Girls, Social Proof, Herding, and Copycat Hookups
Most girls are inveterate copycats… Especially when it comes to
when, where, and whom to hook up with. But you can leverage this
herding behavior to your advantage.
Articles by Author: Chase Amante
How to Get Past the Bouncer (and Get into the Club)
To get past the bouncer and make it into the nightclub, mind the
5 aspects of the GET IN club entry system: girls, expenses, trouble, +
2 more.
The worst club entry experience I’ve had was at a place in Las
Vegas. I found myself stuck outside the venue, pushed to the side,
while everyone else in line – who’d gotten there much later than I had
– was allowed to march right in past me. I was dressed well (better
than many of the people who got
in) and looked good. But I’d made the fatal mistakes of getting there
too early, and talking to a poorly dressed, low status guy in line...
And the
bouncer exiled me to the side of the queue as a result. After standing
to the side watching other people march in for twenty minutes, I
finally stooped to bribing the bouncer to get in – something I’d never
done before and haven’t done since.
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After this incident, back home in San Diego, I made getting into the clubs I wanted a priority. I picked up a VIP card that let me cut the lines at most of the venues in town. I rolled with people who knew people. And I went out of my way to befriend bouncers and club staff again, something I’d neglected since my early days in clubbing.
Before long, my outings often consisted of the opposite of that Las
Vegas experience. Throngs of other club-goers would be stuck in a
slow-moving queue as I marched past them, flashed my ID at the bouncer,
and stepped right in. Some of those club-goers – girls especially
seemed to hate watching me get in while they had to wait – would yell
about fairness, or spoiled elites, or how assholes like me needed to
wait in line like the rest of ‘em. And I’d just chuckle and bear these
folks no ill will, because I’d been in their positions plenty of times
before.
If you enjoy the nightlife regularly, in any major metropolis, entering the club will be a major concern of yours. So today, we’re going to cover all the various ways you can gain entry, or even skip the cover charge, and not have to worry about getting stuck outside.
Tactics Tuesdays: 7 Awesome Ways to Ace Women's Tests
Girls test when they want to gauge a man. But not every test
warrants the same response. Here are the 7 ways to respond in the face
of women’s tests.
Tests are a major irritant of many guys new to dating. Yet despite covering tests extensively, and giving you plenty of tools to deal with them over the years, I haven’t assembled a proper end-to-end guide on acing these.
If you’re new here or need a refresher, read these articles on tests (and why women use them) first:
- When Women Test Men
- Do You Really Need to Learn Game to Get
Girls?
- 29 Things that Make a Woman Resist or Rebuff You
- Why Do Women
Test? To Find Dominant Males
The tests we’ll deal with in this article are lighter tests. i.e., put-you-on-the-spot type tests. The kind where she is not trying to reject you yet, but she is turning up the heat. For recovery from hard tests – where she out-and-out rebuffs or rejects you – see this article:
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If she’s testing you in any way other than ignoring or rejecting you, however, this article will serve as your guide to seven (7) terrific ways to hurdle over her tests without pulling your hamstring.
You will notice as you read through these a common theme to all but the very first and, to a certain degree, the very last way: you respond to her tests by teasing her. She tests, you tease. She tests, you tease.
When a woman tests, what she’s evaluating is your reaction to her tests, to better gauge what kind of man you are. Do you flip a table over? Do you turn into a mound of jelly? Or do you brush her tests aside while you tease and flirt with her?
In all but the most serious cases (where she has raised a genuine problem), you’re best served to make light of her attempt to put you on the hot seat.
Now let’s unpack those seven (7) ways to ace women’s tests.
The Perfect Date is Romantically Fun
The perfect date is the right kind of enjoyable. Not platonic,
friendly fun – but romantic, sexual fun, instead.
Six and a half years ago, I wrote about Why “Fun” is a Seduction Killer, designed to wrest you out of the ‘need to please’ mindset on dates so many guys carry about. That is, lots of guys will try their darnedest to make dates an absolute blast for girls... And end up constructing dates that are too contrived, too entertaining, or that violate our five Cs of dating.
I’d like to add a corollary to the “don’t make dates super fun” rule now. That corollary is this:
The ideal date is one both daters enjoy themselves in a sexual and romantic way.
If both daters enjoy themselves in a sexual/romantic way, there’s a high likelihood the date will end well. Either with a kiss and with the desire in both partners to see each other again (at which point you may use date compression), or with both partners falling happily into bed (at which point first-date sex is achieved; now you just need to convert her, assuming you’d like to see her again).
What’s the difference between a too-fun date that is fun in a platonic way, versus a mutually-enjoyable date that is fun in a sexy/romance-y way? That’s the distinction this post is about.
Urbanization, Romantic Anonymity, and the Birth of Game
Game – a male strategy to date and mate with women – is a
phenomenon that emerges naturally in complex, organized, crowded
societies.
In 2 A.D., Roman poet Ovid published his three-piece work Ars Amatoria, the first two books of which deal with how to find, bed, and retain women.
Ancient Shang Dynasty poems and love songs weave details on how to seduce in with their descriptions of the romances they retell.
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In 374 A.D. Augustine of Hippo picked up women on
the streets of Carthage,
and would share his exploits with wingmen who picked up women too.
Casanova traipsed through 18th Century Europe carving notches into his
bedpost. The ancient world was filled with men who studied ‘the game’.
There’s always resistance to the idea of men learning and practicing game.
Some folks will tell you it’s unnecessary – you’re supposed to just
know this stuff. It’s preprogrammed into you. Others will tell you it’s
immoral; why can’t you just pick one girl and settle down? Still more
men will tell you seduction is a misguided pursuit that takes you away
from your role as a man, or from greatness.
Yet despite the critics, this skill set of meeting, seducing of, and sleeping with women pops up again and again throughout history – most recently beginning in earnest in the 1990s of our own age and civilization.
For something so many people will tell you you do not need, why does game keep resurfacing?
