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Meeting and Dating Submissive Women

Meeting a woman who will follow your lead, take care of you, and maybe even cook a delicious meal every once in a while is the dream for most men.

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However, with the direction that social dynamics are heading in the West, this is a dream that is slipping away from the hands of most men. So how do you find submissive women? What’s it like to date a woman who will go out of her way to please you? And why is it so satisfying to have this kind of woman for most men?

These are the questions that I will be tackling today.

Colt WilliamsAbout the Author: Colt Williams

Raised in the American Midwest, Colt Williams made a name for himself in dating with a style based on soulful poetic seductions and playful dance floor antics. His style is all about inspiring girls and drawing them into one’s world. You can book phone coaching with him here, or get a copy of his guide to getting laid on Tinder, the product of months of study and experimentation by him on the medium.


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Dante's picture

Great article Colt!

I have a question for you and Chase. In Chase's article on life purpose and meaning he mentions that we should all try to fit children into our future plans because eventually our biology will take over and we'll want to settle down. So, if/when you guys have children, do you plan on eventually teaching them all of these different aspects of the social and sexual arts and will you do it differently if you have daughters?

David Riley's picture

Hey Dante,

I sent Chase an email with a link to this particular question.

Just Dave

Chase Amante's picture


Yes, of course! With daughters it'd be more of a "here's how people operate, here's how men think, here's what it means when men are doing this" conditioning so that they can see right through it from early on. How does she stay in control in the mating game and sort through the men who are putting on a show to get into her pants and achieve what she wants to achieve with them?

A woman can be very powerful if she understands men inside and out. She can also be very good at choosing a top caliber mate, and then guiding and nurturing his ability to produce and achieve. A big part of being very successful as a woman is in being the dominant female with a piercing understanding of human (and especially male) nature, and the ability to hold and use leverage over men prudently. She should expect that passion will decline throughout the relationship, as nearly always happens, yet be proficient enough at wielding leverage that even if he runs off to have liaisons with other women (as powerful men are wont to do), she's always the one he comes back to, and he'd drop the other women in a heartbeat if if meant choosing between them and her (if it risked exposing her to social humiliation, for instance). Meantime, she'd need to always be careful to maintain herself, so that if she needed an exit plan (e.g., he becomes a total insensitive dick), it wouldn't be hard to find.

I think the training for a woman is to be her man's righthand person and closest advisor. Properly trained, she's absolutely invaluable. If you look at some of the most successful women in history, they've been kingmakers; women whose partners had meteoric rises with them at their sides, then fell the moment the woman left, only for another man to rise with her now at his side. Meanwhile, you want a son to be trained to be as effective at making himself a great success by himself as possible, though a great woman will always be a great addition to that picture. But he should count on the risk of a mistress coming to light or something of that nature that risks the relationship and forces him to go it alone for a time, and he should be able to endure that without missing a beat.

(all of this assumes you're raising children from an "achieve great things" standpoint than a "be happy every day" standpoint - raising them to lead greatness-focused lives rather than leading them to lead happiness-focused ones. If you want to raise children to lead exceedingly happy lives, you'd want to do things differently - I think most people try to raise their children to "be happy", although I can't say how sound the child-rearing models most folks follow are because training children to be happy isn't really a concern of mine; if a child's focused on that, well, by the time he's an adult I'll already have trained him how to run business and make money easily, so I suppose he can always go cash in his millions and go live out his life on an island in the South Pacific... or whatever happiness-focused folk do to maximize pleasure for themselves once paying the bills is no longer a concern ;)


bill's picture

im older than you but you should have been my dad lol mayby I would hav learned how to succeed in life.

Spicedrum's picture

Chase and Crew,

Men, I need your help. I’ve followed your philosphy of GirlsCase and my fundamentals are tight enough. I have a career, hobbies, family and friends (I’m 47, divorced). Unfortunately, I found myself in a whole lot of mess.

The deal: I’ve become high intermediate. Women are drawn to me (22 to 53 years of age) submissive, aggressive types, married/relationship types. Seriously, I’m able to get them to chase me! Men want to know how I manage to meet so many women and consider me cool (I direct them to GC). I’m having a blast and have four “friends with Benefits” relationships (they know of each other; but, have not met). And everyday, instictively, I meet another that may fit the bill and set dates up. I’m not looking for long term relations. When I’m out and about I have trouble choosing which lady to pull because they show interest. I found making friends with women old, young, fat, skinny, tall or small helps to meet even more. A topic que, “Friendships with women for even more Preselection”.

So now, my time is consumed with hotties and I even had to call in sick to work; because, I was super tired (that’s why I’m writing now). My passion is to please them all. Any advice to reign this power in? Or how you guys keep the attention from consuming you?

Taking a big bite and savouring it all.


PS To you gentlemen that may be starting to follow GirlsCase, this S*#T is for real! Be careful.

