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Tactics Tuesdays: Recovering from Botched Escalations to Sex

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By: Chase Amante

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When you try to have sex with a girl, but fail, often that's it: you won't get another shot with her. Yet all is not lost with her – you still have options.

Failing in your escalation to sex is, often, a kiss of death.

You were inches away from intimacy with a girl... and then you didn't reach sex.

Perhaps you started to kiss her alone at your place, but she broke things off and left. Or you got her clothes partly off and had your hands on her body, only for her to get up, dress, and depart.

What's more maddening still is the power dynamic shift that occurs after a failed attempt at mating like this. She cools off to you dramatically... while you go crazy trying to get her back!

It's nuts. And it drives you nuts.

How can she be so cool toward you when the two of you were so close to intimacy?

In today's article we'll talk about a few tactics to attempt to turn things around in these sorts of situations. We'll also talk about why, from a strategic point of view, unless the girl is an absolute keeper, it's often better to take at best a few more shots, yet be ready to walk away.

14 “Anytime” Compliments to Use on Her Today

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By: Hector Castillo

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A good compliment goes a long way with women. But to give a good compliment and have it be effective can take a bit of know-how. Here’s everything you need.

I love to give a good compliment. It makes me happy to compliment girls, because if I’m not being brazenly honest with someone, I’m uncomfortable. I have to be like that.

Plus, it’s so beautifully polarizing to compliment women. It’s the epitome of strength, in my opinion.

All of that “oh, never compliment a girl, because you’ll make her think you’re just another loser who’s chasing her” nonsense is exactly that – nonsense.

Are there times when you shouldn’t compliment a girl? SURE.

If she’s being a snotty ho with her nose in the air? Don’t compliment her. She doesn’t deserve it.

But if you just met her and you’re having a conversation, and she’s been nothing but nice and warm?

GIVE HER A COMPLIMENT.

I find the “don’t give her a compliment” camp quite funny because they’re so afraid of coming off like they’re “beta” that they inevitably come off as beta. They’re afraid of some girl thinking, “Oh, he likes me.” Sounds pretty lame to me.

Complimenting a girl makes it a man-to-woman interaction. She knows you’re attracted, have a sexual and romantic interest in her, and are going for it.

Girls respect that purposefulness.

Okay, so why is the title of this article “14 Anytime Compliments to Use on Her Today”?

Because you can use these compliments anywhere and anytime.

The sun is up? Compliment.

The sun is down? Compliment.

The world is ending in an inferno of chaos? Compliment.

You can use it at any point in the conversation.

The first thing you say (the “open”)? COMPLIMENT.

Five minutes into conversation? Compliment.

As you’re fishing for the edge of her uterus with your dick? CUMPLIMENT.

K. Cool. Compliments are cool.

So, how do you give a good compliment?

Beware of Girls It's Too Easy to Meet!

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By: Chase Amante

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Some girls make themselves easy to meet as a part of their dating strategy. But you should beware of these girls yourself... because when you meet them, YOU are the target.

A friend of mine in a country new to him went to an expatriate meeting not long ago. He's a guy who keeps himself attractive and is otherwise good with women, so he's not hard up for dates. He noted how the only truly attractive women at this expat meeting were the wives of male expatriates present. All the single/available women were unattractive, or older; single mothers; and so on.

This called to mind a general mantra I've hewed to over the years: beware of girls it's too easy to meet!

I don't mean girls who are 'easy'... as in "she's so easy to sleep with."

I mean girls it is easy to meet.

The easier it is to meet her, generally, the farther down your batting average you do if you go dating her.

How to Enjoy Sex As a Beginner (Video)

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By: Hector Castillo

Are you new to this whole sex thing?

Ladies and gentleman, this is for everyone.

It's okay if you are new to sex. Been there. Everyone has. Hell, I couldn't even keep my dick hard once it came time to put on the condom the first time. Took me MONTHS to finally fuck my girlfriend once she was ready.

That was hard enough (lol), but then actually having great sex? Took a lot of practice.

But I did do one thing right from the beginning, and I'll teach it to you in this video.

Sex is fun and very healthy. If you want to have good relationships, sex is the cornerstone of those relationships.

And sex is, yeah, it's AWESOME because it's awesome.

Shouldn't need to sell you on that, right?

So let's make you better and have you enjoying it more!!

