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The Seduction Liminoid: How to Create a Sexual Tension Bubble

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How do you build a sexual tension bubble with a girl, where you can make your own rules and foster sexual freedom? By harnessing the seductive power of the liminoid.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week we discussed the concept of liminality and how it applies to pickup and seduction.

In broad terms, the concept of liminality describes the transitional phase within a society. It's when the status quo is deconstructed, and the new has not yet been institutionalized. This is the phase betwixt and between in the lifespan of society and culture. But this concept can also be applied to humans. We can see liminality as a rite of passage, for instance, during the time from childhood to adulthood.

But the theory doesn't stop there. We've discussed how liminality could apply to seduction, and more interestingly, how it could help us make better sense of certain seduction concepts, namely:

We looked at how seduction is about leaving a girl in a liminal phase (state of limbo) when she is curious about you and your interest level or intentions. Since liminality is the phase betwixt and between, leaving her in a phase when something is happening — but not certain or well-defined — keeps the intrigue and mystery going.

We also saw how seduction ends when this phase ends, as you move away from the liminal phase. We also discussed how keeping her in a liminal phase can keep your relationship going in the long-term.

Another key aspect relates to how a liminal phase is liberating. Since it is betwixt and between, social rules are somewhat broken. Something may be real, while at the same time not “official,” or unknown to the social world.

According to the great anthropologist Victor Turner:

“They are dead to the social world, but alive to the asocial world. Many societies make a dichotomy, explicit or implicit, between sacred and profane, cosmos and chaos, order and disorder. In liminality, profane social relations may be discontinued, former rights and obligations are suspended, the social order may seem to have been turned upside down.” (Turner, V., Liminal to Liminoid, p. 59)

Today we will discuss the other part of his essay, the liminoid, and how that applies to pickup and seduction.

Liminality and Seduction: Inside the Bubble of Sexual Tension

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Have you ever been in a sexual bubble with someone, seemingly separated from the outside world and free to make your own rules? Liminal space is the seducer’s Shangri-La.

Today I will share a bit of an abstract concept. It’s inspired me often in my analysis and overall understanding of pickup and seduction. Hopefully the reason why will become clear by the second half of this post, where I’ll show an applied example.

This concept is called “liminality” and comes from social theory, or more precisely from anthropology. It’s also used in psychology and sociology, as well as social philosophy.

Anthropologist Arnold van Gennep coined liminality, but anthropologist Victor Turner perfected it. Turner has written multiple texts on the subject, but I would consider his "Liminal to Liminoid, in Play, Flow, and Ritual: An Essay in Comparative Symbology" to be the flagship study.

I will not go into great detail about the theory for the sake of keeping this article concise and on point, but in my academic career, I‘ve been often inspired by Turner's concept of liminoid spaces (see my post on the secret society).

Pickup and Seduction Gambit: The Period Paradox

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This pickup gambit is designed to help you transition into sex talk. It gets her intrigued, sets a sexual frame, and conveys your understanding of female sexuality.

Hey guys, welcome back. Today I will share a very easy sex talk gambit. It is not a nuclear bomb of sexual frames. However, it is a fun and captivating transition.

Guys always ask me for transitions. It is the sex talk related subject most men struggle with. I sympathize because I’ll admit it is the most complicated part of sex talk. Once you get the ball rolling after setting the initial sexual frame (and she accepts it), escalating further and talking more about sex becomes a piece of cake.

The struggle is to get that ball rolling.

There are multiple ways to do it, like using proxies or bridging subjects. The beauty of these techniques is that they are universal tools. Sometimes, situational events like what a girl says can be used to lead into sexual talk.

In my opinion, the easiest, most powerful way to transition to sex talk is to have a premade gambit that you can either use as-is or modify depending on the circumstances.

Here are some premade gambits for you:

Not only can you re-use what’s worked in the past, but they are also tailored to work as best as possible. And through repeated use, they can be enhanced and changed for maximum success. (You can trust my gambits; they work for me and others. Considering I am a risk-averse seducer, they are pretty much rejection free.)

This gambit (The Period Paradox) can provide other goodies to assist your interaction:

So, with that said, I will share a little gambit that is fun and easy to pull off any time in the interaction. This is for night game. The vibe is loaded, sexual, and delivering it is no-risk. You do not need to have the girl very hooked to pull it off (I think one may even use this fun gambit as an opener, although don’t take my word for it as I have not tried that yet).

In day game, one has to watch out a bit more, so I suggest delivering it only when she is truly hooked, or after you have managed to get her seated with you in the case of an instant date, or a first date.

Besides these consideration, I believe that lower intermediates can pull this off without issues. I also think beginners may give it a try.

Pickup and Seduction Gambit: Sexual Frustration

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This seduction gambit is good for introducing sex talk and setting a sexual frame very quickly. It utilizes contrasting and conveys to her that you are a sexual prize.

Hey guys. I hope you are all doing great. Today I want to share another cool gambit that can help you hook girls in and immerse them further into the interaction, but more importantly, introduce sex and a sexual frame.

