Why Girls Don't Follow Logic

Is it that girls are illogical, or is it that by worrying if a girl will follow our logic we forget to inspire them instead?

When it comes to girls, an experienced man knows that thinking outside the box is key to understanding the choices women make, and he embraces this fact because it not only affords her freedoms, but it affords him some too. Great relationships are built upon an understanding of why women need to be inspired daily rather than won over once and expected to then do as you do. Learn to inspire them and get rid of that confusion today.

If you are like most men, you have probably found yourself in this scenario: a girl has shown interest in you, and has indicated she will go out with you, etc., but then when it comes time she is nowhere to be seen or heard from. You call her later: “Where were you?” and she replies with something that makes no sense too you, given your prior arrangement: “Oh, you didn’t call so I assumed it was off.”

What?

To better understand why women do these kinds of things, you have to take on the attitude that accepts the behavior before passing judgement on it. Girls do things like this because, like you, they fear all kinds of rejection and making mistakes, but unlike you, they must consider the social consequences of how each situation “felt” and how it will reflect on them if they act on it. Girls do not reciprocate feelings and actions based on logic because the feeling of each action must be judged independently according to its context at that moment in time.

Throw Out Your Logic

Women must judge how each action feels and take information from it so they can project ahead and decipher what the outcomes may mean regarding their wants, aspirations, and social standings.

If a woman starts to build up doubt inside her, she will become increasingly “irrational”. She will create assumptions that will either make you seem either disinterested in her or incapable of assuring her desires will be met. This leads to that dramatic turnaround we have all experienced at one point or another where a girl just simply doesn’t do what we expected her to.

If you are like most guys you probably assume that each doubt a woman has can be countered by simply displaying or inferring the opposite of her doubt.

However, when you infer the opposite of a woman’s doubt, you will most of the time make the doubt stronger.

It is like Newton’s third law: “For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.”; you push doubt and it pushes back. Instead of making logical arrangements and countering doubts directly (like most guys), you need to create a consistent set of behaviours that continue to set the right mood and communicate the right things independent of her doubts and projections. Let’s call this law the law of conserving momentum, and when you conserve momentum you absolutely reduce the need to address her doubts directly. When we set an example that exists independent of any disruptions, doubt removes itself from the equation, because the momentum allows her to project future outcomes.

Women’s Foggy Memories

The reason momentum is so important is that, after the initial meet, girls can quickly forget why they are interested in you, much like we forget what people look like unless we see a picture of them or see them again in person.

In order to restore the attraction she felt when you two met, you have to remember that part of the thrill of speaking to a guy she met is experiencing how he changes her reactions to the world again. When you are addressing her doubts you are NOT refilling her memory with all the details that make her feel attracted to you.

When you continue to reignite the spark of that first encounter, the woman fills with the same feelings as when you first met, sees similar projections, and will agree to meet with you just like before... but if you let the momentum dwindle and disappear, she will most likely act more irrationally.

As a man, you should make it a rule to never break down and become logical and contest her doubts directly; instead you must always reignite her memory and fuel your continuing momentum so she can continue projecting the same outcomes. In order to avoid a woman forgetting your date, you need to help her feel great again and again and again.

As men we try to “stick with what is working”. This is the right attitude, but our actions must be consistent, not just our intentions. We need to stick with what actions work with girls, and get a girl to feel the same way we did when we first met her every time we can.

Many relationship issues come back to a man trying to use logic to get what he wants, and punishing the woman for not acting in perfect clockwork with needs he believes are logical. If you have ever had a boss at work that told you how you should feel about work, and how you should behave in every minor situation, you can understand how an overbearing micromanager can create a lot of hostility and conflict.

Never make women begrudgingly follow orders, always inspire them to remember the reason WHY you inspire those emotions and feelings of attraction in her every time.

