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In the last couple of posts:

1. The “I’m Glad I’m Not the Only One Who…” Conversation Starter

2. The Fundamentals of a Great Approach: Interaction Outline Pt. 1

... We learned a customizable conversation starter (post #1) that allowed us to focus on the fundamentals of physical, logistical, and emotional escalation (post #2).

Before continuing forward with the creation of our conversational outline, today we are going to focus on: the fundamentals of basic conversation.

In my previous post, we learned the importance of having something ready to say when we see a woman to whom we are attracted, so we began building a conversation outline beginning with our initial component of a customizable conversation starter that we can adapt to fit any situation!

Now that we have something to say, at least upon first approaching a woman, we are free to focus on our fundamentals more effectively. There’s a great intro article to fundamentals you can check out here, and Chase has several amazing articles about how to work on your style (including everything from grooming, facial hair, clothing and accessories, your physique, even information about how your scent relates to attraction), as well as your eye contact and your voice.

Today we dive deeper down the rabbit hole as we focus on making the abstract more concrete by learning the fundamental behaviors that can make all the difference in the world in your interactions with the opposite sex!

The #1 thing men ask me when it comes to meeting girls is, “I don’t know what to say! What should I say to get a girl intrigued enough to even want to have an interaction with me?!”

When it comes to attracting a woman, you may be familiar with the phrase, “It’s not so much what you say, but more how you say it that matters.”

This is why I attempt to focus on the “how” (read: “fundamental” behaviors) and “why” (read: “fundamental” beliefs and strategies) of communication and attraction, albeit sometimes the concepts may seem rather abstract.

Some of the ideas I share start off very abstract in the beginning, and over time become more concrete, while other concepts start off very concrete and then become more abstract over time.

On this note, to prepare us for what we are about to learn today, let’s quickly review what we’ve learned so far:

We hold the moral-high ground so there’s no need to feel ashamed of approaching a woman who attracts our attention (Creep-Shame Culture). No (eligible) woman wakes up thinking, “I don’t want to get swept off my feet today”, so there’s no harm in making (inevitable) mistakes when attempting to do this very thing with a woman to whom you are attracted.

Discovering the answer to 3 simple questions (The 4 Types of Women) gives us an effective destination towards which to guide the interaction. Obviously the first step in getting somewhere is knowing where to go!

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, so by focusing on our fundamentals and essentials (in regards to voice, eye contact, body language, etc.) the occasions when a woman doesn’t look at us will become less frequent. We understand why it occurs, as well as how to handle the situation (Looking at Women, and Getting Them to Look Back) by appealing to her other senses (besides just her sense of sight) in order to successfully gain her attention.

Now that we have all those abstract ideas internalized, let’s focus on something more concrete and fun: learning EXACTLY WHAT TO SAY to a girl when you first approach her!

Today is Part One of my Basic Conversation Outline series. In this article you are going to:

1. Discover why building a conversation outline is important to your success

2. Acquire a conversation starter you can use right now

3. Learn how to customize it to fit any situation you happen to find yourself in

Let’s get right to it!

Childhood stories and memories are some of the most ingrained, pleasing thoughts that a person’s mind can evoke in life. It is merely human nature to attempt to relive things from a distant past that were pleasurable or peaceful. Although we have but a vague recollection of these events at the surface, they’re rooted far into the depths of our unconscious.

It is for those reasons that spurring a woman to recall all of these old feelings and thoughts will arouse deep-seated emotions in her that will not only spin her off into fantasy land, but will also create a very strong connection between the two of you.

And yes, I am aware that when we talk about psychoanalytical things and relate them to attracting women many guys shake their heads in disbelief. But, before you cast this one off as mere “hocus pocus”, I recommend giving it a thorough read-through and letting it digest first.

There is truth in science, and why not learn a bit about the dynamics behind deep-diving a girl on her childhood experiences?

In my experience, the power to command the attention of all eyes in a room is more a learnable skill than a natural talent.

And in reality, you can effectively internalize any skill and turn it into a “natural” habit. So the argument that “either you’ve got it, or you don’t” is simply inaccurate.

Just to be clear: if you don’t have it (yet), you can still get it (soon).

However, commanding the attention of everyone in the room is outside the scope of this article, and although that skill would indeed be helpful, in this situation we will focus on how to gain the attention of one person in particular: that beautiful woman who has enamored you, and, for whatever reason, is not returning your gaze.

To deal with this situation of how we look at women and get them to look back, we break it down into two parts:

• Pre-Interaction Communication
• (During the) Interaction Communication

Let’s start by taking a closer look at what we can do before this situation even occurs.

Due to all the great feedback I have received in my previous posts on logistics, I decided to keep writing about the topic. It was requested that I write a post on after-parties, so that is what we will be discussing today.

For all of you who haven’t checked out my previous threads on logistics, you should do so:

• Preparing for a Night That Ends in Sex
• How to Take Her Home and Extract Her Back to Your Place
• Going to Her Place: Tools to Get You More “Yes”es
  

Logistics, although not always the most interesting topic in seduction, is one of the key basics most men struggle with. Many men know a lot about seduction yet don’t get any results (that is, they don’t have sex with women) and in many cases, this is due to their lack of logistical knowledge and control.

Put it this way: you can easily get laid if you are not attractive when you have good logistics, while it is hard to get laid if your logistics suck.

Today, we will be discussing after-parties. And as promised, this post is not about hosting after-parties in a “college” context, but in all types of scenarios. This post will give you a few key pointers on how to host an after-party, but the main topic of this post is how to get laid at after-parties.

For those of you searching for a comprehensive guide on how to host after-parties, be patient, as it is the topic of my next post.

Note from Chase: This article from Mateo is on a different subject than my “4 Kinds of Girls” article. While that one from me was focused on personality dimensions, this article on types from Mateo is focused on availability and interest levels. Here’s Mateo...

“Creep-Shame Culture” taught us to understand that since we are attempting to improve our communication with women, as well as better a woman’s life, in spite of the inevitable mistakes we will make, we still hold the moral high-ground. This means that we actually are “in the right” when we approach women to whom we are attracted – as long as we take responsibility for our actions (and don’t intentionally attempt to emotionally harm anyone – to state the obvious).

When we hold the moral-high ground – in other words, when we believe that we are “in the right” – we release ourselves from feeling particular negative emotions that would otherwise hinder our behavior.

For example, if we feel like we are “in the wrong”, then we are more likely to allow the negative emotions we experience stop us from approaching or escalating an interaction with a woman to whom we are attracted.

So how can we direct our moral compass to give us that extra boost we may need to successfully guide our interactions with the opposite sex to the most effective destination possible?