This gambit, like every gambit, should serve these purposes:

  • To inspire you

  • To use as is (or reword the gambit and add your own touch)

  • To use as a template to create your own gambits

Most importantly, you’ll see how to use seduction concepts as I teach with examples. You’ll learn how different concepts are mashed together and how they are applied in seduction. I will share the gambit first, then talk about some ways to transition from there.

This gambit is perfectly fit for early in the interaction, post-hook, or even right after the opening! Yes! You may use this gambit as a hook gambit.

What do I mean by this?

Most interactions start with the opening phase: you initiate contact. (I know, some may say the interaction starts before that phase, when you catch her eye and make visual contact. You are right, but let’s leave the semantics out for now.) After an opening, you may realize the vibe is a bit “meh.” She did not outright reject you, but you don’t feel like the conversation is flowing yet. So, you need to hook her in, getting her immersed into the conversation. We call this the hook phase.

This gambit can help you get her hooked.

Let’s cover the gambit and look at the mechanisms at play, then find out how you can use this to get further into sex talk.

How to Make Rejections from Girls Work in Your Favor

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Is there a way to make rejections and bad reactions from girls work in your favor? Yes! In fact, it’s super easy with this “walk away and rebound” strategy.

Hey guys. Today I will discuss a subject that may seem a bit odd. Can you actually benefit from a rejection? Can you turn a rejection around into something useful?

And no, I will not attempt any silly reframes claiming that rejections harden you up as a man, or that they serve as great learning lessons (even though they do).

What I’ll discuss is how you can use a rejection and turn it into something beneficial right then and there, at that moment.

I see a couple benefits in having this mindset and skill:

  • Approaching becomes less scary since rejections can be turned into something useful

  • Rejections can actually increase your chances of getting girls

To me, that is a win-win.

But this is just in theory. How it works in practice depends on the circumstances and your ability to calibrate and react accordingly.

Ultimately, it is about how well you perform in the face of rejection. And this is what I will help you with today.

As I cover this technique, I’ll try to be detailed as possible on the nuances. It may be easy to grasp theoretically, but it’s a bit harder to pull off in real life. It requires you to observe small nuances and act on them.

It may be hard for the beginner, due to lack of experience. But the cure is gaining more field experience through trial and failures.

This post is best suited for night game.

My Truth About Women (And How Most Guys Have It Wrong) Part 2

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Hey guys, and welcome back.

Here’s part two of a remake of my old mASF article from 2009. In this polemic, I reflect on the current state of affairs in the community, and my challenge of the dogma of the time. I decided to remake it not only for nostalgic purposes but also because many thoughts are still valid today.

Of course, I’ve discovered other things as I grew older and more experienced. I also got some ideas wrong then. To make up for this, I will add my “current day” notes in italics.

Part 1 discussed pickup, street pickup, clubs, and my views. This time, I reflect on women, what they want, and what they are like.

I really challenge the current paradigm, and you can see how the perspective of the new paradigm (the school of sexual game) gives alternative explanations and theories. Although it had its flaws (which I will mention in my present-day remarks), it did explain much about value: being high value and communicating value. In my opinion, the sexual game perspective was better, and I still believe it is. It was not perfect then, but I think I’ve managed to explain its many flaws.

Enjoy!

My Truth About Women (And How Most Guys Have It Wrong) Part 1

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Hey guys. Currently I am writing down my life story from 2007 to today. Doing so, I got immersed in the past and revisited some great moments: crazy stories, amazing women, and all my great revelations about women and the art of seduction.

I also had some good flashbacks from the old mASF (Moderated Alt.Seduction.Fast) boards, the pickup community forum that used to be its main home, hosting all the big names in seduction.

I had joined this community in 2007 at the age of 15. I quickly skimmed through it. Being so young, I was a fast learner. But I also had little life experience, which seemed to be a curse, but it also forced me to think on my own. No experience meant no bias. So, I was always open to seeing the world differently.

I will take credit for being one of the pioneers to introduce "sex talk" not as a necessity to escalate the process into sex, but as a tool for creating attraction and compliance. By this, I mean:

Upon learning how to do these things, one could get laid with a much higher consistency. This was a different approach than what most guys were doing. I was getting plenty of followers, and many older members enjoyed my new, fresh ideas. But these concepts were also prone to criticism for contradicting the current beliefs back then, which included “Don’t verbalize sex.”

Nevertheless, the administrator of the mASF, Formhandle, invited me to join the elite forum called Masterminds, which was available to the public for reading, but where only selected members could post (Chase and Cody were also members).

What I’m sharing today is a remake of my first post there from early 2009 when I was 17. I’ll fix the spelling and may rephrase bad formulations. I'll also include clarifying "notes from the present" to show how my thinking has evolved.

So, here is part 1 of 2 of the remake of the old mASF article that was lost after its decline. Enjoy.

Pickup and Seduction Gambit: The Femme Fatale

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Here’s a secret weapon of mine. This seduction gambit gets very sexual very quickly; it introduces touch and creates investment and compliance, but no resistance!

