5 Things Every Guy Should Do Before Inviting a Girl Over to His Place

It’s the end of the date and she’s come back to yours. How do you up the odds she ends up in bed, and not leaving early?

It’s the end of the date, and things seem to be going well.

You made all the right moves, she laughed at all your jokes, the night is winding down, and she hasn’t checked her phone once (OK, maybe once when you went to the bathroom).

You knew this moment was coming… and now is the time.

“Hey... you said you like white wine, right? I have a bottle back at my place. Want to come over for a glass or two?”

You hold your breath… and she says yes. “Score!!!” you think, giving yourself a pat on the back.

Walking up to your door, she’s giving you all the right signs. Her eyes are lit up and she can’t stop smiling at you.

But when you walk inside and sit down on the couch… things seem to cool off a bit. She’s a little icier – somehow more distant.

After about 20 minutes of small talk (and half a glass of white wine), out of nowhere she looks at her phone and says, “Oh crap, I forgot I have to wake up REALLY early tomorrow... maybe we can do this another time?”

Has this ever happened to you? Well, you’re not the only one.

So, why do women do this? If the date is going so well, why would she get so icy when things are supposed to be heating up? Even if there’s plenty of attraction, emotional connection, and things have escalated physically, a dwelling in disarray can really throw a woman off kilter!

Today, I’m going to show you why what you have in your home can help you avoid hearing the words “I forgot I have to wake up early” ever again.

If She’s Already Coming Over, Doesn’t That Mean I’m In?

I can’t stress this enough: when a woman says “Yes” to coming back to your place, this is not the same thing as her saying “Yes” to having sex with you.

It’s no secret that most post-date sexual encounters begin with a suggestion to hang out at one of your places, so yes, sex will almost definitely be on her mind.

But once you walk in your door, you’re putting her in a whole new environment. And that’s going to make her either a) more comfortable, or b) more uncomfortable, depending on what that environment is.

So, how do you know if your place has the right vibe?

The truth is that you don’t need to have an ideal “Crate & Barrel” aesthetic to get lucky after a date – it’s primarily about avoiding a few key mistakes that could instantly turn a woman off.

Just follow this 5-step checklist:

1) Wash Those Dirty Dishes (No, Really)

Disgust and arousal do not play well together in women.

You might think that having a few dirty dishes in the sink (and some crumbs on the counter) isn’t a total deal-breaker… I mean, girls won’t notice or care about something like that, right?

Wrong. Women are much more inclined to notice details (like a dirty kitchen), and while it might sound crazy, it could be a huge turn-off for her.

Just think about this:

The female mind focuses a lot on planning ahead – by the end of date number one, I can almost guarantee she has already pictured the kind of long-term boyfriend (or husband) you’d be.

So, if she comes home with you and sees a huge mess… she might assume that’s the way you always are and how you’ll always be.

If she’s only interested in a one-night stand or some casual fun, this probably won’t kill your chances, but if you have any interest in seeing her more than once, playing it safe is always the best way to go.

Have roommates who leave their dishes lying around? It’s not fun, but washing their dishes is still your best bet – because the only thing worse than a messy, irresponsible roommate is a roommate who kills your chances of getting lucky.

So do your dishes. Period.

2) Have a Cozy Blanket Lying Around

You should probably get in there and join her.

This one is a “kill two birds with one stone” kinda thing. A cozy blanket might not seem like the most masculine thing to keep in your home, but trust me, she’ll notice. And she’ll love it.

Why?

Study after study shows that women have significantly worse blood circulation than most men – and that makes their extremities colder, faster.

According to Mark Eskendari, M.D., a vascular surgeon at a top U.S. hospital, women have more sensitive nerves than men – this includes the nerves that control her blood flow. So, even though the two of you might be experiencing the same exact temperature, her heightened sensitivity could make her feel colder.

On top of that, women have smaller veins and arteries than men do, which makes pumping blood to her extremities a tougher job for her body than yours.

It’s true that you could offer to warm her up with your arms, or make that an excuse to get closer to her, but here’s why a blanket is better. Imagine these two scenarios.

Scenario #1:

Girl: “It’s kinda chilly in here, don’t you think?”

Guy: “Here, I can warm you up” *rubs her shoulders*

Girl: “Thanks…”

Scenario #2:

Girl: “It’s kinda chilly in here, don’t you think?”

Guy: “Here, I have this blanket... this should warm you up” *puts blanket over both of their laps*

Girl: “Mmm, this is so nice and soft... thanks” *lays head on guy’s shoulder*

Which one of these scenarios do you think is going to lead to the bedroom?

Theoretically, both scenarios could eventually end in the bedroom, but scenario #2 will almost always get you there faster. And that’s because women appreciate the tiny details, like a soft, cozy blanket.

Not sure where to get a blanket that’ll look good in your place? Try Target, H&M, or Walmart. You don’t even have to go there in person – all it takes is 10 minutes of online shopping, and you’re all set.

Look for something that goes well in your living space (where you’ll most likely be keeping the blanket). Navy blue goes well with most colors, and so does a soft heather gray. Dark red, like a maroon, is also a good option – plus, studies show that the color red could inspire those romantic feelings in her!

