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Easily Handle Sex Talk Tests with Listing

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By: Alek Rolstad

listing to beat sex talk testsListing is a handy tactic for getting past all kinds of tests from women — including women’s tests when you use sex talk.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I talked about frame control and how to handle potential tests when using sex talk. I distinguished between tests that women may use to test your frame, congruence, and authenticity. If you are new to this concept, I recommend reading last week’s post, as it will help you identify whether you are facing resistance tests, which require a slightly different approach. I included several links on how to deal with resistance. For example, if a girl says, “I am not that type of girl,” this may indicate a resistance test.

A few articles ago, I covered the importance and power of using fractionation during sex talk. This has many benefits, including limiting your chance of facing resistance by creating comfort. It also helps keep the conversation fresh and avoids overinflating the sex talk. More importantly, you can avoid getting tested, although you may not be able to prevent all tests.

There are many types of tests, and they are usually contextual. That’s why it isn’t easy to provide a comprehensive list of examples and “catch-all” answers to each. Frame control tests are about testing your frame, and dealing with them is something you must practice and troubleshoot individually. So, go out, get tested, and try to pass girls’ tests. If you fail, go home and think of better responses to reframe, or visit the forums and ask for help. You can even hire or hire a coach (wink).

3 Ways to Beat Women's Tests When You Use Sex Talk

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By: Alek Rolstad

own the sexual frameSex talk is a powerful technique — yet women will test you on it. “Is sex all you think about?” “Why are you always talking about sex?” Use these 3 ways to sail past tests & get the girl.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

In the past few weeks, I’ve delved into sex talk topics, focusing on calibration and fractionation. This technique involves alternating between sex talk and other subjects to build comfort and avoid inflating the topic. By doing this, you keep the interaction from growing stale. Mastering fractionation is essential for effective sex talk. If you are unfamiliar with it, read up on it and practice.

Today, I want to discuss potential tests you may encounter when using sex talk. Some examples you may hear from girls:

“Are you always talking about sex?”

“Is sex the only thing you think about?”

“Is sex the only thing you talk about?”

“Why are we talking about sex?”

“Why are you telling me about this (sexual thing)?

Depending on the context, you may hear many types of these tests, but they are generally along those lines.

How to Fractionate In and Out of Sex Talk

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keep the frame freshSex talk is a powerful seduction tool. But overuse it, and the sex talk turns stale. How do you avoid this? With fractionation. Here’s how to keep your sex talk fresh.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, we discussed the importance of using fractionation with sex talk. For an explanation of how fractionation works, see Fractionation Simply Explained.

Fractionation is a simple yet powerful technique for alternating between a topic, vibe, or frame. In this instance, it involves bringing up sexual topics, then switching to a different subject for a while, before returning to the conversation about sex.

Why should you use fractionation?

  1. It keeps the interaction fresh.

  2. It avoids overinflating the subject, which can decrease its value.

  3. It leaves the girl wanting more, which makes her more invested in you and the interaction.

  4. It creates comfort, which is especially useful if you sense resistance coming. This helps you bypass potential roadblocks.

  5. It helps you maintain the social frame so that the interaction seems smooth.

But exactly how should you fractionate? When? And into what?

First, a disclaimer. Today, I will provide detailed calibration information. Keep in mind that I am doing this because some readers are already good with sex talk. Do not feel intimidated or fall for the trap that you will not do well unless you are perfectly calibrated. You will usually be fine if you at least fractionate occasionally. The details below encompass things I do not always think about when in-field myself. But this is Girls Chase, so the more information we can provide to assist, the better. But do not get caught up with every calibration detail.

Fractionate Your Sex Talk (and Amplify Its Power)

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fractionate your sex talk and amplify its powerSex talk is matchless for setting powerful sexual frames. But some girls aren’t prepared for non-stop sex talk. The solution? Fractionate your sexual frames.

Hey guys, welcome back.

