Pickup Tech

In a jam-packed interview, Alek Rolstad shares how to turn girls on (big time) in bars and nightclubs. He shows you how to escalate touch to get her excited. He shows you how to decide WHICH girls to approach (and which girls not to bother with). He shares his approach to dealing with “wild card” situations, where random elements appear to help or hinder you.

It takes time to be sexy. Yet while you’re working on it, there’s no reason for you to go dateless in the meantime.

Writing on the Girls Chase boards, a member by the name GottaChange says:

“From what I’ve seen around the only men who manage to consistently bed women using a normal “person-to-person” frame are men who are particularly good-looking according to society’s modern criteria. It is as if their looks takes care of the attraction for them and they can just worry about having a normal interaction and move things towards sex.

All the other guys (the average-looking ones) being successful with women are, from what I have seen, those who are able to arouse women by projecting masculinity and sexuality and be consistent with it during the whole interaction. They aren’t faking it, they ARE like that.

I know for some of you this is easy if not natural, but for me this is very very hard. I can open girls using a friendly/warm/playful vibe but this doesn’t lead me anywhere. We keep bantering until she either sees me as a new friend or she loses interest and goes away.

Yeah, rarely I have had women becoming sexually interested in me even if I was just being normal and friendly, but it’s not something I can rely on regularly like I see good-looking guys do. I need to structurally change something about myself, and that’s why I chose this nickname.”

So, this is not going to be an article on how to be sexy. We already have a bunch of those – here’s a few, for starters:

• How to Be a Sexy Man
• Constructing Your Sexy Vibe (and Making Girls Go Nuts)
• Sexual Tension: 7 Ways to Make Women Excited and Randy
• Darius’s Sexy Man’s Grooming Guide Series
  
• Alek’s Sexual Tension Series
  

Rather, this will be an article on patching things together in the short-term, before your sexy self has emerged from the sexpot chrysalis.

We touched on the lack-of-sexiness problem yesterday a bit in my massive troubleshoot post “What to Do When Your Approach Just Isn’t Working.” However, I want to give it its own treatment in article form. Partly so you don’t have to read 12,000 words to find the one paragraph that talks about it. But also because it needs highlighting – what you don’t highlight often goes unnoticed.

One of the points we harp on a lot on Girls Chase is the value of being sexy. When you are sexy, girls become... pretty straightforward. You have clear sexual value on offer that appeals to women:

• Women who’d like a boyfriend like you appreciate it

• Women who’d like a friend like you appreciate it too

• And women in need of sexual release really appreciate it

Most men appreciate sexual value too. They tend to view it as ‘charismatic’ or ‘cool’. Being sexy is a boon all around.

There’s just one problem. It takes time to develop that sexy vibe if you don’t have it yet. I think it took me eight or nine months to get mine to the point where I saw noticeable changes in how women received me. So what are you supposed to do in the meantime? Scratch days off your calendar and watch the seasons pass?

Obviously, that’s not so desirable.

Instead, you’re going to have to find some other ways to make girls want to do things with you.

Sometimes the sexual tension just pops. Maybe her friend stepped in or a random guy said something. How do you get it back once it’s gone?

Hello again, guys. I hope you are doing well! Welcome to part five of my series on sexual tension.

In case you are just tuning in, here are the first four installments:

1. Sexual Tension Basics: What is Sexual Tension?

2. How to Create Sexual Tension with Women

3. What to Do When She Giggles or Jokes (Hint: Don't Break Tension!)

4. Create Comfort with Her, and Sexual Tension Comes Easy
   

In our fourth article, we discussed how to maintain sexual tension between you and your girl. This article will focus on how you can maintain the sexual tension in light of social context – that is, how to deal with “wildcards” when you are experiencing sexual tension.

Today I will divulge what I know about how to deal with social factors that can interfere with sexual tension, including her friends and the social world.

Without further ado, let us get right into it!

The 5-second kiss lets you kiss her as soon as you meet her. It’s fun, it’s quick, and it starts things off with a bang (or a smooch).

This is a fairly niche tactic. But it’s still worth knowing (and still fun).

