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How Women Think (and Why It's So Different from Men)

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Lately I’ve been writing a lot of posts alluding to various aspects of the female psyche. This is mostly the result of a lot of deep diving I’ve been doing with lovers and female friends. So, I decided to write a comprehensive post about how women think about their own entire world – about life, love, and of course… sexy men.

Getting into the mind of a woman is no easy feat; it can be really difficult for guys to understand where women are coming from, because they do think much differently from men. And their social expectations are also much different from men’s. So I’m going to give you an inside look into the female mind, which I hope will help you understand how women perceive you, and help you take your game to the next level.

Colt WilliamsAbout the Author: Colt Williams

Raised in the American Midwest, Colt Williams made a name for himself in dating with a style based on soulful poetic seductions and playful dance floor antics. His style is all about inspiring girls and drawing them into one’s world. You can book phone coaching with him here, or get a copy of his guide to getting laid on Tinder, the product of months of study and experimentation by him on the medium.



Anonymous's picture

Been following your site for a couple of months now and I am amazed how you guys keep offering quality material. Great stuff mate!

Insights like this one really help me have a greater understanding and allow me to better express my qualities towards women.

Keep it up.

Màrcell's picture

Nice text, Colt.

First of all, sorry for my english, I'm latin.

I just want to tell you guys about my case, so maybe you can help me, it has to do. I'm 20 years old and since I was 17, I started to take seriously abour seduction. What i've achieved is some social awareness, an improvement of my body language and looks and understanding womens mind a little bit more than before. When I was like 16, i got a crush in my university and as you can imagine I screwed up with my amateurness, since then I tried to improve myself in this and 3 years later, I know when women look at me (there are not a few), when they are interested and when i'm doing something right or wrong (cold reading), i'm not a SEXY man, but i think i'm halfway of that, but...there is no girlfriend and no sex. I'm a virgin. I think thats the fact I hate most of myself, because, i met girls that were kind of interested in me and i rejected them (mostly indirectly) and those who i like, i never get the chance, cause, i'm still shy (not like before at least) so there's no real results for me. I just can't seduce a woman which i'm not intersted, i tried and i simply can't, maybe because i never slept with a woman, i don't know, and what it's more frustrating is that, i start to think that i won't be a seducer and i wont have many girls in my life, and that dissapoints me, i know that this is not true (nobody knows the future) maybe are the hormones, i dont know...

So i summarize most of my life in that and i hope you guys can give me an advice to that, i will really aprecciate it.

Cheers and the best wishes to you all.

loveable loser's picture

Go find some articles on bieng a sexy man.
Internalize what you need to work on subconsciously and digress.
What is it, like:
Conviction- knowing that you know
Masculinity- having the value of a dominant man
Sexual Awareness- being in touch with your masculine sexuality.
So on and so forth
Read some articles on the mindsets and attitudes all successful people have when it comes to socializing and business, like:
The Devil May Care attitude
The Natural Mindset - take more pleasure with sleeping with multiples of women
Absolute Abundance mentality
Practice is key.

Anonymous's picture

Keep in mind this almost only applies to women in the west. If you live overseas then women will not always have this same sort of mentality.

Marty's picture


Thank you for this mindset-changing journey into the life of a woman. Some of the experiences and feelings you describe are so unfamiliar and seemingly alien, it's quite shocking—indeed it's a marvel that we inhabit the same world at all.

One aspect that never ceases to surprise me is how much earlier everything takes place for the female sex. Barring extreme cases, a 20-year-old male is a mere boy, a nobody. A 20-year-old girl is every man's dream. But just 10 years later, the situation is very different for both concerned. Girls are already accustomed to male attention at an age when guys (I hardly wish to say "men") don't really know what female attention is.

The combination of this dynamic with the natural state of the sexes whereby the woman has the passive role of chooser and decider, while the man has the active responsibility as proposer and aggressor, leads to seemingly bizarre yet common occurrences where a woman barely out of school, with negligible apparent life experience, is seemingly "passing judgment on" a man who's lived all over the world, achieved success by society's standards, borne duty and responsibility and is accustomed to command over other men. Yet it happens every day, because her life experience does exist—it just takes a very different form. And she picked it up at a time when her male contemporaries were still playing pranks on one another.

