If you've paid much attention to the men that women gravitate towards, they're pretty much all assholes.
Yeah, sure... deep down, they may actually be good guys. "An asshole with a heart of gold", for instance.
But, they're still assholes.
If you yourself are not an asshole though, adopting some of the traits of a guy like this so you can be an asshole can seem like something of a mountain to climb... society keeps telling you not to, but women's obvious mate selections over and over again keep telling you differently.
In "How to Spot a Girl Looking for Men", Michal asked about the path to embracing one's inner asshole:
This kind of question usually never pops up so I am just gonna ask. How do I become more like a jerk or an asshole? I am too friendly basically, because parents and such always told me to be kind and polite and nice. Ugh! :-s
I dont want to seem as an ass at the end but... I have been trying to be more playful lately, trying some wit and I experiment with my female friends and they seem to enjoy it OR dont get it. And when I meet new girls I am this little kind person again because I dont want to seem awkward.
So how can I stop being viewed as this "kind and good hearted man" who "has no evil in his soul" as I once heard and have better personality that women respond to as if I was a man. Not friendly boy?
My fundamentals are bad and I am working on it but this is my biggest flaw right now. I am ok to have female friends, but I dont want every girl I meet to feel like I am her long lost friend from childhood.
Any possible advice? I guess move faster and dont miss "the windows"?
Thanks in advance.”
Let's talk about jerks and assholes, then - and what it takes to be one.