Girls play the role of cocktease or attention whore (or worse)
because these roles can be fun. But what’s the psychology behind this kind
of “fun”?
There are short term and long term impacts on the fruits of our
actions in the mating game. In the short term, we can create a really
fun seduction, great sex with a beautiful woman, and the potential
beginning of an ongoing relationship. Some choose to stay at Point 2,
while others go on to Point 3. In the long term, we have the power and
ability to grow powerfully with another human, with or without
children, as we also have the power to experience many different women.
Unfortunately, we can also create an opportunity to ruin our lives
through some unforeseen consequence of an action – perhaps the wrong
action at the wrong time – or just merely dealing
with the wrong person.
In our modern era, women hold
immense power to dictate social
ramifications of sexual encounters and relationships gone awry.
In this
more cautionary article, I wish to make you aware of some
less-glamorous aspects of the mating game – situations that if not
handled correctly can create extreme unhappiness, commitment problems,
legal problems, and financial problems. Better to be aware of these as
they are happening than to find yourself on the losing side of a
challenge.
I recently picked up a book while visiting Boston, called Games
People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis by Eric Berne.
This book was first published in 1964 and is meant to be a handbook for
psychiatry, yet I felt compelled to write this article when I realized
a strong connection between patterns outlined in the book and many
firsthand experiences of myself and friends. The book is quite academic
and covers far more than just sexual scenarios, so to save you from
reading it (it was quite boring admittedly), I’ll cover some dynamic
patterns I’ve seen repeatedly that may be confusing to participants in
the game.
I hope this summary and analysis of Games People Play
helps you identify how to handle complex social-sexual situations,
which when mishandled, have resulted in life-altering lawsuits, loss of
credentials, loss of work, and worse.