How to Be Bold with Women in a Sexy, Calibrated Way

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By: Alek Rolstad

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Boldness wins games. When it comes to picking up women, this is especially true. But you need to calibrate your boldness to the girl. Here’s how.

Last week’s article focused primarily on clubbing and how you should maximize your results despite dealing with the roughest and toughest time of the year – namely, when it's super cold. In that article we discussed everything from:

  • Venue selection
  • State control
  • Overall pick up strategy

When we discussed overall pickup strategy, we mentioned how being bold is a good call in the winter, and I’d like to expand on boldness in this article.

What “being bold” means is hard to discern, but some pointers:

Boldness is key to amplifying her response and stimulating her emotionally. This is much needed in the winter, as women are “understimulated” by default.

However, boldness can be useful even outside of winter. There are implications regarding boldness, so we will consider those. We will also discuss how to calibrate your boldness.

Keep in mind – and this is key – this post is not advocating you to be bold per se, but perhaps bolder in your approach – which often many guys need to be to up their results.

Everything you need to know about boldness and boldening up your game will be covered here!

20 Types of Girls You'll Meet in Day Game

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By: Tony Depp

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Pickup artists are essentially actors – and women, the audience. These day-game tips will help you identify which niche a woman belongs in and calibrate to her quickly.

It’s impossible to find one day-game technique for all women because their archetypes are as diverse as rainforest plant life. I always advise massive field experience – I mean hundreds, or thousands of approaches over a period of years, to build reference memories, rather than relying on techniques alone.

Sometimes when I’m gaming, I feel like I’m playing Grand Theft Auto. In my twelve years of professional skirt-chasing, I’ve met many clichés and stereotypes. So for fun, I thought I’d give you the low-down on 20 of them.

Most game boils down to recognizing and adapting to patterns. You can learn to recognize the archetype and adapt to the social pattern. It’s a bit of a guessing game, but with practice, you can identify the different sorts of girls very quickly and adapt your strategy appropriately.

 

Girls, Girls, Girls

One girl will be open and friendly, another dismissive, shy, or rude. Some are adventurous, and others are cowardly. Some are all about Justin Bieber, and others dark metal. Some swallow and some won’t.

Pickup artists are essentially actors – and women, the audience. The advanced day gamer will be able to identify which niche a woman belongs in and calibrate quickly. You wouldn’t want to play a comedian for a vampire fan, or an action star for a lover of romance – metaphorically.

“Shouldn’t you just be yourself?”

Well sure – if you’re an amateur. The professional rake knows how to throw on a seductive identity like a super hero’s cloak, and only reveals his true self when she’s fully hooked. That’s why Clark Kent couldn’t bang Lois until she discovered he was Superman. Clark Kent sucks.

So on that note, here are 20 types of girls you’ll meet during day game.

9 Things Women Want from the Men Around Them

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By: Hector Castillo

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What do women want in men? The “what” is relatively simple; but in a romantic context, it’s also about what you should and shouldn’t give them as a man.

What do women want? More specifically, what do women want from men?

Most of the time when these questions are asked, you get some derivative of “Who the hell knows?” and everyone laughs.

But we’ve figured it out and have it all cataloged here at Girls Chase. We have a pretty darn good idea of what women want from a romantic partner.

We know what women want in the short-term and the long-term.

And we teach you how to become a man who can supply it all.

I’ll go over what women want in this article, but just because a woman wants something doesn’t mean you should give it to her. That shouldn’t sound too revolutionary. If you were to give everyone what they want all the time, your resources and time would drain in an instant.

You should only give women what they want so long as it aligns with your personal values and if it helps you achieve your goals.This might sound like a business framework applied to romance, and it very much is.

But while one should be kind and generous, there are limits to how much you should give if you are romantically interested in a woman. And that’s the departure-point premise of this article.

So, with that said, I'll tackle the subject from the perspective of what women want in a romantic partner, long or short term. I'll also discuss what you should and shouldn't give her, and under what circumstances.

14 Simple Ways to Text a Girl and Make Her Want You

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By: Chase Amante

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Don't know how to text a girl you like? Copy these texts and send them to her to get her excited and ready to go out with you.

You get a girl's contact info. Which is perfect, because you already know exactly how to text a girl. You know what to text her. Even when to text it.