I have noticed that more men, particularly those at an intermediate level on the forums, have been discussing fractionation. I decided to write some basic posts to assist with calibrating and using it correctly.

Today, I’ll cover the essentials and discuss how to use fractionation in sex talk. I have already mentioned the role of fractionation in pickup in previous articles, and I believe it is a key technique to master.

To fractionate during sex talk, you switch from sex talk to another topic, then rinse and repeat. This allows you to change up and fractionate your interaction. For example, on a dance floor, you may dance sexually and then switch to a more social style of dancing, before fractionating back to dancing sexually. The same goes for when you opt for a push-pull strategy of mixed signals—you show interest for a bit, before switching to non-interest, and back again.

Fractionation is a broad concept that includes various techniques. Generally, it involves switching between different states, vibes, or frames. I go into more depth in this post:

Fractionation Simply Explained

Using Sex Talk to Set a Sexual Frame with Women: Basics

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using sex talk to set sexual framesSex talk has become a popular way to sexualize conversations with girls. But arousal is only a bonus: the real purpose of sex talk is to CONTROL the FRAME!

Hi guys. I hope you are doing well.

Today, I would like to revisit the basics. I have noticed a surge in the popularity of my signature technique, sex talk. While I’ve experienced much success, I’ve realized that some intermediate practitioners have gaps in their theoretical understanding of how it works.

Often, they come across certain gambits and repeat them verbatim. Since these are field-tested often, they are known to yield good results, especially when delivered well and supported by strong fundamentals.

However, we all know that things do not always go as planned. Sometimes, we encounter resistance. Some guys may not fully understand how to handle this. They face tests and may be unsure how to respond. The woman might steer the interaction her way, taking control and leaving the seducer outframed. When this happens, the interaction can quickly fall apart.

I will address these issues in the coming weeks, providing details on how to tackle them. All these issues relate to a single aspect: frame setting and frame control.

It boggles my mind. Historically, this community recognized frame control as essential for every seducer to understand. Everyone discussed its importance. These days, however, I seldom see any discussions about this. Most agree that setting and controlling the frame is crucial. Frame control means establishing rules for the interaction, ultimately allowing one to take charge.

Today, we will discuss how sex talk relates to frame control. Once you understand this, you will not only grasp how sex talk works and why it works, but you will also be better equipped to troubleshoot potential roadblocks and, more importantly, know how to overcome them.

So, let’s dive in. This information may be basic for some and new for others. I recommend that both beginners and experienced seducers read on. Naturally, newer practitioners benefit more, but experienced guys can also gain valuable insights. It is easy to forget that sex talk is a framing technique, and a review of how it works can be helpful. Even veterans like me benefit from occasional refreshers.

I covered this subject in my early days at Girls Chase, How to Use Sex Talk to Set a Sexual Tone and Mood, but this post shows a different angle. Read both if you’d like the best possible understanding.

Verbal Seduction Gambits: "Who Likes Sex More, Men or Women?"

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sex talk gambits: who likes sex more, men or women?Rope women in with two very different seduction gambits that ask “who likes sex more, men or women?” One of these is bold… but the other is light as air.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Now that we are discussing sex talk, I’d like to share two fun gambits that are both stimulating and light.

These are simple to pull off and have the same theme: Who likes sex more, men or women? However, both gambits are very different. This shows how we can use one theme to set different frames.

Both gambits can set a sexual frame and get the conversation going about sex. Both gambits are easy and fun to use and are good tools for stimulating her mentally and sexually. Despite talking about the same theme, they both serve different purposes. The first gambit is light and not too explicit, so it’s ideal for early game but is still beneficial later. This one can pace her reality and show that you understand her world when it comes to sex. It also frames yourself as nonjudgmental and, more importantly, sets sex-positive frames, which can help you dodge potential resistance later.

The other version is more about sexual prizing. This gambit conveys a great understanding of sex and female sexuality and shows girls that you are sexually experienced and a good lover. It is more explicit, so it may sexually stimulate her. It’s ideal for mid-to-late game, but you may use it earlier if the situation allows and you know what you are doing.

