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Date Templates: Minimize Confusion, Maximize Returns

date templatesDating is one of those things that can be a little ambiguous, even for guys who are relatively skilled in seduction in general. I know for me, it was an annoyance long after I’d reached a decent level of proficiency in meeting girls and taking them home quickly – that I could do fine, but dating was still a big unknown.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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leo's picture

ok i hope u answer this asap cuz this drivin me nuts... this girl comes at my work day i asked fo her number and after talkin to each other few times on phone, we decided to go out fo dinner.. and it went great.. she had reallybgood time.(well it seemed tht way...) and after dinner she sat next to me and we start kissing... and then i dropped her off and left... she came to my work again and ask me to come out and talk 2 her and we start makin out and stuff.. ok so this week she asked me through a text tht if i wanna hang out in eve again and i said sure but later on she texted me.bak saying she cant go cuz somthin really imp came up and i was.fine with it.. next day i.called her and she dint answer... and its been 2 days (todays 3rd) and she dint call me bak and neither did i... wht u think i should do? and why would she do this? and we r supose to go out on Friday again... but im not sure if its gonna happen noe...

X2's picture

Hey Leo,

I think Chase is really busy with other things and so he couldn't reply here. I will try to answer your question properly.

The girl who asked you out doesn't find you Challenging enough. You are making yourself too available all the time. Just wait for her to Call you and tell her that you have something more important and will go out some other time with her. This shows her you are not Desperate and will chase you :)

Chase Amante's picture

X2's got it mostly covered here -- well said, X2.

Only thing I'd add, Leo, is that moving a little too slow is going to play a part -- when you're kissing, intimacy's not far away, and oftentimes kissing a girl but not sleeping with her can mean the death of the potential for something to happen there as she starts seriously thinking about whether she wants it to happen or not and putting you on the boyfriend scale and doing all kinds of detrimental stuff.

So, two ways of dealing with a flakey girl like this:

  • Tell her you're a little too busy, like X2 suggests, and counteroffer another time / ask her when else in her schedule is clear, or
  • Be super chill about it -- girls dig guys who don't fluster. This one's a little tougher to pull off, because the language in your texts has to be nearly perfect; e.g. "Hey, no worries. Drop me a line when your schedule clears up ;)" That puts you firmly into the "cool guy who'll be available when my time frees up" category and decidedly out of the "possessive / needy boyfriend candidate who desperately wants to spend time with me and 'get' me" category.

Cheers bro,


But What About's picture

When the "informational date" went alright (first one), we left, and I casually invited the girl over to my apt to watch some TV, and she declined saying she Would Like To, but legitimately had an early morning engagement.
The problem is, that, in just a few text messages back and forth after we left, I persisted after she rain-checked me. I was persistent, and she said so. I got left holding the bag by sending the last text message. I will definitely see her in class in two days and the rest of the university semester; this is the girl I sat next to on the first day who just happens to live alone in a very close neighboring apt community.
I'm cool keeping radio silence for a few days - I have other options and many, many things to do - but how do I not scare her off? She is younger than I originally thought and I am considering just moving on to save any hang-ups.
Having known about your site and found it entertaining and informative, I bring this case to you, Chase.


Anonymous's picture

I like this advice

Anonymous's picture

Hey guys. So i need some advice, and any and all would be appreciated.
So i met this girl in college classes about two weeks ago (its summer school). I saw her sitting in a dining area alone, so I asked if i could join her. We had a fun conversation, and I think we both enjoyed it. So a few days later I asked her for lunch, she was busy but we met up again a little less than a week later. I think we hit it off, because I made her laugh a lot and she seemed to be having fun. Then, there is this really cool spot at the college where I asked her out. She said, almost entirely quoted, that "I'm going to be honest with you. I just got out of a relationship and I'm done with boys. But I do want to be you friend." So I'll admit I got a bit awkward, but I think I handled it well. I smiled and said "Okay, but just so you know, it doesn't have to be a big deal. We can just take it easy." So then later that day I texted her (I probably should have called) and told her a date idea, but both of our schedules were too busy on the days we were free. So I'm waiting until sometime next week. My question is how is this going? Is she as geniunely interested as I thought? Should I talk to her in between now and next week, or give her time until I set the date? and should i be the one to initiate this date too, or wait till she decides she misses me? Thanks guys, I appreciate it.

Anonymous's picture

So, I am a freshman in college, and trying to pick up chicks. I am talking to one girl atm, got her phone number and Skype on the first day we met. The same night she added me on fb. Then, I checked my phone an she had texted me three times and I thought she was asleep. I texted her "u dead yet?" And she almost immediately responded with "Ohhhh you're not sleeping? You got my texts? Haha awks". I then proceeded to continue texting with her, building rapport and leaving the possibility for a meet. She responded almost immediately to every text I sent her, and she was reciprocating on my texts. Now my dilemma is that, say I do the easy date and all, I'm going to need a couple more ideas of places I can get intimate with her. This is because I live with my parents and so does she, so I don't know if she will be comfortable with me going to her place. Also, I would love to bring her to my place, but my parents or going to embarrass me about it in front of her. Lastly, if she doesn't feel attracted, or doesn't want to get intimate after the date, what do I do? Like, how would I close on that, and how would I deal with her at school? I see her 4 days a week :/ Thanks in advance :D

Anonymous's picture

When using a date template, should one still escalate and deep dive as usual? Or will that be perceived as moving too fast, as seen in the case study in "The Last Post You'll Ever Need?"

deadliftman's picture

What do you think of grabbing a drink or two at a nearby bar as a date?
Also in structured dates, do you really need to plan a fun activity together?

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