You slide out your phone and tap a quick message in. You hit "send."

Soon after, a response arrives. It's her! She seems thrilled to hear from you.

Not only that, but she is eager to meet up with you. In person.

You set up the date. Now her and you get to meet. It's no longer a digital romance: you've moved things into the real world.

This is the goal of every text you send a woman. It's not to have a fun conversation with her (though you'll do that too). It's not to flirt. It's not even to turn her on. It's to get her out in-person, where you can do all that other stuff so much better. You would rather have her right there with you, where you can touch her, sit near her, and hear her tinkling laughter, wouldn't you?

This article is your easy-to-use guide on how to text a girl and make her want you.

Throughout it, I have more and better text examples for you than you will find anywhere else. You can copy + paste these texts, or use them as guide rails to write your own. You'll also get to understand the psychology behind why these texts work. Once you know why the texts work, it's easy to adapt how you text girls to new situations.

First, a few rules before we start:

  1. Your goal when you text a girl is to get her to meet in person

  2. When you text, you must be brief, yet cover the important stuff

  3. Long conversations are best done in-person, not via messages

  4. You can only truly show two attractive traits over text: a.) confidence and b.) social savvy. Trying too hard to show any other trait (like sexiness, adventurousness, or niceness) moves you further from your goal and hurts your chances with her... so keep your eye on the ball and get her out in person (where you can then show all your other great traits)

I've placed the texts in this article roughly in the order you'll send them.

Follow the game plan, and you'll text a girl out with you, happy to see you, within a few days of meeting her -- or even sooner than that.

Obligatory note: the texts below are reconstructions. I'm not so sleazy as to out real (and awesome!) chicks on here. Please treat these as teaching aids.

Do Harsh Winters Make Picking Up Women More Difficult?

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By: Alek Rolstad

Picking Up Women in Harsh Winters
When the weather gets super cold, so do women. Mood and sex drive are down or nonexistent. So, what’s a horny Norseman gotta do to get laid in harsh winters?

Today’s topic will be more relevant for those of you who live in cold areas, where the winters are harsh. I’ve found this info to be very useful for me in Scandinavia, but I have heard that even in warmer areas, what I am about to say is still valid.

This article is about how to meet girls and seduce them during winter time. Winters are undeniably harder to deal with than summer or spring when it comes to meeting women (I happen to love autumn). In a post from last year, I wrote about why winter time is the toughest season to deal with. Some of the reasons:

  • The colder weather and darkness make women less aroused – i.e., cold and darkness have a negative impact on the human sex drive. Women are driven by emotions (men too, but women more so), so they’ll be even more affected by the weather changes.

  • The weather and darkness have a negative impact on general moods – more tired, less social and moodier.

  • Not only will women be affected by all that, so will you! You too will feel moodier, more tired, less social. Your sex drive will also be lower – you probably have noticed this.

All this makes it harder for men to meet girls in the winter. The nightlife venues are deader in the winter – people don’t go out, which affects the dynamic of the venue, and not in a good way.

Because of all this, you could try more day game, but in the cold, it is not usually a good call.

The online game remains more stable although you will find fewer horny girls online. Additionally, for anyone who is not a superb looking guy, the online game is crap. The quality of women you will meet in real life will always be superior, especially if you have game.

For all the reasons above, I still prefer sticking to night game, even in the winter, despite it being harder.

So here is a guide on how to maximize your success with night game during the winter season.

Valentine’s Day Survival Tips for All Relationship Types – Even Single

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By: Varoon Rajah

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Valentine’s Day tends to throw bombs into relationships, serious and casual. Here’s how to pass the day unscathed – or even pull a new girlfriend from the ashes.

That time of year is coming again – Valentine’s Day! It’s that day that women look forward to all year – or detest when it arrives because they have no one to celebrate with. It’s that day when you can seal a frame with a new girl, or walk away from a relationship gone cold. It’s that day when, if you don’t celebrate enough, you might cause drama; or if you celebrate too much, she loses attraction for you.

It’s also a day that can set the stage for a hedonistic Spring and Summer to come – for men and women alike.

All your relationships can potentially go haywire if you’re not careful to maintain a good frame. As Valentine’s Day approaches, here are some important things to remember this year about how to navigate V-Day. And I'll be discussing how to survive in several relationship types, not just monogamy.