These are not complex gambits. They are simplified to work on most women, whether highly educated or less mature.

I will share two variations; one focuses on the socio-sexual aspects, which is lighter, and the other focuses on female understanding and is more explicit, discussing sex and orgasms.

Using Negativity When Sex Talking to Girls (Can It Work?)

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negativity that attractsNegativity done right can make for engaging conversation – but it’s also potentially loaded and risks putting women off. Here’s how to use it right.

Hey guys. In the upcoming weeks, I will focus on sex talk. This is my signature technique, which many of our advanced readers appreciate. I will share updated insights along with the latest techniques and tools for calibration.

A poster on the Skilled Seducer Forum mentioned some time ago that he struggles with using sex talk. He seems relatively new to it, and it is not a beginner-friendly technique. There are several interesting factors to consider regarding his question.

Here’s what he says.

None of the Sexual Gambits Work

Whenever I use sex talk, it seems to make girls angry and defensive rather than aroused. This is what I usually do. I need to transition into sex talk somehow, so I use anger:

"You know what REALLY frustrated me a while back? I was arguing with a friend about who has it easier, men or women. And he made me mad because he said women!"

Then I show my prizable traits with more frustrated talk:

"…Women have it way harder! To find a guy who can stimulate you both physically and mentally, who can make you feel safe yet desired...that's difficult! Ugh, I really do hate this!"

I say that non-sarcastically, of course. My thought process: It seems like I’m venting, but, in fact, I’m showing prizable traits.

"And how difficult it is to find a guy who can show desire but also control himself. That is what's terrible about being a woman! You can’t find really good men easily, and I HATE that. I feel sorry for all the women out there.

Some women don’t know what they like or what they want. As you know, to arouse a guy, you touch him in that one place, but to arouse a woman, you touch her everywhere else but there. And women need an experienced guy to show them this. It must be terrible looking for such a guy and always being disappointed, ugh."

So, I vent away, expecting heaps of attraction and arousal. However, women usually respond poorly. They argue with anything I say. Or they say they don’t have an opinion and change the topic.

They seem irritated instead of aroused. Am I doing something wrong, or are all the gambits just bad?

(See None of the Sexual Gambits Work)

Before you jump to the conclusion that the person asking this is a noob or frustrated, which may or may not be true, the fact remains that many of my gambits do play around with some negative emotions, such as:

  • Objectification (discussing sexual objectification of women, then presenting a theory of sexual subjectification)

And these are just a few. They all have a negative underlying connotation. After all, frustration is undesirable, and so is objectification.

The question is straightforward: Does using negativity or referring to negative experiences or states, such as frustration, truly work to transition into sex talk? More specifically, is the OP’s approach successful in practice? And if it is, how do you transition from there?

Stranger Sex vs. Relationship Sex: A Sex Talk Gambit

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intimacy or impulse?Sex with strangers is different from sex within relationships. The distinction isn’t just academic – it’s useful fuel for a seduction, too.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I want to share my perspective on a gambit that has brought me much success.

In mid-2023, veteran poster Tominho on skilledseducer.com shared a sex talk gambit called “Strangers versus Lovers.” This concept highlights the differences between sexual experiences in a relationship and those with a stranger. His take differs from mine, so if you like what you read below, check out his version as well.

I like this gambit because it accomplishes many things, ranging from the obvious: setting a sexual frame.

This gambit also accomplishes these:

  • Connects with her pacing – You show that you understand her point of view regarding sex. (Most women share the point of view presented in this gambit.)

  • Creates comfort – As you discuss comfort, her comfort increases. (I think my version emphasizes comfort more than Tominho’s, which focuses more on arousal by emphasizing the magic of having sex with a mysterious stranger.)

  • Stimulates her – Tominho’s version emphasizes arousal more, but one can spice up the version I present here, and I do that often, too.

More importantly:

  • Sexual prizing occurs – As you share knowledge about sexual subjects (linked to pacing).

