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Picking Up Women in After-Hours Venues

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By: Alek Rolstad

picking up women in after-hours venuesThe regular nightlife’s over, but the after-hours venues are still on. How do you pick up women from these places – and not risk late-night rejections?

Hey guys and welcome back.

In my last article, I gave an overview of after-hours venues.

These venues remain open after the general nightlife closes. They are the clubs that people go to if they want to party more. They usually attract more of the power-going crowd, like ravers and clubbers. Those may make up half the crowd. The rest will be regular people who have no idea how they got there.

I recommended opting for gay-friendly after-hours places or straight-friendly gay places. They tend to have the most girls with less male competition (most men there are gay).

Gay-friendly after-hours places are not unusual because those places are known as party scenes, and nobody parties harder, longer, and more seriously than gay people. They will readily go to the after-hours venues. Most after-hours venues that are good have a gay clientele.

Those that don’t tend to be sausage fests with primarily straight men.

You may see more men, but most don’t “count” because they are gay. This is even more so in gay venues open to straight people. Even more interesting is that gay and gay-friendly venues often have more girls than those that do not attract the gay crowd.

And no, they are not lesbians.

What Makes a Good After-Hours "Pick Up Girls" Spot

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after-hours pick up girlsWhat makes an after-hours venue good to pick up women is not just that it’s open after hours. Some after-hour clubs are awful. Yet some can be gold mines.

Hi all. I hope you are all doing great.

Today I want to discuss a topic that hasn’t been discussed yet on the site—how to pick up in after-hour venues.

The truth is, picking up girls in these venues is not the same as picking up girls in “normal hours” venues. You should consider many factors and calibrate depending on the venue type.

After-hour venues are unique with their own vibe, rules, and universe, whereas regular clubs are open during hours when people usually party. But after-hours venues are open when people typically leave for home or start heading to work around 8 am. I know of a place that closes at around 11 am! When you exit the club at closing time, it is daytime, and you may see families out and about, and you are dressed flashy and all looking like a mess. Good times.

And yes, it is possible to pull even at that hour! I will get into why shortly. I have taken girls home at 10 or 11 am! I cannot guarantee they will always be the best regarding looks or personality. At that later hour, these women are usually “damaged goods.” Be warned.

We have a lot to discuss. First, let’s look at social dynamics to understand each venue type. Next week, we break down a potential game plan.

Do Drugs Help You Pick Up Girls?

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By: Alek Rolstad

drugs and picking up girlsDrugs are becoming increasingly popular in today’s nightlife scene. But if you’re on the prowl to pick up girls, are drugs a help – or a hindrance?

Hey guys. I hope you are all doing well.

Today I want to discuss a sensitive topic: drugs and seduction. William Gupta, one of our writers, addressed this topic a while back The Truth About Taking Drugs and Hooking Up with Women. I decided to give my take.

Why this post? I am a night gamer, and it is no secret that the nightlife has more drug consumption than elsewhere else. However, be aware that high drug consumption does not define all venues. This past weekend, I went to a club filled with students. Drug consumption was low. Compare this to a music venue (house music clubs and raves are known for high consumptions of MDMA and Ecstasy) or a high-end club (cocaine), and you will notice they are worlds apart.

Honestly, I prefer venues where drug consumption is low. It is easier to run game. MDMA makes everyone behave weirdly, and running good game becomes challenging. Cocaine turns people into loud jerks: girls are bitchier; men are loud and annoying. Drug consumption is a huge problem in my book.

I felt the need to write this post because I’ve noticed that the threshold to try out and take drugs is lower these days. When I started out clubbing around 2010, you seldom saw much drug use in clubs, and if it took place, it wasn’t that visible.

I have noticed that drug use has normalized in the last few years. Seeing lines of cocaine is usual. Lines of 3mmc (a cheaper substitute to cocaine) is not out of the ordinary, and MDMA use at a venue with great music? Well, obviously, you must do that! Who can have fun without it?

