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Most guys’ knees turn to jelly when they meet a gorgeous girl. There’re two secrets to talking to beautiful girls: be chill about beauty and SHOW you are.

There’s an old Mystery line that goes: “Beauty is common. What’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life.”

The line works splendidly, especially for the types Mystery most often used it on, because these types were/are in environments where they held status and were drowning in drooling male suitors. Most of the male attention they receive is men fawning over their looks. So when a cool guy casually dismisses looks as important, and challenges them to qualify themselves on something else, all of a sudden, the pattern they were in has been interrupted – and often they respond by qualifying or even starting to chase.

But is beauty really common? Actually, it is!

Starting out, a lot of guys don’t realize the commonness of beauty. They instead blow it up. They encounter a beautiful girl and their knees go weak. Then they encounter another beautiful girl and their knees go weak again. Then they encounter yet another beautiful girl and their knees go weak a third time.

The better a man can internalize how common beauty is, the easier it gets for him to approach and seduce beautiful women.

Low value men struggle to get any women at all. High value women ignore them. Low value women pursue high value men for flings. Why must this be so?

Over the years a lot of guys have wandered onto Girls Chase claiming that attractive, non-slutty women are unicorns. These men say such women either do not exist, or are exceptionally rare. Other times they may claim they do exist, but have standards so high as to make them unobtainable.

My experience is that attractive, non-slutty women are abundant. In fact, my experience has been the majority of attractive women fall into the “non-slutty” category. Nor have I found these women hard to get. My big struggle in seduction early on was getting the slutty girls… I could get them sometimes, but I had a much harder time bedding these women with any consistency as a novice seducer into my intermediate years. (the issue of course was attainability. Once I fixed that, I could get the slutty girls too.)

I’m not the only guy with this perspective or who had this set of “problems” (i.e., hot/conservative girls easy to get; slutty, sexually open girls harder to get); many other Girls Chase readers and some of the seducers I’ve known have had this same experience.

What is the difference between a guy who just cannot get good-looking, non-slutty girls at all, versus a guy who struggles to get anything BUT these types of girls?

The answer is his value in the sexual marketplace – because if a man’s sexual market value is not high enough, not only will he struggle to get low value women to commit to him, but he won’t even see high value women as realistic, attainable options at all.

Men fear doing many things with girls: approaching them, chatting them up, asking them out, making moves. Yet the more you do each, the less scary it gets.

I just went zip lining today through the canopy of a rainforest. Many of the trees in the rainforest were absolutely massive, with gigantic, girthy trunks that towered high up into the heavens. Each one of the colossal trees I zip lined off of was most likely hundreds of years old.

The very first time you go on a zip line, it’s a frightening experience. You’re dozens of feet up in the air, held aloft on a steel cable strung between two great trees high up in a mountainous jungle, with only a couple of metal clasps and a pair of cords keeping you attached. A single fall from that height could lead to broken legs, a broken back, permanent paralysis, or death. Then, suddenly, you leap off a wooden platform into oblivion, only to find yourself soaring through the air over the tops of younger, lower trees.

You reach the second platform, haven’t died or been hurt, then clip your gear to the next cable and zip line to the next tree. Then you do that again, and again, traveling across platforms, among the ancient trees of the jungle, slowly descending the mountainside until you reach the starting point some 90 minutes later. By then, you’re an old pro.

But it actually happens a lot earlier than that. By the third line you’re on zipping over treetops, there’s still a little fear there, but you don’t need to conquer it the way you did on the first and second zips. It’s moved to the background. With each zip you do, the fear gets a bit less and the thrill becomes more prominent. By the end of the zip line you’re forty feet off the ground zipping so fast over an ultra-long cable you can hear it buzzing under the stress, but you’re less fearful than you were at the beginning, with a much shorter, slower zip, over ground not nearly as far below you as it is at the end.

The fear never goes completely away. It’s a good thing, really; without fear, people get sloppy and make mistakes. And without fear, you can’t experience thrill – the feeling you get when you confront scary things and do them anyway.

This effect of ‘progressive desensitization’ – where you grow less and less fearful of scary things as you expose yourself to them and find that nothing all that terrible actually happens – is a ubiquitous part of human acclimation. It works this way for all things scary.

So it is with everything that intimidates you about girls, too.

Guys will move slow with girls out of hesitation, uncertainty, or manners. Yet if a woman is into you, she DOESN’T want you to move slow with her!

Have you ever had a date where it felt like the girl was expecting you to go for it… but you didn’t go for it?

Perhaps there was a potent ‘kiss me’ vibe coming off her, but you didn’t kiss her. Perhaps you could tell she wanted to be alone with you, but you didn’t take her anywhere private or bring her home. Perhaps you did get her alone somewhere, but never made a move – or made one, but gave up when you hit a little resistance.

What happened after? Did you ever see the girl again? Was she as into you the next time… or had things cooled off?

While it certainly is possible to move too fast with girls and rush things, this is not most men’s problem. Most men move too slow.

When you move too slow with girls, you miss escalation windows.

When you move too slow with girls, attraction expires.

I have plenty of times on Girls Chase urged you to move faster with girls.

Today, just in case some part of you is still prone to thinking, “Girls want me to move slow and be a gentleman, though!” I’d like to share some quotes from women talking about guys moving too slow for their tastes.

A girl gave you her number, but doesn’t answer your texts. Why? You have to understand where her head is at – and what your texts are missing.

You have just 48 hours left to grab my new “text girls onto dates” system, Impulse Texting. After that, we shut the doors to new buyers… and you’ll be stuck texting the ‘average guy way’. So make sure you pick up Impulse Texting now!

In the meantime, let’s talk about girls who give you their numbers, yet do not text you.

You’ve met this amazingly cute girl and, much to your surprise, she gave you her number.

Only now, when you text her, she doesn’t text you back.

Could she have given you a wrong number?

Is she playing hard to get?

Might she just be really busy?

Why did she give her number, but won’t text back?

If she ISN’T interested, it would seem easier to just not give you her number in the first place, no? Why would she give you her number only to ignore your texts?

Alek Rolstad details the early influences on his style of game. Which seducers had the biggest impact on him? See which styles inspired his seductions.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Today I want to talk about my early inspirations and the people who inspired me that formed the foundation of my game. Next week I will discuss my later inspirations.

I’ve developed my own style, honed from creating many techniques, including sex talk. I‘ve developed strategies and concepts like FSC (female state control) and more.

But I have been influenced by other great seducers. Some have inspired me to create my own stuff, others have provided the basis for my material, and some have offered techniques and theories that help my game even today.

I will list my main inspirations from my earlier days, adding what they have contributed to my game. I will critically discuss each contribution by pointing out the flaws in each method (my personal opinions) and how I counteracted these to help my game.

So let’s begin with my first love.

If a girl replies to texts but won’t meet up, what’s it mean? In fact, it can mean several things – yet you’ll need to identify which to know what to do.

In just two days, my state-of-the-art texting system Impulse Texting hits shelves.

I hope you’re ready to start getting girls texting you back on impulse – because that’s what this system enables you to do (and if you have not seen them yet, check out the free videos on what this system does for you).

For now though, let’s talk about “friendly texter” girls.

These are the girls who will text you back, never ghost you, and are always friendly… yet never want to go out onto dates with you.

What causes this? Are they shy? Are they busy? Are you not asking them out the right way? Are they just too nice to not text you back?

There are a few things to understand about these girls, and girls texting in general, to get a handle on what’s going on with these situations.

From there, we’ll talk about what to do with girls like this in your phone.