(4) Advanced

Some men just ooze powerful sexual magnetism. But what is sexual magnetism? How did they get it? The secret is 3 key aspects – but you’ve got to be a bit of a “seduction pro” first.

This article presupposes you already have solid fundamentals and game. Basically, you are intermediate at least – and probably closer to advanced (or actually advanced). If you’re not there yet, feel free to read it still, but don’t worry if you can’t pull this one off yet – you can come back to it later once your game and attractive qualities are more on-lock.

A forum member named Jeff recently asked about how to convey sexual state to girls the way his highly skilled natural friend does. In other words, how to use sexual magnetism.

About this friend, Jeff says:

I have a friend who's been hitting the field for over 10 years.

Dude's a pro - having racked up easily over 500 lays, and between 100-150 in 2019.

Recently, he told me he moved to a new house (in Delhi, India where he's living) and there's a girl on the first floor (while he's on the fourth).

He ran into her while moving some stuff and all he did was have a 2 minute back and forth with the girl without doing anything fancy, and she was ON him - suggesting they should catch up, party, get a drink, etc.

...all the while being married, with her husband downstairs in the house they're sharing.

I was curious as to what he did to elicit such desire.

By that, I mean -

- Girls text him as opposed to him having to do all the work (of course he texts them, but he barely has to do anything)
- Falling all over him in the club within a few minutes of meeting
- Girls throwing attraction signals at him (like the time he was dancing at a dance workshop and everyone wanted to know who he was)

I, on the other hand, still have work way too hard, probably relying on my verbals a lot more than he does.

Sexual magnetism is an interesting topic. It’s a subset of charisma (which I’ve devoted an entire course to, as well as a series of charismatic breakdowns on Hollywood figures, and a set of beginner’s and pro’s guides to charisma that many guys found helpful)… but rather than focus on general charisma, it zeroes in on the sexual variety.

I gave a quick response on the forum thread, but I want to expand upon that a bit here in an article on what sexual magnetism is and how you can convey it.

The ideal time for sex talk is mid-seduction. But some girls resist sex talk – or things may move faster with them than you expect. How do you use it late?

Hi, I hope you are all doing well. Last week, we discussed how to use sex talk during mid-game, when sex talk is most suitable. You have enough rapport and attraction to transition into sex talk easily, and you will not have been in an interaction so long as to set and reinforce a strong sexual frame. As we discussed last week, not escalating the vibe and waiting too long before setting a sexual frame will result in an asexual frame, and if that frame persists, you will reinforce that frame. This makes future escalation attempts difficult and prone to resistance.

You can also set a sexual frame through sex talk during early game and before the hook, but that poses some challenges. It can cause resistance because you are a stranger. We discussed the benefits and how to use sex talk in early game a couple of weeks ago, so make sure you check that post for more details.

The ideal time for sex talk is in mid-game. This phase hits the perfect balance between not too early and not too late. We covered why that works last week. If you are at an intermediate level or new to sex talk and want to use a cookie-cutter method (in my opinion, it’s the easiest and safest way to use sex talk), read last week’s post.

Today, we will discuss how to use sex talk during late game. I will discuss the pros and cons, cover when to start it, and provide some pointers on how to use sex talk effectively and hurdles to watch for.

How do you know if a girl likes what you’ve proposed – or if she’s likely to reject or flake on it? By using retroactive discounts to tell… that’s how.

I’ve had guys asking me lately about tactics for generating buy-in with girls.

So here’s one: it’s called ‘retroactive discounting’. Not my term; it comes from the psychology literature. It’s a name for a tactic we’ve all heard before, and possibly used: you offer to do something, and then couch that by saying you’re not sure if she wants to do it / maybe she doesn’t want to do it.

Like so:

We could grab drinks this weekend. Maybe that’s not your thing though.

Retroactive discounting allows you to recover in real time from an overly pushy or forward suggestion (e.g., one you made before checking her interests or schedule). But more importantly, it wraps a second consideration into your request – one where even if the girl is not available she can still express interest in you and commit to wanting to see you again.

You will use this one most often when you are zipping along very fast with girls (at least that is when I’ve always made the most use of it) – in other words, where you are aiming to do as much as possible in as little time as you can.

Sure, you can tell girls all about you and get a girl here and there. Yet, to seduce MORE girls: become a blank slate women project their fantasies onto.

Your average, ordinary guy dreams of being able to seduce any woman in the world. He dreams of being able to do this by walking right up, saying the right things, and wooing women right off their feet.

However, this dream of his has one fatal flaw: it is that he imagines doing all of it while totally being himself.