I can’t go to ANY venues without girls and guys asking me if I have any or know anyone selling. I know club owners who are frustrated with all the drug sales and usage in clubs. They get in serious trouble if the authorities find out that their venue is a junkie fest or if anything bad happens due to drugs, including rape, overdose, and even death—the latter happened in Paris clubs a few years ago.

I’ve been clubbing for a while and have tried different drugs. I will only talk about drugs common in clubs and those I’ve tried.

I will discuss my experience with them in the context of seduction. However, I will not discuss the following:

  • The dangers of drugs; they are well known. Most are illegal and made in shady labs. You do not know about composition and manufacture. Being a questionable business, they often cut the drugs with dangerous stuff.

  • The illegality of drugs: you commit a legal risk by carrying, offering, and taking drugs. I will not discuss this element.

  • The cost of drugs. Yes, they are expensive.

  • Getting busted taking drugs in a venue. Bouncers will kick you out (rightfully so), and you will be banned from the venue.

These factors are real. You should consider each in your assessment.

  • I will also not discuss alcohol and pick up as I have covered this in a two-part series.

When discussing these drugs, I do so objectively given my experience and avoid moralizing, or at least I’ll try. I think all drugs circulating in clubs lately are annoying and kill the party. At the end of the day, it is your body and your choice.

Here are my experiences with each drug.

Tips to Pick Up Girls in Venues with Bad Male-Female Ratios

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pick up girls despite a bad sex ratioFound yourself in a venue where the male-female ratio is no good? Too many hot dogs, not enough buns? Here’s how to pick up girls there anyway.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week I discussed the men-to-women ratio when you are out, how it affects the social dynamics, and the difficulty level you will face, thus, your results.

Dealing with an unfavorable male-to-female ratio (more men than women), whether at a party, club, or social gathering, will always make pickup and seduction MUCH harder for you. It is unbelievable how much effect this has, and odd why it is talked about so little. I know Chase has discussed it from a different, broader perspective before.

A bad ratio can redefine your night and make it more challenging because:

  • You face more male competition (women will raise their standards).

  • All men are valued less (a high supply with a low demand will lower the value of ALL the demand).

  • Women have a stronger frame because they are in a position of power. This means more testing, jealousy plots, and other annoying hoops to get through.

  • Women will turn into attention-seekers because men lose their value.

  • If you manage to hook, you have more men constantly bothering you.

Yes, a bad ratio is a significant factor.

Last week we discussed how too many girls can be problematic because of the pendulum effect: girls will eventually get bored and leave, turning the tides in your disfavor.

The IDEAL ratio is when the ratio is balanced, preferably with a bit more girls, 55/45 or even 60/40. Beyond that, the pendulum will swing in the wrong direction. For more info on this, check out my previous post.

So today, I will discuss how to deal with a bad ratio. We will cover how you should approach bad ratio nights and how to do damage control, but first, we need to discuss preventive measures.

Sex Ratios, Human Dynamics, and Picking Up Girls

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By: Alek Rolstad

sex ratio & picking up girlsThe male-to-female sex ratio has a big impact on how people behave in nightlife. A favorable ratio can help you pick up girls… but a bad one can block you.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today I want to talk about social dynamics and sex ratios.

There’s no doubt that social dynamics play a crucial role in night game while at clubs, bars, and parties, and this post also applies to social circle game, including social gatherings and private parties. Seduction occurs in social settings, so they both have that in common.

Anyone active in pickup and seduction needs social skills and a good understanding of social settings because women like socially savvy men. In my last article, I made the case that even day gamers should go to social gatherings to focus on social dynamics, so check out that post. (And if you are a beginner, you should.)

Let’s discuss a factor in both night game and social settings that determine the difficulty level so much that this simple factor can break or make your night.

That factor is the ratio, to be more precise, the male-to-female ratio in your pickup setting. You may already have a good idea about what we are about to discuss, and you likely have some knowledge about how the male-to-female ratio can affect your outing.

Nevertheless, it’s an overlooked factor that we have not discussed much. And if you are a seasoned reader, you know how we operate: we will go in-depth on how the male-to-female ratio affects social dynamics. So, this will be a theoretical but important post. Next week we will get more practical and cover different solutions to unfavorable ratios.

