Sometimes despite your best efforts, a girl will tell you “the spark isn’t there” or that she “just isn’t feeling it.” When this happens, you have 3 options on how to proceed.
I recently responded to a comment from a reader named Jason about an issue he ran into, where a girl he had a good thing going with (they’d progressed fairly far into intimacy, though hadn’t had penetrative sex yet) told him, about their kisses, that she “didn’t feel a spark.”
There’s a certain category of rejection girls can hit you with, where they object to the potential between you and them. Usually this takes the form of a girl telling you it just doesn’t ‘feel’ right, in this way or that. Examples:
- “I just don’t feel any chemistry”
- “The spark just isn’t there”
- “I don’t know, I’m just not feeling it”
- “I just don’t feel into it, I don’t know why”
The most maddening thing about this is its vagueness. Vague problems are hard problems to right.
So what do you do? Pack your things and go? Give chase and try to convince her she’s all wrong, and there was a spark? Obviously, neither of those is ideal.
There are a few superior options you can use to deal with objections like this. Those better options are the subject of this post.