You can’t pick up every woman by being yourself. A lot of women aren’t looking for ‘you’, with your unique personality, predilections, and set of interests and desires. Some women certainly are. Many, however, are not.

So if you go around advertising who you are and what you are in unequivocal terms, many women who are on the hunt for a man will decide you simply don’t match their criteria.

If you’re only on the hunt for supremely compatible girls, of course, then this is great! You won’t mind these rejections, because it’s merely a sign that you and the girl weren’t a fit.

If, on the other hand, you are after casting as broad a net as possible – enjoying as much success with women as possible – then you are not going to want to miss out on perfectly good lovers this way.

Thus, if the goal is indeed to seduce more women, instead of advertising yourself as this clearcut, exactingly defined man with very specific features who will only fit the desired types of a handful of the women he meets, you are going to want to do something else:

You are going to want to be the Romantic Blank Slate.

Stack a girl’s orgasms together to enable more sexual fun. Use this tactic to help her cum in positions she often can’t… or to ratchet up sexy thrills.

Want to get a girl cumming in a certain position, but you’re struggling to bring her to orgasm in that position? There’s a simple solution to it: orgasm stacking!

Orgasm stacking is when you bring a girl to climax, then stack more climaxes on top of it. In general, you will find once a woman starts cumming, it is easy to make her keep cumming – including in different positions; including in positions she might otherwise have difficulty cumming in much of the time.

There’s a Chinese saying when it comes to sex that “The ox gets tired but the field does not.” This is meant to say that women are virtually inexhaustible once you get them going in sex; the only real limit to a sex session is the energy of the man. In my experience it’s very true. You can use this to your advantage in sex to stack orgasms, then transfer those orgasms to different positions and experiences with her.

Once you start stacking orgasms, you can get girls cumming in all kinds of different positions.

I should note before we dive in: this article assumes you are already adept at making women orgasm one way or another. If you’re unable to make girls cum in general, see our other articles on sex and start there. If you have a girl who’s resistant to orgasming, see this article on training girls to cum. If you can make girls cum but have trouble with endurance, see the articles on lasting longer and avoiding premature ejaculation. Once you’ve got those mastered, you can circle back to this fancy bedroom tactic.

More considerations to help you pull off your late-closing nightclub pulls. How do you maintain state? How crucial is endurance game? Can you use public transport? And more…

Hey guys and welcome back.

Two weeks ago, I discussed how to deal with early closing hours (venues closing at around 3 a.m. or earlier), and last week, I covered late closing hours (venues closing at 5 a.m. or later). The dynamics in both settings differ, and so do your strategic options. You have less time to strategize in venues that close early and must be bolder to screen out unreceptive girls quickly.

In late closing venues, you have plenty of time to deal with those, and you can run efficient strategies that require more time, like extended verbal game or social proof game.

I also reviewed differences in venue dynamics:

• With earlier closing times, the venue dynamic works for you by providing a peak hour that usually affects people’s state positively. However, these venues offer more wildcards, which are typically negative. A defined closing time gives you plausible deniability to extract the girl from the venue.

• With later closing hours, you have a calmer and more settled vibe, and your results depend more on your work. You will be more in control but will get less for free.

Below, I will discuss the remaining logistical factors to consider with state control, sealing the deal, and providing pointers regarding your strategic choices in venues with later closing hours.

This post continues my post on late closing hours, although those who want to know more about early closing hours may still find some valuable details here. If the venues close late where you live, then this expansion post is for you.

Girls often do things to visibly attract men. Once you’ve hooked a girl, you can look at and touch these things to raise the sensuality of the seduction.

This is a tactic from the old school seducer Lifeguard, from back in the Fast Seduction days. It does a handy job at upping the sexual electricity between you and a girl. It communicates to her that you recognize and appreciate what she’s doing to look sexy. Then, it gets you touching her in these sexual attractor locations – which does excellent things for the seduction.

Lifeguard, if you’re unfamiliar with him, was a confident, muscular playboy who took his handle from his days lifeguarding as a youth. While still a novice he joined a competition with the other lifeguards to see who could bed the most new girls in a summer. Girls did not count if one of the other lifeguards had already laid them. Putting his seductive skills to work, he racked up 50 lays over a 3-month summer, winning him the competition and emblazoning his path ahead as a legendary seducer.

His archive on the now-defunct Fast Seduction forum is well worth reading if you’re curious to learn more. You can download it (alongside other legendary guys’ archives) here.

Today’s Tactics Tuesdays is not about a tactic Lifeguard shared on mASF, however.

Instead, it comes from one of the handful of blog posts he made on the small seduction blog he very briefly ran, long since vanished from the web.