5 Best Places to Use Sex Talk & Turn Girls On

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By: Alek Rolstad

sex talk on datesSex talk works great for nightlife. But it isn’t just suited to there! You can use it at parties, on dates, your place… even in day game and online.

Hi guys. I hope you are all doing great.

Today’s post is straightforward to clarify some misconceptions about my signature and favorite technique, sex talk. It’s the art of setting a sexual frame and presenting an attractive sexual persona by conveying that:

  • You are an experienced lover who knows how to provide an unforgettable sexual experience for women. You understand sexual psychology, anatomy, and techniques.

You express all this in a laid-back, indirect way. You never convey that you have direct sexual desire for her. You only discuss sexual subjects to set frames and communicate those traits about you.

This “indirectness” allows you to sexualize the interaction without facing much resistance. Combining it with smooth transitions allows you to sexualize things easily and safely.

The sex talk method has been very popular since I introduced it in the late 2000s, especially with intermediate and advanced players. It makes sense because they have an excellent overall understanding of social dynamics combined with conversational control. And both are required.

Sex talk is an essential fundamental, not an advanced skill. It’s not suited for total beginners, but intermediate guys can learn it if they are comfortable talking to girls, have a decent hook game, have good fundamentals, and can manage conversations using frame control.

Even though sex talk is very efficient, many guys disregard it. Why? Some have misconceptions and believe it is only a night game technique.

Because online and day game are the two most popular methods, those unbelievers disregard sex talk as a valid method due to this misconception. I will clarify: it is not just a night game-only technique. Sex talk was not meant initially for night game. Sex talk truly shines in settings that are not at night!

First, a brief history.

How to Become a High Value Man (Real Life Example)

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become a high value manA high-value man is not just a man who POSSESSES value – he is a man who GIVES value. Here’s how to become one, with a real life case study example.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today, I want to discuss a factor in social circles and night game. It’s a concept we’ve discussed before: giving value makes you high value. In other words, to become a high value man, you need to give, not take.

Givers are valued. It’s what makes them high value. It is as simple as that.

I will delve into details and provide some theoretical background for this concept. We’ll look at examples of how giving value got me at the top of Parisian nightlife. I will share some examples of how other high value men use these tricks, and hopefully, you will see how YOU can use this concept in field.

This concept has rarely been discussed practically in the past. Instead of discussing high value as a mindset or philosophy, we will talk about how it can be useful when you are out. And that is fine; it indeed is both. More importantly, high value is a social concept and a technique! And it is the latter I’ll emphasize in this post.

New to Day Game? You NEED to Do Night Game or Social Circle Too!

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By: Alek Rolstad

day game social skillsMany day game novices make mistakenly focus JUST on day game… without raising their general social skills up too. This is a big no-no for day game success!

Hey guys.

This post is for struggling beginners.

I have written many posts defending nightgame. Online and day game has become the most popular forms of seduction lately. I understand why online game has become so widespread. It seems easy, and if you struggle with approach anxiety, sitting at home swiping left and right removes some of the scariness of seduction.

You may have this perception that if you swipe through massive numbers of hot girls, one will eventually like you, and getting a date will be a piece of cake, and it will be an easy deal moving forward. But we know it’s not quite that simple for most.

The problem is that dating apps primarily include men. Recently, I did an experiment on the Bumble dating app. I set my profile so that I was interested in both men and women.

Guess what happened? When I was ready to swipe, all I saw were guys, with a ratio of probably 90% men. It blew my mind! After a few hours, I had 53 likes. Next, I deselected that I was interested in men, and I only had three likes!

Those men are most likely bi or gay. They are a minority of men. And despite that, they made up 90% of my suggestions when I was about to swipe! So, imagine what it is like for straight guys, the majority. So finding women online is not ideal.

But what about day game? It’s a legitimate form of game. Yes, I’ve had my fair share of daygame outings. It offers many benefits, like allowing you to pick up girls without having many distractions. You don’t have to deal with the noise and the chaos so common in night game, also appealing.

