the perspective of what women want in a romantic partner, long or short term. I'll also discuss what you should and shouldn't give her, and under what circumstances.

Jealous Women Can Be a Good Thing, If You're a Guy (Video)

A while back, I uploaded a video about your girlfriend getting overly jealous and what to do about it (watch it here).

In that video, I briefly touched upon why a little jealousy from your girlfriend is good, but now I want to expound upon that and explain more deeply WHY her feminine nature leads her to enjoy jealousy.

Now I'll explain how jealousy works in real time and it's ricochet nature.

Watch to see!

Valentine’s Day Survival Tips for All Relationship Types – Even Single

Valentine’s Day Survival Tips
Valentine’s Day tends to throw bombs into relationships, serious and casual. Here’s how to pass the day unscathed – or even pull a new girlfriend from the ashes.

That time of year is coming again – Valentine’s Day! It’s that day that women look forward to all year – or detest when it arrives because they have no one to celebrate with. It’s that day when you can seal a frame with a new girl, or walk away from a relationship gone cold. It’s that day when, if you don’t celebrate enough, you might cause drama; or if you celebrate too much, she loses attraction for you.

It’s also a day that can set the stage for a hedonistic Spring and Summer to come – for men and women alike.

All your relationships can potentially go haywire if you’re not careful to maintain a good frame. As Valentine’s Day approaches, here are some important things to remember this year about how to navigate V-Day. And I'll be discussing how to survive in several relationship types, not just monogamy.

Day Game Tour with Tony Depp, Pt.7: Instant Dates

instant dates
Why wait days for a first date when you can fit it in right now? Instant dates are perfectly normal, and you’ll be surprised how often girls say yes to them.

In Part 6 of my day game tour, I taught you about The High Five Game and how it can help many aspects of your day game.

Today’s article is about instant dates.

If you’ve been following this series, you’ve learned how to approach with direct compliments, indirectly with situational openers, and how to get phone numbers.

But something many new guys overlook in their nervousness is that some girls will be down for a date right now.

So let's go over some techniques on how to get a date with a girl without having to go through the rigmarole of asking her out, getting her phone number, scheduling a date, getting flaked on, rescheduling, and all the other issues that present themselves between the time you meet a girl and your first date with her.

Seriously, why wait days to do something you can get done right now?

13 Date Planning Tips to Plan Awesome Dates

Date Planning Tips
Planning a date shouldn't be complicated. These tips will help you avoid flakes and set up a date that builds a connection and ultimately leads to sex, and beyond.

Good date planning will prevent most common issues – ghosting, flakes, etc. You, of course, will have to be charming, assertive, and be able to hold a conversation if you want the date to go well, but if properly prepared, that will be the only thing you have to worry about.

All these tips will have one of two goals in mind – for her to be excited for a second date, or for her to end up in your bed.

Whatever it is you’re looking for – a relationship, marriage, or just casual sex – it’s all dependent on your ability to get her in bed.

Get sex. Get it as fast as possible. And have good sex.

The root of eros (romantic love) is sex. There is more to relationships than sex, sure, but it is the cornerstone and foundation of all romantic relationships.

If you’re new here, let me be the bearer of good news: the media, your culture, and everyone around you have lied to you, either purposefully or out of ignorance (mostly out of ignorance). I say good news, because at last you've found this website.

Welcome.

Here is the truth.

Women like and love most the men who screw them, and screw them well.

This is why women tend to fall in love the hardest with the rogue bad boys, the rich playboys, the hunky gym studs, or the saucy artists. These guys get her pants wet and satisfy her needs. You don’t need to be any of these, however, and they are stereotypes that no one quite ever lives up to exactly, but the point is – guys who get her wet and glide into that wetness are the ones she loves most (and thus the ones she ends up wanting to date and stay faithful to).

There are many arguments in support of this correlation between affection and sex, but the greatest is that of experience, and the women who have fallen hardest for me are the ones I had sex with. The ones who weren’t that into me were, unsurprisingly, those I failed to have sex with.

I stress this so hard because all of the following date planning tips will be given with the hope that they ease the transition from setting up the date, getting her to actually show up for the date, and getting her in bed (or getting her excited for a second date – but even the point of that second date, or third, or fourth, ad infinitum, is to get her in bed).

If you need more education on these precepts, start here:

Let us begin.