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Calibration Series Pt. 5: Making Assumptions and Calibrating on the Fly

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Before you walk up to a girl, you’re going to make guesses about who she is and how to approach. What signals should you pay attention to, vs. which should you not?

Welcome to the final installment in my Calibration series. If you haven’t caught up on the previous posts, here they are:

Previously, I shared my skepticism regarding different female personalities, types, and archetypes, and their usefulness in pickup and seduction. Many readers assume that calibration is all about analyzing what type of girl you’re dealing with, then proceeding with a certain “method” that fits that exact girl. Well, it isn’t that easy – sorry.

In Part 4, I shared the reasons why I believe such a model is fallible:

  • Recognizing what kind of person she is requires you to spend time with her. This is not possible with cold approach.

  • Recognizing her type and personality is very difficult even if you’ve spent some time with her (through work, school, and other social settings). You don’t really know who she truly is, because you’ve only seen her and interacted with her in one or two settings. I remember back in the day how a particular “Miss Introvert” from class would go nuts when she’s in a club. That was a learning moment for me. I’ve had many similar experiences since.

  • In different settings, you will notice how many sides there are to women. Even if you knew her before, women don’t just experience different emotions more often, they act upon them more than men. In other words, who she is is kind of a fluid concept, especially in a settings that stimulate her a lot (clubs) or social settings that force her to put on a social mask (classrooms).

  • Honestly, when you are in-field trying to seduce, you have higher priorities than trying to perform psychoanalysis and trying to find out who she is. Instead, you have to hook her in, connect, and seduce her. You have limited time, and she has a limited attention span. Pick your tools carefully.

  • Also, this may not be the case for you, but many of us operate in highly-chaotic environments like clubs. As mentioned earlier, such places affect her emotionally, which will have an impact on her presence, but the chaos makes it very difficult for us to judge and discern who she is. And we ourselves will be more stressed, and the chaos will cloud our perceptions.

That said, without contradicting the points above (and the points of my previous posts), I will make a little argument for how using personality types can be a bit useful. However, there are lots of caveats, and the way I personally use them will differ a bit from how others would expect.

After presenting my framework, I will share with you the categories I use. But let’s first lay out the framework of how I would use personality types in calibration.

Calibration Series Pt. 3: Calibrate Your Timing

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Timing is a crucial element of successful pickups. If your timing is off, you’ll often completely blow it with girls. But get timing right, and that girl you want is yours…

Hey, guys! Welcome back to my series on calibration.

If you haven’t caught Part 1 and Part 2, definitely check them out.

Why this series on calibration? Because calibration is so damn key to your success with women. That’s why. It’s one of the most important aspects that set apart intermediate and advanced players. Better calibration gets you more girls (and hotter girls) more consistently. That’s reason enough.

Anyway, today we will discuss timing, a subfield of calibration that is rarely discussed on seduction blogs and forums, yet every time guys (usually intermediate or advanced seducers) discuss their nights out, they always seem to bring up timing (“My timing was off!”) as the most common reason for failure. And “My timing was on point!” is usually among the most common reasons for success.

Again, just like any other subject related to calibration, field experience (successes and failures) is what makes one a master. But you know this already. This post will just speed up your progress to mastery.

Calibration Series Pt. 2: Calibrating to Social Context

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You must calibrate your approaches and interactions to the social context you find yourself in. What’s that include? Exposure, vibe, and appropriateness.

Welcome back to this series on calibration, guys. Last time, we discussed what is, in my opinion, the most important aspect of calibration: calibrating to her level of interest and her overall response to your moves.

This time around, we will discuss another key aspect of calibration. Again, if you manage to understand the concepts and the theories, as well as the techniques covered in my last post, you will do well. I swear. If you also manage to master the ideas of this post, you are already a pretty good seducer, for sure.

But like I mentioned in my previous post, there is no way one can become good at calibration without field experience. By this I mean failing and succeeding. Both give valuable lessons. Do not be afraid to mess up. Instead, jump into it, take a risk. If she doesn’t like it and she loses attraction? Well, as long as you did not cross the line into “overly offensive,” then no big deal, move on, learn from your mistake. And the next time you meet a girl in a similar context, you will be more calibrated.