Hey guys. Welcome back. Today I feel like getting practical and want to share a powerful seduction gambit FOR NIGHT GAME. It is one of my deadly routines.

This gambit has been hailed in close circles as a super potent cannon. It’s been mentioned as a “secret” gambit for a while now. Some people knew it as “femme fatale” but never knew what it was about. They just knew that those who understood it received amazing results.

The way this gambit works is to allow yourself to get HYPER SEXUAL in just a FEW minutes. It uses mechanisms for increased compliance. I will, of course, fully cover how and why it works.

I have pulled girls with this almost RIGHT away. It’s because this gambit will allow you to amp her up quickly since it will get so sexual that the girl cannot control herself.

Now, some may think, “Oh, here we go; another super risky gambit which either works very well or very badly.” Let me state CLEARLY that this is not the case. There is very little chance of facing resistance or bad vibes.

Honestly, I have not received ANY adverse reactions from this. I have not experienced any forms of resistance, whether it is female state control (FSC) or anti-slut defense (ASD).

The idea behind this gambit is to get from social to sexual, even in groups. This gambit was created during a Scandinavian winter where you have these issues:

  • Women default to a very non-sexual state (because of the cold and humid winter)

  • There isn’t much time to interact with girls in smoking areas because it’s cold, and girls will run back inside. You must hit quickly and do so powerfully or get nowhere.

This gambit works in warmer temperatures, too. I’m just sharing some background info.

Be aware that this routine may get you laid super quickly, and often, but it may not always do so. However, if it doesn't give you its full effect, it will still help you stimulate girls and set a sexual frame. In other words, you won’t lose anything by using it.

Again, this routine is best for night game (I would not recommend it for day game). It does require you have solid fundamentals in place before attempting, since it requires some calibration and technical understanding of pickup and seduction.

Alek's Sexy Seducer Fashion Guide

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As seducers, we want to be noticed and make a great impression before we even talk to a girl. Good fashion accomplishes that, and here’s how I go about it.

Hey, guys. I hope you are doing great. Today I want to discuss style and grooming. Now, I am not hired as a writer here on Girls Chase to write about style, nor am I a professional fashion writer.

But for years, clothing has been a favorite hobby of mine. I've discovered that how you dress is important when meeting women, but it is not like women will love you for your clothes.

However, dressing badly can be a game killer.

See, a woman cares about how she is perceived, and if you don’t dress well, she will not feel comfortable being seen with you. This could potentially ruin your chances of getting the girl. You may have read my earlier articles on female state control (FSC). I wrote articles about social value and how a minimum threshold of social value is required to avoid women holding back and resisting. Dressing appropriately is clearly one of the key fundamentals for success with women. Your fashion must fit the function!

You may also become a bit like me, who happens to be deep into fashion. That’s cool. Dressing crazy good can even get women to approach you on the street. But that requires next-level fashion skills that take much time and effort to acquire. It must become a full-time hobby.

I participate in fashion competitions and have won one so far. These usually take place at fashion clubs in big cities in Europe.

In the community, I’ve been known to be one of the most flamboyantly dressed players. That said, I will refrain from turning into a fashion blogger, although I will share some overall guidelines.

Pickup and Seduction Gambit: The Sex Therapist

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The “Sex Therapist” gambit focuses on cold reading and pacing. You guess something deep about her sexuality, then blow her mind with touch and sexual prizing.

Hey guys, and welcome back. Today I will share another pickup and seduction gambit. This one is called The Sex Therapist.

The reason I've been sharing these gambits lately (besides serving as personal notes) is to not only give you great tools to use but also show examples of how you can create your own gambits to fit your style and personality. You can follow the exact recipe, or just take the concepts you like and craft your own tools of deadly mass seduction. That's why I always share the mechanisms at play, which serve as key lessons. Sharing gambits gives an overview of how many concepts can play together.

These gambits should also serve as inspiration.

I do this myself. Sometimes I deliver a gambit straight from the script; other times, I use modifications. Sometimes I use simplified versions (when I lack time or prefer to focus on something else). So, I’m not a robot delivering the same gambit after gambit.

My interactions are typically made up of:

  • Scripted gambits

  • Freestyling conversations that respond to her reaction (and her words), with some improvisation and even some fluff in between

  • A variation of gambits calibrated to the situation and the girl

So, here is a gambit I use often. It is simple to pull off, accomplishes much, and also allows you multiple potential follow-ups.

This gambit is slightly less complex to understand since there are fewer fancy concepts at play. It requires the player to have his fundamentals down to get great results (good news: we have TONS of articles on fundamentals).

I’ve only used this gambit in night game.

It works best on non-freaky girls. These are girls who don’t have an apparent sexual presence or sexual confidence. Sadly, it is not always easy to figure out who is really sexual and who is not. (The way they act and dress can be misleading, and many are attention-whores in disguise.) But don’t worry if you use this gambit on one of these types, as it still works on them with some calibration. If you know you are dealing with such a girl, you should use more juicy gambits like the orgasm-control gambit or the eight types of orgasm gambit.

This gambit works best on more ordinary and normal girls with an average amount of sexual experience.