You often interact one-on-one from the start—the meta in day game, going for single girls, not groups. It allows you to quickly build rapport and connect without distractions, with the intimacy of a one-on-one interaction, without interruptions from her friends. You won’t have to isolate your girl from her group, which can be probelmatic. And you don’t screw up your sleeping rhythm.

So, these are all good reasons, right? Just stick to day game.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 5: Step-by-Step

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isolate a girl: wrap upA step-by-step guide to isolating women in a seduction. Follow these key steps and make getting girls alone with you wherever you are straightforward.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

I recently shared four comprehensive posts that delve into various methods and dimensions of isolating your girl.

Today I am providing instructions for isolation techniques with a cheat sheet summarizing everything I’ve discussed about isolation, putting it all in context, and covering all the steps. I will not go into depth here, as I’ve discussed technique details already. If you haven’t read my past posts on isolation, look at the techniques here, choose what you want to work on, and read the linked post below that covers it fully.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 1: Basics

I will not share every pointer covered in my past posts today. I will mention the most efficient, useful, and crucial ones.

If it is your first time hearing about isolation, you’ve come to the right place. Isolation is a crucial technique (some would even say it is THE most essential aspect of pickup and seduction next to frame control).

Isolation is the art of getting a girl alone. It’s especially relevant if you meet girls in groups (very common in social gatherings and night game). As a reminder, here are some benefits of isolation:

  • More intimacy – it’s only you and her. This creates more of a connecting vibe.

  • Fewer distractions – no interruptions mean that you can focus on her alone.

  • Less resistance when escalating – fewer people can see and judge her, making her feel more at ease letting go and escalating the vibe with you.

  • Quieter surroundings – isolation often involves taking her to a calmer area, facilitating verbal communication.

  • Moving her elsewhere – grants you bonus rapport points, as experiencing different spaces makes her feel like she knows you better.

But isolating her can sometimes be tricky, so we dedicated four posts to this, as it is such an important subject.

We discussed a lot of content in those four posts. It may seem like isolation is the hardest thing on earth to pull off. The truth is, if the girl likes you, isolation can be easy: “Hey, wanna go outside and grab a smoke?” Yes, it can be that simple. Sometimes, it is more challenging, and you may need to befriend her friends. By default, I always do so preventively!

Note: the steps may look overblown and advanced because I aim to give as much detail as possible to ensure success. However, this may be overwhelming: it may look overcomplicated, advanced, and too hard to pull off if you are a newer reader. Do not panic. I will provide a simpler setup later in this post.

How to Isolate a Girl in a Seduction, Pt. 4: Mini-Isolation

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mini-isolationWhen logistics or compliance don’t permit full isolation with a girl, instead: mini-isolate her. It’s simple, and can springboard you into full isolation.

Hey guys.

Today I will share another isolation technique to use when isolation is difficult. Try this option If you run into situations when the go-to strategy granting full isolation, as described in my previous articles, is not feasible. Your best bet is to opt for mini-isolation: you are still near her group but slightly outside, say just three feet away. You may not be entirely alone with her; however, her friends are not directly part of your interaction.

As you can imagine, being completely isolated is more desirable because it allows more benefits:

  • You both have more intimacy.

  • You have fewer chances of people chiming in and disrupting your interaction.

  • She will feel more at ease acting sexually and escalating with you away from her peers, and, even better, she is not in view of everyone in the venue.

The problem is that sometimes you cannot fully isolate for various reasons. I will discuss these below.

So, what can you do? Do you keep conversing with the whole group? Sure, that is one solution, but it is more challenging to set the right frames with your girl when you deal with the entire group. And how do you truly connect and escalate the vibe with your girl if you are dealing with the whole group? A better option would be to go for something in between. This is where mini-isolation comes in—the “lesser evil” option.

Mini-isolation allows you to get some peace and intimacy.

Read on to find out how to get your girl mini-isolated and what to do during mini-isolation.