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How to Get Perfect "10" Girls

Ever fumble it up with a beautiful girl? You set one eye on her and instantly were dumbstruck, or thunderstruck – or hey, you gave it a shot and just plain struck out? It’s unbelievably common. Most men are unsure how to act around a girl they consider to be really, really valuable.

Right off the bat, there are two problems there: the first is that the guy is unsure how to act. If you’ve been reading our articles here, you should have a good idea of how to act, for sure; but we’ll do a quick refresher here for convenience’s sake.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Lau'Ren'Tay's picture

Aye Chase! So on talking to any girl. How far would you go on being flirtatious, fun, and likeable. Theres been times, when I've seen a girl from far away. When I got closer and approached them. That weren't as attractive as I thought; and I just happen to carry the conversation too far.

Lau'Ren'Tay Walker

Chase Amante's picture

Ah, that's a good question, Lau'Ren'Tay! Depends on your goals, I'd say.

If you're working hard on improving at being flirtatious, fun, and likable, you should hang in there for at least a few minutes and give it the ol' college try. At least it'll serve to keep you warm for when you meet a cutie later. Unless she's heinously unattractive, of course... at that point, just find a way to bow out of the conversation!

If you're looking to pull and take a girl home, just be very quick in your conversation and bow out gracefully after opening.

Generally speaking, when I open a gal and find out she isn't as gorgeous as I'd hoped, I'll joke around with her and make her laugh once or twice, and I'll usually pay her a genuine compliment, like, "Well, I just wanted to tell you you have a great sense of style before I head off on my way," or I'll let the conversation die naturally if I can do that without it being awkward for her. You want her to be smiling as you walk away -- no harm bringing a little light into a gal's life, even if she ain't all that cute ;)


Billy's picture

Hey Chase, I had an interesting experience at Wrigley Field yesterday. I showed up buzzed off half-priced martinis with three of my friends. We sit down, and I find myself sitting right next to a beautiful blonde college student. We begin talking and flirting a bit. She is there with her friends and it is obvious some guys further down the row seemed to be interested in the girls as well. I start talking to this girl, let's call her Nicole (not her real name). We exchange information about where we are from and grew up, school, work, etc etc. She seems like a genuinely interesting person. Anyway, the topic of drinking comes up and she tells me she is a "beer girl" or a girl who generally prefers beer over other kinds of booze. She finishes the beer she has and I offer to buy her another beer since I still needed my first. She said "sounds like a good plan".

One of my friends who came with me to the game pulls me aside and claims I made a huge mistake offering to buy her a beer at the game because she was simply "using" me, and any other guy sitting next to her would have done what I did. I looked at it as a good gesture of kindness and to show interest. Despite his criticism I still had a great conversation with Nicole and we had some good laughs. We had things in common. I mentioned where we were going after the game and I got her number. She asked me to text her where we were going to because we were leaving the game before it ended (the Cubs are terrible). As I left Wrigley, I texted her the name of the bar and also that I had a nice time meeting her and hoped to see her later. She said "lol ok". She did not text me back after that, nor did I text her again. I figure she is not interested or maybe she was but since she was with her friends they had other plans. Whatever it may be, I have two questions:

1. Do I call her and see if maybe she wants to hang out?
2. Was I right in buying her a beer at the game even though we had just met?

I hope to hear from you soon,

Chase Amante's picture

Hey Billy,

Kudos on talking to the really cute girl and getting some good conversation going. Baseball can be a fun place to get to know a girl better sometimes, too.

On buying the beer: well, I'd probably side with your buddy here (actually, I have a post here you can check out on paying for dates), but that wasn't especially tactful of him to tell you then in the middle of your interaction... he risks throwing you off, etc.

Better not to pay for stuff, especially not too early, but if you do it, own it, and make sure it isn't a big deal. It sounds like you did an all right job of this. The main thing to be wary about with paying for stuff is that it risks coming off as supplication, which can be a major damper on attraction. It's one of those almost unconscious things that many men just do for women, and women just accept, but it often shunts you immediately into the traditional long courtship role, which often isn't what a young college girl is looking for. This sometimes fares all right with older women, though, who are looking for men to take them through a traditional dating process.

As far as following up... her reply was a tad too brief in both tone and length (way too short for a first reply to you). Your read on her interest levels are probably right, but... you have absolutely no reason not to call her up and chat with her anyway!

Worst case scenario: you get a little practice trying to turn things around and it doesn't quite work out. Best case: you turn things around, build a little rapport, and then you call her or text her a few days later and set up a date.

