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Guys will move slow with girls out of hesitation, uncertainty, or manners. Yet if a woman is into you, she DOESN’T want you to move slow with her!

Have you ever had a date where it felt like the girl was expecting you to go for it… but you didn’t go for it?

Perhaps there was a potent ‘kiss me’ vibe coming off her, but you didn’t kiss her. Perhaps you could tell she wanted to be alone with you, but you didn’t take her anywhere private or bring her home. Perhaps you did get her alone somewhere, but never made a move – or made one, but gave up when you hit a little resistance.

What happened after? Did you ever see the girl again? Was she as into you the next time… or had things cooled off?

While it certainly is possible to move too fast with girls and rush things, this is not most men’s problem. Most men move too slow.

When you move too slow with girls, you miss escalation windows.

When you move too slow with girls, attraction expires.

I have plenty of times on Girls Chase urged you to move faster with girls.

Today, just in case some part of you is still prone to thinking, “Girls want me to move slow and be a gentleman, though!” I’d like to share some quotes from women talking about guys moving too slow for their tastes.

A girl gave you her number, but doesn’t answer your texts. Why? You have to understand where her head is at – and what your texts are missing.

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In the meantime, let’s talk about girls who give you their numbers, yet do not text you.

You’ve met this amazingly cute girl and, much to your surprise, she gave you her number.

Only now, when you text her, she doesn’t text you back.

Could she have given you a wrong number?

Is she playing hard to get?

Might she just be really busy?

Why did she give her number, but won’t text back?

If she ISN’T interested, it would seem easier to just not give you her number in the first place, no? Why would she give you her number only to ignore your texts?

Alek Rolstad details the early influences on his style of game. Which seducers had the biggest impact on him? See which styles inspired his seductions.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Today I want to talk about my early inspirations and the people who inspired me that formed the foundation of my game. Next week I will discuss my later inspirations.

I’ve developed my own style, honed from creating many techniques, including sex talk. I‘ve developed strategies and concepts like FSC (female state control) and more.

But I have been influenced by other great seducers. Some have inspired me to create my own stuff, others have provided the basis for my material, and some have offered techniques and theories that help my game even today.

I will list my main inspirations from my earlier days, adding what they have contributed to my game. I will critically discuss each contribution by pointing out the flaws in each method (my personal opinions) and how I counteracted these to help my game.

So let’s begin with my first love.

If a girl replies to texts but won’t meet up, what’s it mean? In fact, it can mean several things – yet you’ll need to identify which to know what to do.

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I hope you’re ready to start getting girls texting you back on impulse – because that’s what this system enables you to do (and if you have not seen them yet, check out the free videos on what this system does for you).

For now though, let’s talk about “friendly texter” girls.

These are the girls who will text you back, never ghost you, and are always friendly… yet never want to go out onto dates with you.

What causes this? Are they shy? Are they busy? Are you not asking them out the right way? Are they just too nice to not text you back?

There are a few things to understand about these girls, and girls texting in general, to get a handle on what’s going on with these situations.

From there, we’ll talk about what to do with girls like this in your phone.

In today’s modern, egalitarian world, why do women still want long-term providers? Isn’t that redundant? Shouldn’t women just take care of themselves?

We have a romantically inexperienced member on the forum right now struggling to understand why women want men capable of provision in long-term relationships. Why can’t he just be his “really really cute” and “adorable” (his words) self and let women provide for him?

It might seem to make sense, after all. Women get more college degrees than men these days and, at least before age 30, in many cities (like New York and Washington, D.C.) out-earn men. The sex roles have flipped. It’s time for women to take on the provider role. Isn’t it?

This member in the thread above later argued that because women have slept with different men and are not virgins, they don’t bring enough to the table and do not deserve his resources. Therefore, they should be willing to do the work and bring home the bacon while he kicks around at home, presumably tidying up the house and working in the shed, or maybe the flower garden (after a hard day of “looking really, really cute,” I guess).

It’s obviously an absurd position to hold, but… why?

WHY is it ridiculous that a man could be the really, really cute & adorable, dependent, lovely house husband and a woman the hard-working, doting breadwinner – even in our modern, feministic, egalitarian society?

What does it mean if a girl doesn’t text you first? There are 5 different reasons why she never texts first. All YOU can do is follow your texting process.

I see a lot of stuff online claiming that, “If a girl doesn’t text you first, it means she’s not that interested.”

In articles and videos with this conclusion, the advice to men tends to be something like if she never texts you first, you should move on, and find a girl who’s more interested.

Find a girl who will actually text you first, instead.

Is this actually good advice?

Or is this advice all washed up?

Most guys have ‘signal blindness’ to many of the signs women send. Why is this… and what can they do to start seeing women’s signals and signs of interest?

When I first started coaching men on meeting women, I discovered I had an unusual power nearly none of the men I coached possessed:

I was able to recognize girls’ signs of interest.

Like anyone new at anything, I at first worried about being a bad coach not worth the money students were paying me. However, I soon discovered that simply by directing men to interested women and giving them a few basic things to do, I’d amaze my students.

My more intermediate students could see some of these signs, although often not until I pointed them out. If I told a student like this he’d missed an escalation window with a girl (i.e., a chance to move things forward with her), then pointed out the signs she’d shown that indicated that, he’d nod his head and realize it: “Oh yeah, I did notice her doing that. So that’s why she did that!”

He’d noticed the signs, which means some part of him had learned to pay attention for them… but he hadn’t progressed to acting on them. He hadn’t learned to pounce on such signs.

The guys who were new, on the other hand, were oblivious. They had no idea which girls liked them, or that any did. They could not tell a wildly interested girl from a disinterested one. If you got them into a conversation with a girl opening escalation windows left and right, they’d just keep talking normally. When you asked them why they didn’t take advantage of all the openings the girl was giving them, they’d say, “Huh? I thought she was just talking normally!”

I have sat in on guys’ conversations and dates, helped the guy to pull the girl to another venue, or even to pull her home, all while the guy had no idea the girl was open to doing any of that with him. When we talk later the guy is astounded the girl went that far with him and wants to know how I knew she would.

How I knew she would is simple: girls are constantly signaling their interest levels and openness, and I can see these things… but apparently, surprisingly to me at first, most men cannot.