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Do You Really Need to Learn Game to Get Girls?

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learn gameA reader recently contributed another comment to the article "When Women Test Men." Like many of the commenters on that article, he balked; "Why should I have to learn how to deal with women's tests? Women should simply like me for ME, and NEVER test me!"

In one way, I sympathize. It's no fun feeling like other people are putting you under a microscope, examining you, and that you're being inspected to see if you meet their requirements.

However, the element of learning how to automatically pass the tests you see from women - that's things like:

  • Her asking you loaded questions about yourself

  • Her putting up resistance to dating or sleeping with you

  • Her giving you drama in a relationship

... is more or less one of the key foundational elements, all boiled down, of learning "game."

And when you're first learning how to deal with tests, they can be hard, and they can be confusing, and they can make you feel helpless, and they are not a lot of fun.

But, is it perhaps possible to just skip learning how to deal with all these feminine things, and just screen for and get women who don't act like this?

Can you opt not to learn game... and still find success in mating and in life?

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Hubaro's picture

Hey Chase, I really love your (and the other writers of this website) content, but I'm having my doubts right here.

"My friend is not a bad person. She's a good person."

All while she's trying to lure a man in for marriage when she's clearly not apt for it. Unless she's earning more than him, it's more likely than not going to end with them getting divorced should they get married. I don't know what line of reasoning you use here to call her a good person. Perhaps she's altruistic? Maybe she's compassionate? That's alright, and in general would mean she's a good person, but what she's doing right now is pretty much called "toying." She's toying with someone else, and will lead that person to financial and emotional ruin, unless she (fat chance of something like this happens) decides to split it off without trying to plunder his wealth. I know it seems like a lot of flake, but you're generally a really logical person and I kind of want to see the logic behind applying the term "good person" on that woman. I dare say such a thing reeks of sophism.

Bob's picture

This is a very helpful article, however, with no examples of particular scenarios I could not manage to fully depict what you are trying to say. I do wish to change and be dominant but if I understood correctly, the article states that I must do what people want in order to pass their tests, wouldn't that not be so dominant and would actually lead to failure of tests?

Furthermore, at work there's this girl and whenever I ask her to come help me, she'd just say she's busy and can't or that I could do them myself, any ideas on how I can manage this situation please? Whenever I try to be dominant, people depict me as being negative or I'm trying to be possessive because my voice is loud etc. I may be messing things up here but I'm confused; when I try to do the same to this girl at work, she gets mad and eventually others too tell me to go help her and claim that I don't want to do my work when clearly I would be doing her work too. I need your help on this one please.

Finally, I know that one has to be open minded but I could not understand what you actually tried to imply by game; I do not know how I can learn game with an open mind, not enough information given there. I would really appreciate a few more realistic scenarios so we could get a better picture of this game. I'm rather new to this stuff as you can probably tell and I do wish to get some good advice from an experienced guy such as you in the things ,entitled above. Thanks a lot for your time and support mate! Email is

Paul Frischknecht's picture

Wow, this is actually a beautifully deep piece. Thanks Chase.

mike's picture

Hey Chase, good article dude. Let me add some words to your article to help increase its SEO value and rank it higher in Google...


But one thing you said caught my eye, namely saying "it's not my job" when it comes to women. I want to be perfectly clear with you and maybe some other readers.

It is my main mission in life to look after myself. Chasing things around that don't like me as I appear: timid, confident; courageous or frightened; anxious or relaxed; doesn't matter. Whatever the case may be I absolutely, positively refuse to chase women even 1% of the time.

That said, I really do feel as though "learning game" is more or less learning more efficient ways to chase women around who otherwise wouldn't really want to date you. Do you follow me so far? That's not even on my priority list radar.

Gay you ask? Nope. Asexual you ask? Nope. Refusing to chase my tail around in circles for women? Yup.

See the thing for me is, if I never get to enter my penis into a vagina again for the rest of my life, who gives a fuck? I certainly don't. I've had sex, I know what it feels like and I know the positive and negative aspects of it. Why would I willingly "learn game" when I am perfectly happy accepting whatever comes along my way? 

If I never met a woman again for the rest of my life, I wouldn't care. If they wanna chase me around, great, if not, you wouldn't catch me dead chasing a woman down. 

Let's be clear about something though: When I say chase I really do mean chase as in placing more effort into an interaction than the woman does. This goes for the beginning when we're meeting, and throughout the relationship and can include texting more than her, contacting her more than she does, making plans more often, and saying to her that I love her first. Those things are massive NO-NO's and to me, this means "chasing".

But I do like to read your website, and have for a while, because "game prinicples" are really quite fascinating to me and why people choose to employ them.

This is all just my opinion and it's probably very wrong. Have a great day!

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