Articles by Author: Alek Rolstad

If you open a girl in conversation, but her response is neutral or negative, what then? Follow these steps when you get less-than-stellar responses to your opens.

Hey all. I hope you are doing fine. Today I will resume where we left discussing opening and hooking. Last time I mentioned how some openers contain embedded hooks while others do not and reviewed factors defining whether your opener can lead to a potential hook and when you should focus on hook game.

Today I want to drill down further on opening and hooking. One of my experienced students pointed out that despite his level, there is no such thing as “talking too much about opening and hooking,” and I fully agree.

So, let’s discuss what to do when the hook is absent and the response is negative, neutral, or not as positive as you’d like after you deliver your opener.

The negative response sucks; usually, it’s a rejection, and there’s little confusion about what is happening.

Neutral vibes are confusing. Should you stay, or should you leave? The “not as positive as you’d like” response is likely the worst because you feel a sense of hope, yet the vibe is not positive enough to move, isolate, escalate the vibe, and push the interaction forward. It’s a common situation. You feel that things are working out, the girl seems positive, yet it seems like the interaction is going nowhere. Most men start believing that as long as they keep interacting, sooner rather than later, she will crack, and she just needs more time.

Not so. In those situations, it is better to make a move at the risk of losing the girl than be stuck in an interaction that goes nowhere. So, make that move!

I have more to say but thought it would be better to dedicate a post (next week) because this situation is one many men face, and it is not necessarily all about the hooking phase.

With that said, let’s concentrate on hooking and how to handle positive, neutral, and negative responses.

Sex talk isn’t the only way Alek Rolstad seduces girls. Discover his full repertoire for picking up women without using his famed weapon of mass seduction.

Hey guys. I hope you are all doing great.

I was chatting with Chase the other day, discussing future articles. I share article ideas with Chase (he is better suited to tackle some topics since they are within his field of expertise) and other topics I may have more to say about.

And this is great because I am often unaware of what subjects might be interesting, and others can point out areas to discuss that I might not think of.

Here’s what Chase suggested:

It might be interesting to see “Alek’s game if sex talk doesn't take.” If a girl is highly resistant or immune to sex talk, what do you do? Just bail? Run a different type of game? If sex talk doesn't work with her, does that mean she'll be closed to sex with you, or do you need to run things with her differently?

It’s a fascinating subject because, after all these years, people know me as “the sex talk guy,” and rightfully so. I do not mind being known as this guy.

Clearly, after 15 years in this game (this summer, it will be my tenth year at Girls Chase—I started writing after being active in this field for five years), I know a bit more than sex talk. Sure, I have perfected this technique since I am undoubtedly one of the inventors. I did not invent using sexual frames, though; many great seducers have inspired me. They’ve used techniques that helped me build my methods, so my repertoire is vast.

And, if I were to use sex talk in all my interactions and outings, I would be bored to death with seduction. I use sex talk less these days, to the detriment of my success, since I consider it a weapon of mass seduction, a super powerful tool with a high hit rate. In my eyes, it is still my best weapon. But I refrain from using it more often than not because, after all these years, I am a bit bored of it. I want seduction to feel fresh and exciting. The truth is, there is a lot of great and exciting material out there.

Some material is good, some amazing, and some as powerful as my own “sex talk,” even though it will always give me superior results because I’ve mastered sex talk at its highest level.

I like to focus on different material because, to my surprise, I can use other material in combination with sex talk. Imagine adding some push and pull—showing mixed signals between sex talk gambits! It can help you “set the scene” or create the ideal setting for a smooth sex talk game (isolation, a great hook, a good social frame, and high comfort levels).

Ironically, I have become increasingly curious about material other than my own after all these years. The irony lies that I should have been curious and open-minded during my early days, not now. I would have gained far more from it back then! But I was too obsessed with sexual frames then, and the desire to create my individual style, so that I would shed away tons of great material would have worked better in many settings than my sex talk, for example, in loud clubs.

From the two previous posts discussing my earlier and recent inspirations, you can likely tell I possess a massive repertoire. Sometimes I like to switch back and forth between various methods. Some are better suited for specific settings (loud clubs, small clubs, big clubs) and others for certain dynamics (all interactions are different, and some benefit more from different approaches).

Some nights, I attempted to get girls by using pure Mystery Method, demonstrating social value and following the M3 model. (If you are not familiar with the Mystery Method, familiarize yourself with it!) However, this was more for giggles, but I made it work. For fun, I have tried using the good old-school Speed Seduction style, also for giggles, and I made this work, too.

However, I use certain styles in combination with my typical sex talk style, and I will describe those below.