While women present themselves as reserved angels, the truth is they’re naughty little sexual imps – more so than most men.
Hey team, I know it’s been a little while. I hope you all have been doing well in my absence.
I have been having a lot of conversations lately about sexuality. And today I want to talk about something that very often surprises men who don’t have very much experience with women – and it still surprises some men who do!
It’s the fact that women are far dirtier, hornier, and more sexual than you could ever believe.
I’ve had the pleasure of being surrounded by a lot of women in my time, some of whom I’ve been romantically involved with and many of whom I haven’t. Some have been absolute bombshells, and some haven’t (though still attractive for the most part).
But the incredible gift and advantage of my situation has been that I’ve been able to glean a lot of perspectives on life, sex, and romance straight from the horse’s mouth.
It’s funny how honest a girl will be with you if you create an environment in which she knows you aren’t going to judge her. And if you have a few women in your life with whom you don’t have any sexual interest or chemistry, then she will feel comfortable being that much more honest.
So I want to share with you five statements that I’ve heard from countless women at different points in time about their kind – some of which have even surprised me.
I have found most of these statements to be applicable to nearly all of the women I’ve talked to at one point or another. However, there is a very important caveat to these statements that I will talk about after I share them with you.
And you *must* remember the caveat in order to get anything useful from this article.
Here we go.
There’s room in her caboose for two.
I was once on a second date with a girl I was seeing a few years ago. I had taken her to bed on our first date at my place, so on this second date we found ourselves in her bedroom early on in the night. We had just returned from dinner and were deciding what to do with the remainder of our evening.
She was a really chill girl, so I didn’t feel the pressure to have to go on a fancy night outing. After a few minutes of back-and-forth, she said, “You know, I am just really tired tonight and am not feeling like going out. So why we just put on a movie?”
I acquiesced and she handed me her computer.
I opened a browser, went into the location bar, and started typing in Netflix....
As soon as I typed in the first word, the auto-fill was populated by a litany of porno links. I mean, it pulled up more porn sites than you’d find in the cache of a 13-year-old boy’s laptop.
As I quickly scanned the titles, I kept consistently seeing “dp” “2v1” “3v1” and “gangbang.”
At that moment, I just burst out laughing.
“So this is what you’re about,” I said with a sly smile on my face.
She caught on immediately. Her face flushed red as a cherry and she snatched her computer. “Nobody told you to snoop!”
“I wasn’t snooping! It found me! I won’t tell…”
“Whatever. I’ve never done it before! But yeah... I think about it.”
“Oh yeah? Is that one of your secret desires?”
“What do you care?”
“No really, I want to know.”
“Well... kind of, yeah. I’d love to get double-teamed or ganged. There’s something really exhilarating about being the center of sexual attention.”
I spent the rest of the night pondering her words.
Since this exchange, I was determined to corroborate her statement with other women.
And I’d say with about 8 out of 10 women I’ve talked to, this has in fact been the case. I asked them if they would do it with multiple guys.
They said things like: “If nobody found out, I would do it,” “I took on 3 guys at Burning Man. But that was the only time I’ve done it,” “I would never cheat on my boyfriend or anything like that, but if he had a twin or close friend we trusted... then absolutely.”
I was surprised to learn with such consistency that this was a desire of so many women. It was not something that I figured would be the case, as so many women present themselves as being much more conservative. But as they say, appearances are deceiving.
We’ll get back to the importance of how these women framed their answers at the end of this article.
Best of all, she gets paid to do it.
I was talking to a girl about a year ago who had recently gotten out of a relationship. From what I gathered, it didn’t seem like she and her boyfriend had very much sex. She didn’t classify herself as a particularly high-sex-drive woman.
But then one day… we were having a phone conversation where she said something really interesting.
“Colt, can I tell you a secret?”
“It might sound a little weird…”
“Well, I’m a pretty good listener, I’d say. No judgment.”
“Okay. Well, even though I don’t consider myself to have an especially high libido, my boyfriend could just never really satisfy me. I could honestly have sex a couple times a day. We barely did it once a week. So now I am going crazy. I sneak off to the bathroom almost every day at work and masturbate.”
I expressed my appreciation for her comfort in being so open with me. In my mind, I kind of laughed it off as just an anomaly or strange situation.
But then I started dating a girl just a month or two after this conversation. And one day she started sexting me out of the blue and telling me how horny she was.
This was nothing too crazy, but as I was busy in meetings and such, nothing really came of it.
I saw her the following night and she made a casual side comment during an unrelated conversation: “Yeah, you know, work has been really stressful. And you just weren’t around yesterday, so I had to go into the bathroom and take care of myself.”
“You mean you jacked off?” I laughed
“Hey, a girl’s gotta do what she’s gotta do.”
I was speechless for a second. It was déjà vu.
I couldn’t help but ask, “Do you think a lot of girls do that?”
She paused for a second, and then smirked.
“A lot more than you think,” she remarked. Then she quickly changed the subject.
I gathered from these experiences and a few others that even women who consider themselves middle range in terms of sex drives have much higher drives – and more immediate needs – than a high percentage of men.
Vanilla guys won’t try this with her.
I was once walking along the beaches of Southern France with a woman I’ve known for a couple of years. She was one of my professional colleagues and we were there for a conference. She and I began by discussing the experience, but before too long, after too many glasses of Bordeaux, we began playing “Never Have I Ever.”
