How to Get Real Girls

get real girls Recently while scanning the good old Internet I came across a number of posts where guys talk down on beautiful women as being "shallow" and "bitches" and wonder about how to get "real girls." This seemed a little jarring and I like to cut myself off from negative stuff whenever possible, so I navigated away from those guys' pages.

But the thought was in my head: what is a "real girl?" Because to be sure, everyone defines it a bit differently.

A guy who sports a few tattoos and works construction might mean "a girl with a few tattoos herself who likes alternative rock and WWE" when he says "real girl." A guy who was a bit of a nerd in school and is a computer programmer now, on the other hand, might mean "a girl who appreciates sarcasm, digs anime, and plays WOW" when he says "real girl."

So who's right? Well, in a way, they both are – and neither of them are. Because what determines whether a girl is "real" or not isn't whether she rocks tattoos, surfs the web, or even whether she gets her hair dyed and her nails done or not. What determines "realness" runs a little deeper, and if you want to know how to get real girls, you need to know first what "realness" really is.

Chase Amante

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Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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This article is a bit of an

Posted by Gijs van S. (not verified) on Wednesday, 19 October 2011

This article is a bit of an eye-opener to me. I like your idea of approaching girls you wouldn't normally approach! (or, in general, hang out with people you wouldn't normally hang out with)

I realised that, at least for me, a lot of the feeling of "fakeness" comes from inability to have good conversation with some people. For example, I hardly watch any Hollywood films, hardly listen to popular music, detest celebrity news and think fashion is mostly a waste of time. That obviously eliminates a lot of common ground with a lot of people. But actually, I should maybe look a little bit past that. I mean, common interests are great, but being able to have good conversation shouldn't depend on them.

The other thing is perhaps the irrational fear that people would find me strange, me being a vegetarian art-loving physics nerd :). Which is irrational indeed, because most people actually don't find that so strange at all, in my experience.

So, as an experiment, I'll try to get to know as many people as possible who are vastly different from me. Challenge accepted!

(by the way, this site is fantastic. Keep up the good work!)