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When It's Worth Fighting

when it's worth fightingI was out last night with a friend at about midnight, and we stopped to ask for directions. I saw a pair of women on a patio as they were leaving a bar, and asked them if they knew where the place we were trying to find was. In the midst of them telling me as I stood there a bit beneath them on the street -- "Go to the cinema, then..." a large, obviously drunken man strode up to the edge of the patio they were standing on, towering over me.

"Oy," he said, and raised his fist in what sort of looked like a greeting.

"Hi," I said, and flashed him a smile. He dropped his fist smack into my forehead, and it connected with a dull thud and a mild sting.

Now, I come from a background of formerly having been a bit of an angry guy, and a bit of a fighter. I used to get in a fair amount of fights, about all kinds of pointless things. Anything that might just be considered disrespect, I used to be ready to go to war over.

These days, I don't make physical confrontation that much a priority for me. I'll use it when absolutely necessary -- I manhandled a guy a few days back who tried pickpocketing me late at night in the rain -- but the risk is often far greater than the reward.

And that's what I want to discuss today -- assessing combat situations well and accurately gauging the risk-reward ratio -- not just for yourself, but for your opponent. Because it's necessary that, as you make your way through the world, you learn when it's worth fighting -- and when it isn't.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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PUAVault's picture

Great article on fighting. It's bound to happen - since I'm not a fighter, usually I apologize and tell the guy that the girl is cute and he's lucky, and bid him well. However, I have a friend who did do jiujitsu and he's easy to snap into a fight, simply because he has the skills. That's I guess is where it might become hard since it's automatic.

Chase Amante's picture

Hey PUAVault, yeah, that's the thing. If you're a trained-up guy and you're accustomed to winning, it's kinda hard to stop fighting. But fighting rarely is conducive to getting the girl -- I've only really mixed fighting a few times with talking to girls over the course of the past 6 years or so, but the girl always runs away or has her social circle pull her off.

Being quick to scrap is probably a habit a guy probably ought to break, at least where women are involved.


Big guy comment's picture

Great article on fighting. Other reasons guys fight who have nothing to loose is to try and prove themselves. I know a fairly large muscular guy who suprised me one day when I found out that he was always being challenged to fights. Why I asked? Because he is large.

Od's picture

I am reader from Mongolia and wondering why you had such bad experiences in here. It sounds unilateral. Great article thou.

Anonymous's picture

Good read. But dont women want a man that can and will fight? They dont want us to be weak or disrespected in theireyes. If youre not a smart talker it does get frustrating when people talk down to you without gettin mad. If you were being disrespected verbally by someone wittyer what do you do?
Cause growing up i just hated being pushed around and just hated mys self for not fighting cause i always felf like i had something to lose. Always hated being mocked or sweared at (honestly i dont swear at people,even doing my best to be patient and passive) and sorta wished we lived in a 3rd world country and be able to hurt that guy with no conseqiences.
Really do feel femine and emasculated when i do this instead of getting pissed and fight that guy.

Always thought tough guys got the fly girls cause hed be seem more manly. Women like high status in men and taking abuse rom other men just lowers your value to them does it not?

Please answer these are serious questions
thank you.

Jimbo's picture

Girls are aroused by men who fight and stand up for themselves. But it doesn't have to be physical. If you're socially savvy enough, you can respond to slights in an effective way without looking like a chump. For more on that, check Chase's article "how to be a powerful man" (lit?).

With that being said, if you really think you're being directly harassed, insulted, bullied, and blatantly pushed around, and that you couldn't stop this with peaceful means, I wouldn't say there's much to lose in fighting. If the other guy files a complaint you're looking at monetary settlement, community service, and it rarely ends up with criminal charges unless you did something serious to him. So if you think you're being, like, bullied and constantly disrespected and that your only way to stop it is violence, then I say get in there and end this once and for all.

Jimbo's picture

Hi Chase,

What do you think is the best martial art to learn to greatly improve your skills in everyday fights?

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