These posts will serve as guidance to shorten the learning process. It will help you get better at calibration by helping you learn faster from your field experience. These posts will give you an overall idea so that you are not left in the dark, but keep in mind that you can only truly understand the points I am about to cover after having experienced them in real life.

Additionally, when it comes to calibration, there are unlimited nuances (so many that it is literally impossible to cover them all in posts). I can only give you the big picture, as an understanding of the small details are best acquired through in-field training. For example, every girl and every context differs. So many factors play in that dictate the outcome of an interaction:

  • Her personality
  • Her mood
  • The context
  • Your mood

And each of these have almost infinite variations.

However, with experience, you can create a model that has a high success rate.

For real, I have never seen a guy with a 100% success rate, but I know that an average of 1/5 from a club is doable. And let’s be frank, isn’t that more than good enough? It surely is for me.

Calibration Series Pt. 1: What Is Calibration?

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You must know how to calibrate yourself to women to excel with them. This means you need to know how to read her signals, punish/reward, persist, and more.

A few weeks ago, I wrote a post titled “How to Tell If a Guy Is a Good Seducer” where I covered some aspects that, in my opinion, good seducers have in common. One of those was having good calibration.

A few days later, a reader (drfeelg00d) asked the following:

“Calibration: Your game is indirect and based on the reaction of the girls. The examples about calibration that you gave in this article are quite basic (no criticism!)...

For instance, on a macro level:

How do you calibrate considering the girls overall personality (shy, outgoing, experienced, inexperienced, young, old, artist or career type of girl etc…) Do you always stick to the same vibe or do you for instance add some aloofness to it, depending on the type of girl? On a micro level:

How do you calibrate to specific responses to you, say, in the beginning the famous red-yellow-green scheme? Then later, if she denies a compliance test, what if she rejects a frame set by one of your gambits?”

These are very good questions indeed. In my opinion, I believe what drfeelg00d refers to as the micro level is the most important aspect. I will therefore discuss this first and put more emphasis on it in this post. I will discuss what he refers to as the “macro level” in my next post.

This post will be pretty content-packed, and I may go a bit too quickly for some. If that is the case, let me know in the comment section if anything is unclear, and I will make a new post to elaborate. A cup of coffee or tea is recommended before reading this one. That said, I think this post is worth your time, no matter the girl, your skill level, or where you meet the girls.

First things first: Regarding calibration. It is one of the hardest subjects to cover, as the nuances are infinite. The best way to become calibrated is through field experience, which entails failing and succeeding – and sadly, most of the time failing. But the end benefits are worth it. Being a smooth and calibrated seducer is so key, and also something pleasurable to become!

That said, this post, in addition to my upcoming posts, will give you clues and advice that will ease up the process. But again… experience… going out and meeting women… there are no other ways around it.

What Tight Game Looks Like (or What It Should Look Like)

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Tight game in general should be hard to say. That’s for good reason: while flashy game can be attractive, it can also attract a lot of unwanted attention.

Last week, we discussed the difficulties one may face in perceiving tight game – the elements involved and the ability to spot guys who are truly good with women. We also discussed some of the key elements that constitute true mastership compared to simple flash. And no, mastership is not about having that super-crazy routine or having girls react crazily over your approach; rather, it is about calibrating smoothly, making good calls, having your timing in check, and being able to handle logistics.

In this post, we will discuss “why” tight game should not be easily perceived. What are the benefits of being low key? Why is it a good thing that nobody sees you as the player guy? Keep on reading, because I believe this is a key subject that can’t be covered enough. It may have a direct impact on your dating and pick-up success.

How to Tell If a Guy Is a Good Seducer

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There are plenty of “flashy” seducers out there. Flashy doesn’t always (or even often) mean good though. Instead, look for these 6 signs a guy’s got talent with women.

Is it possible to tell whether somebody has good game?

Say you are out with a guy and want to determine whether he’s someone you should learn game from. Or maybe you saw a guy do something you found cool, and you want to determine whether it is working to get him laid. What are the signs that really define whether someone is good, not so good, or downright bad?

