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How to Be Persistent with Girls Without Looking Desperate

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It’s a proven fact that persistence gets you laid, but there is a fine line between being persistent in an attractive, dominant way vs. coming off as desperate.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Today, we’re going to discuss persistence and its limits. Persistence is a technique commonly used when facing resistance with women. It’s a good way to both:

  • Counter her resistance

  • Find out whether she is resisting or just not into you

The typical rule says persist three times, and if that doesn’t work, you should back off and consider her behavior a swing of rejection, unless she reinitiates on her own. Obviously, this rule should be broken if you face heavy resistance. You know, the type of behavior that screams “Hell no!” If you encounter those signals, you need to back off fully.

Persistence is attractive because:

  • It takes away the woman’s guilt about hooking up – she initially resisted, but you convinced her. This is a good way to counter anti-slut defense-related resistance.

  • It shows you’re a man who knows what he wants and is confident enough to go for it.

  • It displays dominance, which is also attractive.

There are a lot of misconceptions regarding dominance. Many guys usually confuse persistence with neediness. The line between persistence and neediness – which we know is death to female compliance and attraction – is a fine one that can be difficult to see.

So, let’s look at how to persist the right way without coming off as needy. Some of these points have been discussed before, but I always think recaps of key concepts, especially those which add different perspectives, are useful. Additionally, newer guys will benefit a lot from this post.

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Jamie brady 's picture

Hey, I know this may be quite a stupid question but it’s funny I came across this article. 

I recently just just got caught cheating by my girlfriend. Gave her an sti. I had 8 partners on the go literally just following a bit of advice from this site. 

I literally got to the verge of the desperate stage trying to get her back and she kicked me out of the flat telling me I’m a no good cheating lying piece of shit. 


I dont meant to sound sound narcissistic but is it possible to get her back with time? Or do you think I should just leave her alone. ? 

Alek Rolstad's picture

Hey there. You may want to ask somebody else about this as I don't do relationships. 

Sorry to not be of help. I would personally just ignore it and meet other girls. But that is obviously not the answer you are searching for. 



Pablo Garcia's picture

Getting caught cheating is a hard slap in the face for anyone. You have to remember that you brought it on yourself, if you would had a condom on with your hookup this situation would not have happened. I’m sure you are well aware of this fact but it’s still good remembering it so you won’t do the same mistake in the future.

Getting a girlfriend back is a issue many of us who coach men get and it’s not a easy one. Your ex girlfriend wanted to have a monogamous relationship with you because she was in love with you. That means she have feelings for you and right now she is feeling hurt by you going behind her back and fucking other women. 

If you want her back you should man the fuck up and tell her you did wrong straight up. Then not contact her until she is reaching out for you. If you are not clingy and accept the fact she may not contact you again there is a chance she will contact you again, then you will have a shot with her again. For now give her space and don’t contact her at all. Remember most girls are not angry you fucked someone else, they are angry you did it behind their back.


Just some piece of advice



Jamie Brady's picture

hey Alex, thanks for your feedback anyway. 


As for Pablo, your advice is exactly what I did. Gave her her space, she contacted me today for the truth and I gave it to her raw. She wants to meet me in a few days but now I’m not sure if I ever want to get back in a relationship with her as I’ve got a few new girls now. I still want to sleep with her though, maybe I should just leave her alone. Thanks anyway guys. 



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