Call her up and see what happens. Every now and then, you end up getting pleasantly surprised.


JLo's picture

Hey Chase,
I'm in law school and I am dying to make a move on this insanely beautiful (and smart) girl in my class. We sit next to each other in a class and I brought her in on my study group so we've been hanging quite a bit, but I don't know what my next move is. I know she thinks I'm a cool guy but I'm still not sure how to breach that friend zone. I know that if I have any shot at all I'm in pretty good position but I obviously don't want to make it weird if she isn't down. Any advice?

Me's picture

Barney Stinson doesn't follow this rules and he's had over 200 women. And probably HIV too.

Anonymous's picture

im a very hot guy and everyone are telling me this,but i just dont know how to approach a woman,i dont have self confidence,how do i improve my inner game.

Davidbrewer5's picture

Hey so there is this girl at my school and she is amazingly beautiful, We havent talked at all and we dont have many friends in common. What should I do?

Anonymous's picture

I'm a stud, and I hookup with girls, but I can't seem to build a relationship, like girls wanna bang but not date? WTF

Anonymous's picture

Seriously, dude? Are you kidding me or is this real?

OK...assuming this is real and not a troll, I'll try to help you out since no one replied, although you asked this question a year ago.

First, you call yourself a "stud" and say that you "hook up" with girls but can't seem to build a relationship. This is part of the problem. Maybe the girls you meet can sense that you're a player and they don't want to be used, hence the reason they "wanna bang" but not date you or have a relationship with you. They don't want to be hurt or have their hearts broken.

The law of attraction definitely applies in this situation...what you put out, is what you will receive in return. If you want a relationship beyond sex, change has to come from within. I am a woman in her early 30's. Not sure how old you are, but trust me...if you want a quality girl, you have to be a quality guy.

When I say "quality", I'm not talking about looks or money or even power. I'm talking about maturity. It's great to have plenty of sex and random hook-ups, but you admit to wanting something deeper, an emotional connection. And this shows that there is hope for you...if you are willing to change your lifestyle and focus on becoming the man you want to be.

Try getting to know a girl for who she is, her interests, hobbies, etc. Share some of your own interests with her so she can get to know you better. Just be cool and try not to expect too much...if a relationship is meant to happen, it will happen. Enjoy each other's company.

Finally, most women don't want a "stud". Bad boys are fun for short-term flings and relationships but they don't always stand the test of time. Yes, some might consider them to be "alpha males" but as women mature, we tend to want guys that offer stability and loyalty...not somebody who is with a different girl all the time.

WhiteBlackandPurple's picture

The real problem is that today's women mature later than their ancestors from the 1940s,50s,and perhaps even 60s did. Today, female enrollment in colleges is often higher than male. And many women are actually looking for flings and sex, they _don't_ want to commit to a guy. This makes it harder for the men these days. Of course, there are always the assholes who go for women just for sex, and for women who don't want any kind of commitment, it's the best thing for them since sliced bread with nutella on top.

Anonymous's picture

Your article simply makes sense. Thanks Chase, it was a great read - and super enlightening. :D

ZAC MAY's picture

Hi Chase. I feel like you could probably write a whole article on just this subject, But what would you say is the difference between a perfect 10 and a model as far as picking up goes?

I am a model (I get work but i'm broke) and I live in Santiago Chile. The way it works down here a lot of the gigs you have to go to castings, where these models are.. But these woman are not lonely I can assure you, most of them live in modeling housing with 5-10 other models. Most of them are too stuck up for me to bother, but every now and then I find some that I really like. And generally I get their numbers. I have yet to get a date with these woman though, mainly because I don't know WTF to do with them. All I see on thier facebook pages is high class weekend get aways, dinner parties, modeling shoots. And while my reputation is growing, I'm new here and i don't have much money, or connections. Which puts me at a distinct disadvantage.... I THINK. and of course a lot of them date other models. I feel like i'm doing everything you've listed here... Shit i'm texting one of them right now. But i just don't know how I should approach going out with them. I know I shouldn't worship the ground they walk on, but i feel like they have different expectations than your average girl. Normally my looks and personality are enough to get me where I want to be, but I just came out of a year and half relationship, so i'm a little rusty. However, money is just out of my hands at the moment.... I guess i'm asking if I should even bother?

Thanks brother,

Patrick oneil's picture

For me its impossible. Its 9. Its great enough. Just saying that No such thing as perfect.

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