It’s pretty easy to spot people who are really bad with women, but finding those who are good is actually harder than one may think. Some people tend to be amazed by certain guys when they’re not actually amazing at all.

Drinking and Meeting Girls, Part 2: Why and How to Drink

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You don’t want to get too crazy with alcohol when your goal is “girls.” But you can definitely drink a bit. How much? It depends...

Welcome back! Last week, I discussed the implications of drinking alcohol in regards to practicing seduction. The post may have expressed a rather negative and pessimistic view, but again, as mentioned in last post (to be emphasized here), having a few drinks is not harmful. You don’t need to go full-blown sober in order to practice your seduction skills or perform smoothly.

The point is to not drink too much (duh).

In this post, I will point out some benefits of drinking. Additionally, I will present some opinions on how your selection of drink affects the perception women may have of you. I’ll also give you a bunch of simple but cool tips that can really impact the way you will experience the nightlife (for the better).

Let’s get right into it.

Before I get to the pointers, I will briefly mention the obvious: alcohol can relieve anxiety – particularly approach anxiety – and make a person more comfortable in social situations. However, I believe it is a crutch. Do you really want to become dependent on booze in order to score hot ladies? Additionally, if you practice “non-drunk,” your skills will improve more quickly.

Some of you may think that on bad nights (nights where you feel anxious), it may be worth having a few drinks in order to get the ball rolling. Usually that is a bad idea, as booze can reinforce your current mood, whatever it may be (and have the opposite of the desired effect). That said, we all react differently to alcohol.

If you do struggle with anxiety, there are healthier alternatives (with better effects):

  • Teas with high levels of L-theanine (Japanese Gyokuro, and Oolongs)
  • Catuaba
  • Red (Panax) Ginseng
  • Rhodiola Rosea (rose root)
  • Cacao (yes, buy some organic cacao nibs! Not the powdered crap!)

However, note that using any of these is still a crutch, as you are still depending on “substances” to get you going. However, they may come in useful when you have bad nights. That is when I take some catuaba and ginseng. And tea is something I always drink!

Drinking and Meeting Girls, Part 1: Drawbacks to Being Drunk

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If you do nightlife, you probably like to drink. But getting drunk isn’t always a good way to meet girls – in fact, it’s usually counterproductive.

If you go to parties, bars, or clubs, you will often be faced with the question: to drink or not to drink?

More specifically, in our community, the question is asked to determine how drinking affects seduction? Drinking is a critical and central part of modern pairing rituals that we find in the nightlife, and is therefore a question that has to be covered and answered. So I decided to give my thoughts in this 2-part post.

In part 1 (this article), I’ll cover the negative effects drinking may have on your dating life. Part 2 (next week) will cover the benefits. This should provide a balanced and nuanced discussion on the matter.

And don’t worry, I’m not going to preach on the moral implications of drinking, such as its health concerns, the dangers of drinking and driving, etc. This post will focus only on one thing – is alcohol good for meeting women?

Bust LMR with Fractionation (and Sidestep Women's Resistance to Sex)

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When women resist sex, it’s easy to get frustrated. But you can beat this resistance (or often even preempt it) with a little dose of fractionation.

Hey, guys. I hope you are doing well. Today I’m going to discuss a very frustrating subject, something that if you can’t deal with can make or break a seduction at the worst possible moment – the last minute before sex.

Last-minute resistance (LMR) is what you face right before you get down to business. You could be in bed, both hot and horny, and just as you make your final move before sex (usually when you try to touch her more intimately or take off her panties, etc.), she resists. In its most simple terms, LMR is “resistance to sex” during the final phase of the escalation process.

Throughout the years, we have published several articles on Girls Chase about LMR. Here are a few:

And a report by me covering a real-life case of last-minute resistance!

This post will cover another technique you can use – in any situation – whether you met her during the daytime, nighttime, social circle, etc. As long as you are at your place, her place, or anywhere you can escalate things in peace, this technique can be used.

Additionally, this technique is rather simple to pull off and not very risky. Sure, as with any technique, practice will generate mastery, but compared to many other techniques, this one is a relatively safe bet, and I would say it’s fit for seducers at all levels.