Seduction

In Part II of the sexual tension series, Alek lays out prerequisites, rules, and tactics used to build sexual tension with women.

Hey guys, and welcome to the second installment in this series of articles about sexual tension. Last time, we discussed the pillars of sexual tension, which are:

• Intrigue
• Mystery
• A sexual state of mind
• A state of limbo
• A natural thing between men and women

We didn’t get much into how it is created or maintained. But now, with the theoretical groundwork in place, you know what sexual tension entails and how you can identify it. This knowledge will, of course, help you generate it, but I believe more practical tools are required to be able to generate sexual tension on command – and do so consistently.

So the way I plan on describing this is to first discuss some quick important factors so that I can dedicate the rest of this post to the most important and most juicy skills. This post will focus on creating sexual tension and will be a purely practical post. My next post will be about how to maintain it (equally important), and will also be purely practical.

Shall we begin?

Two steps forward, one step back. It’s the magic technique that lets you bypass almost all of her resistance… And it’s not hard to do.

One of the more enduring seduction strategies, and one you’ve seen discussed on this site plenty before (especially in some of Alek’s articles), is that of “two steps forward, one step back.”

You may call it push-pull or fractionation. Or you might call it the zigzag path to victory (victory here being, needless to say, a new lay or new girlfriend). Two steps forward, one step back is, on the surface, a crystal clear, simple system:

1. First, a bold move forward (e.g., you place your hand on her lower back)

2. Then, a partial retreat back (to, say, your hand on her upper arm)

3. Wash, rinse, repeat: go bolder still next time... then another partial retreat. Then again. And again

With this method, you may gradually acclimate a girl to touch, proximity, innuendo, or just about anything else. Yet as simple as it sounds, it is a major mindset shift. To use it well, you must shift from the typical mindset of “gain a toehold, then hang onto it for dear life.”

To help you do this, today we’ll talk about the method, and introduce you to the psychology.

Then, we’ll load you up with examples till you’re plum happy.

Sexual tension is a potent magnet for the girls you most want. But what is it, and how do you generate it? With intrigue, limbo, and more.

Hey guys, and welcome back. Today I will stick to the plan and delve further into the non-verbal aspect of seduction. That being said, all my recent posts on the subject should already contain enough information to get you laid, as the most crucial basics were covered – not to mention all the additional cool tricks I tossed in to increase your odds:

• 3 Body Position Phases When You Talk to New Girls
• Eye Contact Seduction: Basics and Advanced
• Why Touch is Vital to Girls and Dating
• Calibrating Touch to the Girl You're With
• Advanced Ways to Touch Her on Dates and Pickups
• The Kiss and Other Mouth Moves in Physical Escalation
  

Now prepare yourselves – the upcoming posts will be more advanced and more complex in nature. Not only will we get into more advanced (and perhaps even vague) concepts, we’ll also get more into the details. If you aspire to make your overall non-verbal game tighter, then these posts are for you.

Some of these posts may also be useful for those of you who desire more interesting and pleasurable seductions (many forget that the seduction process can also be something pleasurable instead of purely instrumental!).

So today I will discuss sexual tension – a powerful thing, yet a very vague concept. It is a very hard thing to explain, but once you experience it with a girl, chances are you will hook up with her. So let us in this first post try to demystify the concept, then in the next post discuss how do create it – and more importantly, control it. Let us being by covering what sexual tension is.

To save a failed open or a stalled date, use ‘over-the-top romanticness’. It’ll put a smile on her face and reset the tone of the courtship.

Here is a fun little technique, just in time for Valentine’s Day.

It’s what I dub ‘over-the-top romanticness’. While something of a niche tactic, it is fun, and it provides a bit of a resistance-buster.

With this behavior, you can melt the resistance of otherwise-icy girls... And you do so in a way that gets you having a lot of fun as well (so no matter how she responds, you end up in a better mood).

This is a tactic that opens up ‘negotiations’ with girls, which means (if you’re a half-decent ‘negotiator’) you can carve out a shot with girls you might otherwise not have access to.