After exchanging a few standard stories and responses, I said, “Never have I ever had sex in public.”
She put a finger down. I raised my eyebrow with surprise and intrigue.
“I absolutely have. More times than I can count.”
“Well, you have to share a story now.”
“Well, for example, I was once walking around the city late at night with a guy I was dating at the time. And he and I discovered a construction zone. I don’t remember whose idea it was at this point, but we decided to go into it and have fun. One thing led to another and we did it in a forklift.”
“Really?” I asked.
“Yes. And it got wilder.”
“Well, things got especially steamy in the middle… and he was finding random things to tie me up with and to whip me with. But anyway… I can’t count the number of interesting places I’ve done it in.”
“Oh yeah. In fields, in strangers’ hot tubs (she would sneak onto other people’s property and do it in their hot tubs!), in alleys. I love that stuff. I think a lot of women do. It’s a very exciting feeling. I think a lot of women secretly desire to do that stuff. And a lot of us really like the feeling of being dominated, despite what feminists might tell you. I love having a man take charge. I love feeling his force and strength come over me. I love getting abused. I think we all do.”
And you thought she was dreaming about princess castles.
We were sitting in the grass together. It was a beautiful summer evening and the sun was beginning to nestle itself into the mountains and over the horizon. We had just finished our picnic meal and were sharing a beautiful glass of Zinfandel. She began caressing my shoulders. As her fingers begin exploring my body, she slid them down my midsection and over my slacks. She then took hold of the contents of my pants.
“I’ve been waiting for him to come out and play,” she said.
At that moment, mesmerized by her sea-green eyes, I was seized by both exhilaration and pure curiosity. “Let me ask you something,” I replied. “Do you actually notice a difference between penises?”
“Absolutely. All women dream of big dicks. There’s no better feeling than having one fill you up or be in your mouth. Think about that the next time you look at a girl. Because I bet it’s crossed her mind at least once that day.”
And those were the last words we exchanged with each other for the evening.
“Or maybe the actual number? lol no”
I was lounging around a couple of years ago with a friend the morning after we had spent the night at a house she was taking care of. She had a little party the night before; she ended up with one of my friends in a wine cellar, and I ended up with one of her friends in an upstairs bedroom.
Our respective friends had left, and we were enjoying a lazy late morning recounting our tales. My friend was a “one of the guys” type of girl. We had a running joke in our group of friends that she hooked up with guys – not the other way around.
At this point, I knew that she had hooked up with quite a few men. But I was really curious about what her number actually was. So I decided to ask.
And her response was enlightening.
“I don’t think I’ve ever been honest about the number of guys I’ve f*cked.”
She continued: “When girls ask me about my number, I say somewhere between 10 and 12. When I’m dating a guy, I say something between 7 and 9. But you and I have known each other for a long time, so I don’t mind being honest with you. I think the number is really somewhere close to 40.”
Women are masters of their own social perception and understand the consequences being thought of as being too easy – especially by other women.
But you must understand that, unless you are a man who is able to penetrate through all of the veils and walls that women put up, you will likely get pulled into her deception about the number, type, or even depravity of the sexual experiences she has had.
The interesting thing that I’ve observed is that most of these statements were made by women who I would classify as “innocent.” With the exception of my friend who was “one of the guys,” most of these are women appear be very bookish, aren’t particularly social or popular, dress very conservatively, and don’t go out very much.
She’s probably thinking about big dicks right now.
And on the flipside of that, when I talk to the girls who seem more promiscuous, they are often the more conservative ones! Not always, of course, but I have certainly noticed that girls who seem like they might be promiscuous – or even have been promiscuous in the past – are often the ones to make guys really work for it, to lead guys on, and to keep it pretty standard between the sheets because they “aren’t that kind of girl” or (in their mind) they’ve “been there, done that.”
So it’s often the girls who seem like they are too classy for that kind of experience who actually want that kind of experience, because they don’t want to miss out on the fun. Women are masters of deception – never forget that.
Some men might take this article – or their knowledge of women’s true sexuality – as license to say or do whatever they want to women they meet. That’s not going to work. That I assure you.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had girls I’ve dated call me up and say something like: “I had a guy walk up to me in my neighborhood today and say ‘nice skirt.’ And then I smiled, said a soft thank you, and started walking. And then he got in front of me and said ‘don’t walk away, bitch, I’m trying to talk to you. Maybe we can get somewhere and eventually do something about that pretty skirt.’”
This kind of stuff is not only somewhat sickening to practiced hands like myself, it also just makes me shake my head. I think to myself: “In what world did this guy think that was going to work?”
Even the most experienced guys can’t get away with tactless overt sexual advances (especially in broad daylight). Women don’t like that. They need mystery. They need finesse.
So, are women sexual hedonists? Without a doubt. But they will only let out their sexual animals for the right guy. They need a high-value man. They need a strong man. And they need a man who is not going to judge them or force himself on them. They need a man who will make her chase.
I also can’t count how many girls I’ve called my “dirty girl” or the like who have replied: “only for you.” And some of them actually meant it. Because they only want to unleash the uncontrolled beast for the men who can handle it.
So keep refining yourself, keep approaching, keep looking to take her to bed. And don’t… for a second… doubt that there’s a sexual animal waiting to be let loose.
Be the man who has the key.
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