Attraction is the opposite of wanting to follow orders. You have to keep good feelings constantly coming in so that you never lose your sense of upcoming events and how to best address them. Women want to FEEL attraction, but rarely at the price of being told what to do. Women don’t want to work to be part of a role; they just want to play the other part as long as you can inspire them to.

Why Women’s Natures are So Changeable

Okay, so we’ve just discussed why being logical doesn’t work, but, if you are like most guys, an answer isn’t enough. You want to know “why”.

You want to know why she would leave you that easily when you originally had interest in each other.

You want to know why it is that you remember how much you liked her but she doesn’t.

It may seem unfair, but women have instincts that tell them to do this. It at first seems cruel and strange, but as you gain more experience with women it starts to make more and more sense, until you realise that it is actually a GOOD THING and a way of preparing for a much larger problem that awaits ahead.

Girls do not reject you like this because they themselves are dismissive of you, they reject you like this because they can feel what looms ahead in the future if this behaviour is repeated or allowed to continue. And what often looms ahead when we cannot sustain the momentum of a relationship’s energy is it descends into passionless drama. They jump ahead in time and can already feel their emotions and desires being drained by the future relationship, and your attempts at logic seem like attempts to pull them into a destructive and dull relationship!

So whatever attraction you once created is opposed by a looming feeling of obligation that turns this possible hot fling into a long and tedious problem relationship. Risking a bad relationship does not fill them with energy and enthusiasm, it just leaves them in bitter irony accepting what they have to do. If the girl is smart she doesn’t go out on the date, if she is naive she might. In either case, it is important to clarify to women what to expect rather than allow their minds to get into these kinds of doubts and uncertainties.

The reason logic cannot refute her doubts is because logic is very bad at removing a time and energy drain from someone’s mind; charm and a continuing sense of adventure on the other hand is great at blowing it away. This is not only true for her, but also true for you, because when she and you are on a date and she starts feeling drained, it is going to be hard for you to cheer her up if you submitted to a logical frame earlier... but if you kept up the charm you will find it easier to lift her spirits and have her smiling and laughing just like when you first met.

If you keep the present moment jovial, fun, and as bold as ever, the future will always look great and she will not assume the worst about your future but instead will start planning for the best! Because inspiring examples make people believe in positives and forget their doubts.

Girls Need Emotions... Not Logic

To better understand women, I insist that you take seriously that there is an emotional component beyond attraction required for her to be comfortable going out with you. This emotional component can be addressed by becoming an example of positive outcomes and will assure her that your relationship won’t suddenly turn into a job.

In order to totally address a woman’s concerns for an upcoming rendezvous, we need to go beyond our compulsion to be her manager, and we need to instead become a magic mirror that allows her to see a future that is just ripe for the taking. Women generally do not follow up on initial attraction unless a man displays that he can consistently attract her.

So in order to become the opportunity that is substantial enough for her to follow up on, we have to become a source of good feelings for her, and reinvigorate her senses every time we contact her.

Instead of telling a woman what to feel, STOP, and consider that, if she could control how she felt, she wouldn’t appreciate what you can bring to her life. Resolve within yourself to become an example of independence and consistent passion and desire. Don’t get turned off by her reservations, but instead spur yourself on, and inspire her with your unshakable confidence. Uphold the positive mood and momentum without ever having a second thought about what little assurances you might have to give her throughout the journey. Set an example that boldly sees ahead in time and can communicate to her right now how great it will be. Never wrestle her doubts with logic, but instead remind her why both of you have momentum, and spark the fires of her attraction with the little details that can only come from you interacting with her again.

If she looks at you and sees a future she likes, she is going to motivate herself to come and meet you. She is going to stop humming and hawing and she is going to be bold. And she will come on that date with you, not because it is the logical thing to do, but because it is fun, because she remembers why it is fun to hang out with you, and because these little bumps and rocks in the road don’t bother you!

Overcome your need for her to be “logical” and just inspire her to come out instead.

Cody Lyans