The way the 5-second kiss works is this: you see a girl, beckon her over or pull her over to you, draw her in, and kiss her. And you do so in about five seconds.

You can use this in bars and nightclubs, on the street during the day, or anywhere. Here’s the catch: it only works on girls who are ‘in the mood’ for it, and it only works when you are ‘in the mood’.

The reason you’d do this is for a fun start to an interaction, to break up an otherwise monotonous outing for yourself, or just to feel more ‘alive’ when you’re out at the bar (or wherever). Also, if you’ve never done this, it’s worth doing once, due to the limitation-shattering it provides.

This is not necessarily something you will do to raise your odds of success with the girl in particular you use it with. Though it can sometimes lead to a hookup.

Instead, this is something you use for the pleasure of it, the momentum of it, or to let yourself see what you can do.

You can build comfort to better help maintain sexual tension. When comfort’s too low, tension dissipates. But with comfort? It lasts.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

As you may know, I am currently writing a series on sexual tension. This is the 4th post so far, and I really recommend you check out the previous posts before reading this one. But even if you don’t, you’ll still find this post very useful on its own.

Previously we have discussed:

• The theoretical groundwork of what sexual tension is (part 1)
  

• How to generate sexual tension (part 2)
  

• How to maintain sexual tension by increasing the actual tension (part 3)
  

In this post, we will discuss maintaining the tension by focusing on building comfort with the girl you are experiencing sexual tension with. Previously we discussed how women tend to release sexual tension because of a low level of comfort compared to the level of tension. The solution proposed was to increase the tension so high that she lets go of her discomfort.

Today we will focus on increasing the comfort level. If you can manage both the tension parameter and the comfort parameter, you are technically in full control!

When a girl giggles or jokes in response to sexual tension, it doesn’t mean she isn’t interested. Instead, it usually means she IS.

In my last post, which was the second part of this series on sexual tension, we discussed how one can create sexual tension by focusing on these elements (simultaneously):

1. Presence:

   • Using a poker face that doesn’t reveal much – which also creates intrigue and mystery

   • Having a neutral body language

2. Sexualization (using physical escalation tools and following a ladder):

   • Escalating till we reach the so-called “sweet spot” and stay there in order to allow the tension to unfold and grow bigger and bigger

   • However, the golden rules of calibration still apply

3. Additionally:

   • Make things mutual

   • Slow the pace down

If you want more details, go ahead and reread part two.

In the comment section beneath part one of this series (where I lay down the “theoretical groundwork”), a reader named Jimbo shared a few concerns:

“The thing is that when I turn the tension sexual, whether from silence or not, and the girl breaks the tension by making a joke or something, I just figure she doesn't see me as a potential mate and move on. That mostly happens with acquaintances or girls I've known for a while. But I never thought of reengaging it later on.”

Jimbo’s concern is a common one. When he attempts to create sexual tension with a girl, she reacts by making silly remarks, giggling, cracking jokes. This is because she is a bit uncomfortable with the tension. This is a normal thing – most girls you encounter will react this way, some more than others. Occasionally you will be lucky and deal with girls who do not show signs of discomfort whatsoever when building up the tension.

Before I move on, I would like to make it clear that her reaction is not some indirect way of communicating that she doesn’t see Jimbo as a lover. Oftentimes it is quite the opposite… she reacts that way exactly because Jimbo triggers butterflies in her stomach. I hope this post will give clarification to this statement.

I will dedicate this entire post to this subject – maintaining the tension and dealing with discomfort related to sexual tension. I will illustrate this process by covering 3 levels of sexual tension. You will see how going from one level to the next affects the interaction. I will also dedicate a big portion of this post to how one navigates through these levels. The idea is that the “levels” that I am about to cover will help you make sense of what is going on, and the rest of the post will be practical solutions to the issue at hand.

Hey there! Varoon Rajah here. Welcome to the Girls Chase Dating Mechanics Podcast, my show on the Girls Chase channel. For today’s podcast, we have longtime Girls Chase contributor Alek Rolstad.

Alek’s back for a rip-roaring look at picking up girls at nighttime. Included in this interview is an example pickup of Alek’s, and a few of Alek’s incredible sexual game techniques.