In my previous article here, "You Really Should be Having Sex", about the importance of closing things out with women regularly, Wes comments:
“Those ARE reasons enough for me to sleep with a girl who isn't completely amazing but still, HOW do you get turned on by these girls?
Back in June, I had two girls over on separate occasions. Both weren't amazing and I was doing it for the practice. The first girl, I couldn't even "get it up" and i fingered her until she was done and didn't want to go on anymore.
The second girl, I made out with at a pool party and quickly led it to her coming over. I wasn't attracted to her body at all. The only thing pretty was her face and she had nice hair and I couldn't see myself ripping her clothes off and having sex.
I ended up making an excuse for why she needed to leave instead of trying to escalate.
Don't get me wrong, I was telling myself the things you said above but, that doesn't get me hard.
I didn't want to be rude and tell the girls that they need to turn me on. They'd probably get offended. "So you're saying I don't turn you on?! You think I'm ugly?!"
During your years of taking women to bed who were anything but amazing, what personal tricks did you use to "get it up"?”
That's a very good question, and one I want to handle in a post targeting two dual and related reasons that men have for not finishing the last half-mile of the marathon and moving from physical escalation to full-on intercourse:
Not being turned on, and
Performance anxiety kicking in
Let's talk about both.