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How to Build an Emotional Connection

build emotional connectionAn emotional connection is one of those fleeting, powerful things that can seem all too rare and all too outside one's control. It can seem like it's just chance when you happen upon one -- as if but by the grace of God it came into being.

But it doesn't have to be. Just like succeeding with women in general -- just like figuring out how to launch businesses and succeed financially -- just like anything in life -- the ability to build an emotional connection is something that can be learned.

Most people don't like to hear that. Most people want to think that all in life is pure happenstance and nothing other than fate determines the outcome of their lives. But those of us actively in pursuit of bettering ourselves and of mastering the skills to control our own destinies know better -- that a lot less in life is chance than most folks think.

A lot of it is skill.

And learning to connect with people on an emotional level is one of the most powerful, practical, wide-reaching skills you can possibly learn. If you haven't given much thought to this one before, it's high time you started.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Anonymous's picture

This worked great with a beautiful young lady I was interested in. We had many things in common. She got presumptuous and began whining & nagging about her car repairs. I was a gentleman throughout yet she felt perfectly entitled to tool me!! How would you treat her inappropriate request? Oh I forgot to mention this demand was asked of me after the third date...

Chase Amante's picture

Hey Anon,

Sorry to hear about things going south with your girl here. How you respond to unreasonable requests is a bit of a balancing act -- tell you what, I'll get a post up on that real soon, probably today some time. Keep an eye out for it, and I'll throw a comment up on here linking to it too.


Author Cindy Lucy's picture

This is good advice! It sounds like it's coming from a real person. And real people can be hard to find online!

Anonymous's picture

I just want to say that you are awesome. Thanks for your articles!

Shontelle's picture title....

Words –they wouldn`t sound out
Those feelings shouted loud
By the heart and soul ,now - so broken

Lips – they wouldn`t be strong enough
To give the feeling a path
Living through love - so unspoken

Hands – they wouldn`t have right to touch
But far from such
A warmth –warmth so close yet so distant…
Two of us – resistant
to love………….

Lost Souls ,with all their flaws
With untouched touch and a kiss-unkissed
Meld against all human laws

I must confess
When time goes by –won`t love you less…

Those two short words
got stuck between my vocal cords
creeping out with few heavy tears
Cutting through eyes like two swords…
So cruel it appears
for the feelings so deep and so strong
.... I`ve lost the One grain of the Golden sand
of this love that seemed to be wrong
On my tormented shore I`ll stand
singing in silence the song
of Good Bye
Life goes on...
...but first makes us cry........

Ben's picture

Ok I saw this but I am kind of confused. I saw another dating tip newsletter that says that connecting is bad to attract women, that it turns them off, and that DISCONNECTING in a "bad boy" way is more effective with women. Please share your views on this. Thanks.

yogurt's picture

Troll will troll.

Anonymous's picture

Hey Man, I just want to know if this othering would happen if you are being in the moment with a women? and also listening to her intently and providing feedback to her questions.

J.R.'s picture

Don't kiss up to women and agree with them. Be your own man. If a woman doesn't like you or you don't like her, move on to the next one. Sometimes you don't feel it with a woman. It's okay. Don't be fake or agreeable jso she can like you. She won't.

Louis 's picture

Hey Chase, so I read most of your articles and really worked on myself. And for the first time in my entire life, A GIRL ASKED ME OUT! She couldn't wait for me to ask her out so she just asked me out herself! I personally thought it was crazy. Now, we went out, and made out with her in the back of my car on the first date! Anyway after that we cruised around for about 10 minutes then I had to drop her home because she had to study for exams. She told me she'll text me or whatever I said sure and she just left. She didn't text me at all. So I text her 3 days after the date) and here is the exact conversation:

Me: Hey hey. Just got back from my friend's party. How's the studying going?
Her: Lol its good
Her again: How was it?
Me: It was good, how are you?
Her: I'm really busy now :P
Her again: Studying! I'll try to talk to you later :)
Me: Haha alright good luck :)
Her: Thanks!

Its been 4 days ever since we texted ^ and i'm not chasing her or anything. She's the one who said she'd text me later right?
See the problem here is I ACTUALLY LIKE HER. LiKE A LOT.
I'm not saying oh i'm only going to focus on her or anything no no..
It's just that I actually do really like this girl and... well... I don't know...
I ALSO feel like I spoke too much and acted over confident, which I don't think is a good thing so I was nervous you know? Couldn't help it this girl is beyond beautiful.
Any advice for my position Chase? I owe you man.

Anonymous's picture

I'm a woman so let me tell you just because she asked you out first doesn't mean you should wait around for her to make the next move! It's up to you now. She only just opened the door, now you be a gentleman and hold it open. She doesn't want to feel like she's chasing you and probably believes if you liked her, you would have asked her out already. Its more up to the men to do the chasing so its definitely ok for you to chase! I see that was months ago so I hope someone else gave you this advice and I hope things worked out for you.

Anonymous's picture

the reason i say this is that because i am the person who always seem agreeable with girls. It is like I don't have my opinion and always agree with what the girls said to avoid disagreement. After sometimes the girls found out about this and said I am fake because I am the guy who just seeks consensus and not voicing the truth.

Anonymous's picture

Hey I'm dating this beautiful girl 5 * and now she said yes for6 but it's a hesitant yes matchmaker pushed she says she is not connected enough to me and I'm really into her how can I make her feel more connected to me I'm a little nervous thanks...

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