One study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology found that women tend to be more sexually attracted to men wearing red than any other color. So simply having a red blanket lying around could inspire her sexual desire for you.

3) Clean Your Room (AKA Be Prepared for Anything)

Don’t worry, the hard work pays off when she’s screaming your name.

Even if you aren’t planning on getting busy when she comes over, it’s always good to be prepared for anything:

• What if you shared an inside joke about something in your room (like a record or a book), and she asks to see it?

• What if she asks to see your room “just because?”

• Or what if you have roommates hanging out in the living room, and your bedroom is the only place you can hang out, just the two of you?

A messy room is not going to make her want you more.

You don’t have to sweep the floor and scrub every corner until it’s sparkling, but it doesn’t hurt to make your bed and make sure you don’t have any dirty clothes sitting around. And if you’re really short on time, you can even throw everything on the floor into a drawer and just deal with it later. She won’t know the difference if your room at least looks clean.

Bonus: get a nice candle to really set the mood. Studies show that the right scent is often enough to turn a woman on – fragrances like vanilla, lavender, and cucumber are all extremely powerful.

4) Stock Up on Toilet Paper

If she runs out of toilet paper, she just might run out of your apartment.

I know, I know – this is kinda obvious. But it’s more important than a lot of guys realize.

Many women like to use the bathroom before having sex. So if you’re kissing on the couch and you ask “Wanna take this to the bedroom?” a pretty normal female response is “Yeah, let me just use the bathroom really fast.”

So, if she’s feeling turned on and ready to go, and she walks into your bathroom to see ZERO toilet paper… what do you think is going to happen?

Most likely she’s going to feel kinda gross for having to use the bathroom without any toilet paper – and that’s going to turn her off.

Plus: it’s not exactly sanitary to sleep with a woman who just used your bathroom without any toilet paper.

For both of your sakes, it’s best to keep that TP stocked up.

You don’t even need to buy the “fancy” stuff, either. Just make sure you have something there so you can avoid the inevitable “Oh crap! Maybe I have some Kleenex lying around...” moment when you come back to your place after the date.

5) Splurge on a Bottle of Red Wine or Tequila

A little extra sex drive boost never hurts.

Even if you don’t drink, it doesn’t hurt to have something around in case she does.

Because alcohol naturally relaxes you, having a glass of wine (or a couple ounces of tequila to sip on) will help her open up to you, and will help you calm your nerves and stay out of your own head.

So, why red wine and tequila?

It’s science.

A study that examined 800 Italian women found that the women who drank 1-2 glasses of red wine per day (compared to the women who drank less than one glass or didn’t drink at all) had a significant increase in sexual desire.

The reason isn’t entirely clear, but researchers suspect it has to do with a compound found in red wine that naturally increases a woman’s blood flow. With an increase in blood flow comes an increase in body temperature – and sometimes that’s enough to push her from “maybe feeling it” to “in the mood.”

On top of that, a lot of women associate red wine with romance. And a nice bottle of wine makes an excellent conversation piece!

If you know nothing about wine, not to worry – most local wine stores have someone there who can help.

Generally speaking, if you’re not going to be eating anything with the wine, look for an Argentinian Malbec, a Spanish Rioja, or an Italian Chianti. You should be able to find a decent bottle for $15-$20. Plus, a wine from another country might inspire her to share some of her travel-related stories!

OK... but what about tequila?

I know I just said that alcohol naturally relaxes you – but tequila is an exception to this rule. It’s true that after enough tequila, you will absolutely be feeling relaxed (and then some), but a small amount of tequila can actually be a stimulant.

As of now, there aren’t really any studies that support this claim, but the human mind is a very, very powerful thing.

For example, what do you think of when you hear the word “tequila?”

Is it:

• Spring break?

• Taking shots?

• Having a REALLY BAD hangover?

• Getting naked?

• Trying something super adventurous?

A lot of women find that tequila provides a “different kind of drunk” than you get with other alcohols. Even if this ultimately isn’t biologically true, if she feels that way, then chances are she’s going to behave differently when she drinks tequila.

That doesn’t mean you should start ripping shots of Jose Cuervo when you get back to your place – instead, splurge on a nice Reposado or Mezcal (it’s not technically tequila, but it’s also made from the Agave plant and is pretty trendy right now). Two reliable and widely available brands are Hornitos and Herradura. And if you want to go for some Mezcal, Del Maguey Mezcal Vida is a great, affordable option.

And when you have your tequila, here’s how to serve it:

Forget everything you learned about sweet, syrupy margaritas, and embrace the au naturel.

Pour two fingers of tequila in a rocks glass (or any glass tumbler would work), and garnish with a slice of lime on the side. If you must have ice, put no more than one cube in each glass.

It’s that simple, and I can almost guarantee she’ll be impressed. And hey, not every woman wants to drink her tequila straight, so if she looks grossed out, then having some grapefruit juice or club soda lying around isn’t a bad idea.

All 5 of the items on this checklist are things you can take care of in no more than an hour, but they make a huge difference in the long run. And in fact, doing them is often the difference between being a guy who sleeps with her on the first date, and being a guy who sits at home alone, wondering “What went wrong???”

So, next time you invite a girl back to your place, follow this checklist, and your odds of getting some action will go up exponentially – it really is that simple.