  • You increase frame control – This gambit is great at flipping the script and reframing objections women have about casual sex and why they tend to prefer sex in relationships.

Next, I’ll run through the gambit. This gambit is safe to use and suitable for the early game (but also works great in mid-to-late-game). I will also discuss Tominho’s version, which works better as a mid-to-late-game gambit.

Classic Sex Talk Gambit: Sex Is Natural

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talk past her defensesThis basic sex talk gambit is easy to use – and can melt women’s resistance to sex. The way it works: framing sex as something NATURAL.

Hey, guys.

One of my signature techniques is sex talk. I will discuss this topic extensively in the coming weeks, considering its recent rise in popularity on the skilled seducer’s forum.

Sex talk has long been a recognized technique. I have established a reputation in the seduction community thanks to my experience using it.

Since then, I have written numerous posts on the subject, which I’ve compiled in this thread.

STICKIED: Sex Talk Gambits Compilation (And more)

This thread is, in a way, an homage to the sex talk legacy. I realized that one of the initial sex talk gambits did not show up on this list! Some classics, such as the eight types of orgasms (one of my first) as well the gambits in these articles, 3 Sex Talk Gambits So Bold & Explicit They Arouse Girls Instantly and 3 Sex Gambits: Good/Bad Sex, Sex is Unfair, and the Dark Side (especially the sex is unfair gambit) are there, but one classic that has been well-utilized is missing.

It’s time to remedy that. This gambit can remove resistance. It is from 2009, and I was not a master then, but this basic gambit is easy to pull off, safe, and is still efficient.

For the gambit, you may skip ahead to the section “Sex is Natural Gambit.” However, I recommend not doing so as I will share some interesting ideas and history that I think you will enjoy.

Bad Nights Out: Fixing a Bad Mood from Rejection or Being Unsocial

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fixing a bad nightSome nights you go out and the night just goes bad. Maybe you got too many rejections. Maybe you’re just being unsocial. Here’s how to get back on track.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I want to talk about state control and share valuable tips whenever things are not going how you want. These suggestions can help shift the momentum and get your outing back on track.

This post is primarily for night gamers who frequent bars and clubs, but you may apply these tips to any situation. I emphasize night game because it often relies more on your state, mood, and momentum. However, momentum influences all types of social interactions, with a particular emphasis on night game, especially your micro momentum. This refers to the momentum you experience during a specific outing.

Night game is more of a performance act. You require a great mood to convey better energy and guarantee hooks while benefiting from different strategic openings and options and tackling all the potential wildcards in chaotic environments. Past interactions affect subsequent interactions.

When we consider social proof—when women see you interact with other women, you will realize how this affects future interactions. The opposite is true—when you are not seen with other women and are a lonely wallflower, or worse, viewed when repeatedly rejected, it will sink your future interactions. It kills your good mood and overall vibe and erodes the perception others have of you.

Night interactions are interconnected, though they often include episodic elements that vary depending on the venue and strategy used. Day game tends to be more focused and contained, which presents advantages and disadvantages. It’s easier to change locations and start anew if you face massive rejections. It’s more challenging because you won’t have the benefit of social proof.

Of course, past interactions can affect future interactions in day game, but mostly internally. Your overall mood and state can determine your vibe and, in turn, your overall delivery and success of your interactions. In my experience, these effects are less pronounced than in night game.

When you are at a club, and things start to go downhill, you likely have noticed that interactions usually worsen. You may begin with a poor baseline. After forcing yourself to make a few approaches, things just don’t go your way. Courageous as you are, you move on but notice future interactions do not seem any better—they get worse. You may lose all motivation and stop approaching. The night ends with wandering around and, at best, some half-hearted interactions.

Men get inconsistent results in night game because they slip into the downward spiral of a negative loop as they struggle. Now that you know some mechanisms behind your poor night, we can discuss the solutions.

We can address two key dimensions with solutions: the mental and the social dimensions.