David Riley's picture

Hey Spicedrum,

I'm glad to hear about your success with women and I wish you more success in the future. Balancing women and a career can become very challenging especially once you get really good with women. They become addicted to you and want to spend a lot of time with you. I wouldn't say pull back the power, this sounds more like a issue with time management. All you have to do is just limit the time you spend with women. Just let them know that you can't afford to be calling off sick all the time. Let them know you're having fun with them, but you have to focus on your career to. The biggest thing is letting women know you appreciate them, but you're focusing on other things at them moment. This will aid you in keeping things casual for awhile without her pursuing a relationship as hard with you.

When you set up boundaries in a relationship even if it's just a FWB, it sets the a good precedent with women. Because you're communicating that you're going to do ABC for her and not XYZ. Whatever you communicate with a woman is what you're gonna want to follow through on. Keep doing what you're doing Spice! Sounds like you're on your way to becoming one of the greats.

Take care,

Just Dave

Confused Mind's picture

I am currently quite confused about the mindset of the guy I am currently seeing. Both of us are in our mid 30's. I am pretty inexperienced when it comes to dating. I got married when I was 20 and was married for 12 years. After that I had a 3 year long relationship with my ex-boyfriend whom I recently broke up with. And now, this guy. Basically, through my adulthood, I have only been in 2 relationships.

He seems to be a genuine, honest, no game playing type of guy with a very rough past. From the get-go, he said he wanted to have a family and children. (So, I read into this that he is interested in a long-term relationship?) He was/ is VERY attracted to me. We have great chemistry going. He told me he would always be honest about us whether the truth will hurt or not, and will always consider my feelings before he does something that could hurt me. He said he wanted me emotionally and physically. He wants me as a whole person. Everything about me, he wants to know. But I don't know if his intention has changed since then.

We met while I was working as his real estate agent. His sister was the one who referred him to me. I have not heard any negative things about him from his sister or reading his Facebook comments (stalkerish, I know, but I wanted to get a feel of what type of guy he is).

It has ONLY been a month and half since we started to talk. I also have to add that we already had sex several times. However, due to circumstances, we have never been on a date (hopefully, this weekend?!). But I was invited to his sister's daughter's birthday party and met his other sister. I have also met his long-time friend. I have 2 children with whom he gets along with really well. He has a very busy work schedule (he works 2 jobs) that whenever he gets to be home, he would sleep.

My gripe is that it takes him forever to text me back (talking about 45 min. or 3 hours sometimes). He texts me at least once a day to tell me about his day and asks me about my day. However, I prefer for him to call. But he rarely calls. How serious would he be if he prefers to only text? At the beginning, he used to send me sweet texts and links to videos of sweet songs, and he texted me pretty much all day, but now just once a day.

He has been going through a big stressful changes in his life and he was depressed for 2 weeks of the time we have been seeing each other - he was pretty much keeping to himself. During the time while he was depressed, he did text me to apologize for being so distant. I told him that it is understandable for a person to feels this way when he/she is going through such a stressful change in life.

I don't know if this is the reason why it feels as if his enthusiasm has dropped considering the decline numbers and frequency of texts or he actually does not expect more out of us.

He has opened up to me and showed his vulnerable side regarding his past, childhood, past relationships, losses of loved ones etc. He has been done wrong by a few of his ex-girlfriends and closed friends. Do men tell these kinds of things to every woman?!

Our conversations are always about him. He never asked anything about me and my life. Another point that makes me thinks that he is not really interested.

I worry that I would just be a sex buddy to him at this point since we haven't yet been on a date. Though he never booty-called me at night. And when we have sex, we would spend time together afterwards. I understand his schedule is busy. And I know he has so much going on his life that had been his focus since before he met me. But if a man wants a woman, wouldn't he want to make time?

I just don't understand this man, his angle and his intention. I do not know whether I should drop him or whether I should bring up my frustration and talk to him about the status of us or whether I should just ride it and see how it all will develop. I'm so confused.

FVSU Wildcat 14's picture

@. Colt Williams,

I was alarmed by your message. Then I said he is just trying to get a rise out of women. Hey, you were a bit disrespectful to women and want you to know that a gentleman does not think and act like that.
After 18 years of marriage, I have not cheated on my wife. All men don't cheat. Seek some help.

You give males a bad name.

Ami's picture

My wife is 29 and very submissive, but she is too shy to accept it.
We are Indians but do travel. Please let me know if anyone can help.

Alexander Rose's picture

Love this article!

Andrea's picture

Hello everyone, are there any good dating sites, chat forums or ANYTHING anyone can recommend for me to try...I have seen the typical...sites...but maybe someone has a better idea? Thank you! (canada)

LR's picture

Bitchy men are dominant. Anyway men would rather go out with good girls than jerkettes who want to want to trample their hearts. No man wants his heart to be trampled by a dominant bad girl so he prefers a submissive, good girl instead. For men being loud and bitchy protects them from being hurt by women.

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