One issue confuses me. You say that women were "not designed to have sex with scores and scores of men". Your explanation for this is understood, and the biological and evolutionary reasoning is familiar to me. But then, in your consecutive tableaux of a woman's life, you seem to imply the opposite: "She learns that she can pretty much have as much sex with guys as she wants"; "She still has plenty of sex with guys"; "She’s exhausted from all of the sex that she’s had". I am beyond confused. Which is the true picture—the theoretical one based on sexual selection, or the one from your illustration?

Thanks again!


shyguy's picture

I am curious as to what Colt's answer is for this question but I believe that the most obvious thing to say is women still love sex with sexy, attractive men. They than usually hope that this sexy, attractive man is adventurous and long-term lovable so she can accomplish her life-goal of having a dominant male validate her and support her. Just because having sex with males brings on greater risks doesn't mean she's going to be celibate, she's just going to make sure the risk is worth it.

I'm still a noob in this whole thing mostly because of my lack of drive when I have opportunities to talk to girls; but I read a lot so I think I can at least give my 2 cents.

Anonymous's picture

Empathy (or putting yourself in another's position) is important - no question. In many aspects of life have been doing it recently and it has been valuable - going for jobs, getting cooperation from family etc. its been really useful.

Can empathise with women somewhat, but still can't convince me that men as a whole don't have it more difficult than women as overall groups. Women are the biologically more valuable sex due to the only-one-baby-every-nine-months factor - this is indisputable. More women are generally attractive to men than vice versa. Further, this article explicitly states that women need to provide less to meet a mans desires, than what they need to provide a man. Going further, she acquires her value that men desire as genetic gifts. The trait of characteristics a man must have are earned through trial, effort, time, mistakes and rejection.

Through each of those phases of life you talk about, males face similar, mirroring pressures but are always facing the fact that they have to be in the top few to have the equivalent social value of even reasonably attractive women. In fact, its pretty easy to counter for each female pressure a more difficult male pressure - while women have people nice to them for no reason in their adolescence if they're attractive, at least they have not had to put to much effort into it (only maintenance). The only time a male of that age will get noticed to the same extent is if he's a football star etc. (hard work, talent). A 9 in any city is essentially on the same level as a George Clooney in this regard.

You forget to mention also that women are also quite happy to use their beauty to manipulate and extract from others to satisfy their egos. Its much more difficult for a man to do so unless he's Mr Celebrity.

So men as a group are required to demonstrate more value, must work harder for that value, are faced with the reality that only a small percentage of women will find them attractive and gets less in return. While women may spend long periods of time without their 'sexy guy', they do accrue value in the interim through validation/attention. Men don't. Provided they wisely manage their 'assets', women's 'return on investment' can dwarf that of a man in the dating market.

The problem in their 20s is they can get egotistical as a result and think it will last forever. However, this is THEIR fault and their responsibility - NOT SOCIETY. I really wish this portrayal of women as passive respondents in every aspect of life would stop.

The truth is men are judged much more harshly in life.

Bob's picture

Interesting blog post with a lot of horseshit thrown in. There really are fundamental differences between men and women and they can be boiled down to more fundamental terms than above. If men constantly think about sex, what do women constantly think about? Status! Do you make her friends jealous, or not? They don't love the way men do. Men do fall in love with women, the physical, external living breathing entity they see before them. Women love themselves and their children and love what a man can do for them or what a man represents, it's not the same thing. She loves the idea of how good she looks standing next to you. Why can women move on so quickly? Because men are just accessories, not something that has intrinsic value. If your not filling a role in her endless pursuit of higher status, she has no use for you. Your personally makes little to no difference to a women, if she's being honest.  Who you are makes little to no difference to women, if she's being honest. You're just a piece in the power games she plays against other women. Be an asshole, lie, cheat, steal, talk to her like she's stupid, if you have "insert hard to obtain.status symbol" you will never have a hard time getting laid. And that's the truth.

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