Further, it serves as a ‘get out of jail free’ card for those situations where you thought you might have blown it, broke the spell, or otherwise flubbed your chances with a girl.

First, I’m going to show you what this is. Then, I’m going to show you how (and when) to use it.

How you use your mouth impacts physical escalation. When and how you kiss her is key, as are some of the other mouth moves you make.

Greetings, fellow seducers!

Today I will continue with a very important topic in my series on physical escalation. There is no doubt that no matter what form of seduction you may prefer – whether it is day game, night game, social circle, or online – you must eventually escalate the vibe and lead the process to its end goal: sex. In probably 90-95% of cases, physical escalation will be required before that can happen, which is why I not only put a lot of emphasis on the subject... but also why I keep discussing the subject.

We have so far discussed (in my recent articles):

• Fundamentals of escalation – covering all the whys (primarily why it is useful)

• The theoretical foundations of physical escalation

• Calibration – how to escalate in a smooth way

• Additional escalation techniques to increase efficiency

This article will go further by discussing the use of your mouth in physical escalation. The previous posts covered primarily the use of hands as a tool of escalation. One can, of course, use any body part (appropriate for the context) as long as there is touch.

For example, pressing your full body into hers is something really powerful and strong. Or your legs touching is flirty but also hot. Anything goes, really, as long as it is hot.

Today we will talk specifically about the mouth, as it is a common tool of escalation… kissing for example. Kissing is a common thing, after all. But we will also cover other techniques. However, let us begin with kissing.

When’s the last time you grabbed a girl’s ass? There’s a good way to do this – and you needn’t wait till she’s your girlfriend, either.

She doesn’t see me immediately as she walks out of the metro. I’m laughing to myself as I stare at her, waiting for her to recognize me. But she did get lost a few times trying to find me, so I’m sure she’s a bit disoriented.

It’s when she is about to pass me that I speak up.

“Hiiiiiiii.”

She looks at me, shakes her head in surprise, then laughs. “Oh, hey!”

Silly girl. She apologizes again for going to the wrong coffee shop the first time. I tell her it’s no biggie, and we walk to grab coffee. After we order, we sit and wait. I blatantly look her up and down, and she smiles curiously at me.

“You look so sexy,” I say to her.

“Thank you!” she says, giggling.

She’s an alternative girl – piercings, tattoos, and a super independent attitude. She’s also German, so stoicism is standard for her. Our first interactions at the hotel she works at involved a lot of teasing and me kind of dominating the room, but that’s only the penultimate strategy for a girl like this. They love to be challenged by cocky assholes, but with every woman on the earth, there is one strategy that reigns supreme – the lover.

“If I get distracted during our date, it’s because I’m staring at you, just so you’re aware,” I say, smiling.

“Okay!” she says, laughing. Girls never know how to respond when I make statements like that, and it’s great. They have no reference point to draw from, because I’m unlike anyone they’ve ever met.

Tao is the Eastern philosophy of emptying one’s cup. It has a lot to teach about seduction… Namely, about domination of seduction, vs. submission to it.

Editor’s Note: this is our first post from Michael Chief, a long-time veteran of the seduction community. Michael kicks off today with an inner game focus, about the Tao of seduction. Please let us know if you enjoy inner game oriented articles like this in the comments below the article, and if so we’ll try to do more of them. –CA

Every seducer worth his mettle knows that great Casanova quote: “I don’t conquer, I submit.”

We know that the true power of seduction is to submit to the higher power of nature within us as opposed to trying to control nature with our own will. But that somehow paradoxically gives us greater seductive abilities, or so it seems.

Seduction is full of paradoxes like this, such as the ever-famous paradox of desire: the more we want something, the more difficult it is to obtain, and the less we want something, the easier it is to obtain. In pick-up, we translate this to mean that neediness is unattractive and that women are more attracted to us when we practice non-attachment and are genuinely not needy.

While such paradoxes can often prove to be challenging to understand, let alone understandable enough for us to use them to guide our lives, there is an ancient philosophy that gives us a tool to help us in our quest to become the best seducers and lovers we can possibly be.

That ancient philosophy is called Taoism, and the tool is called Wu Wei.