Tips and tactics on being successful with women using the mediums of telephone, email, and text-messaging.
Teasing girls is fun. It's also attractive because it demonstrates that she knows you don't idolize her or put her on a pedestal. Women like when a man treats her like a person, not some angel.
It’s been years… and now she wants to reconnect. Should you meet
her? And beyond that, should you date her?
I received an email recently from a girl I hadn’t heard from in six or seven years.
I’d known her from social circle (back when I still maintained a social circle). She was skinny, fun, and cute, with an endearing California Valley girl accent (and all the expressiveness that entails). She also had that somewhat uptight air about her that can be a little off-putting but is really fun when you break through it and reach the real her.
Anyway, this was not a girl I’d hooked up with. Didn’t really have a
good
opportunity, and in any event I slept with other girls from that circle
who were younger and didn’t have the same walls up
she did. I met up with her various times in our shared social circle.
Toward the end of my time in that circle, I scheduled a one-on-one meet
with her but had to flake on it... and when she wanted to meet again I
wasn’t able to make myself available for it. And after that we were in
different cities and she fell off my radar. She was 29 years old back
then.
So I got an email from her after more than half a decade, just saying she saw an event and wondered if I intended to go to it and asking if I was in town.
And the only thing I could think was, “Wow, 36 years old and still single, huh?”
The Friday night or Saturday night date is one of the best date
times you can get. But it’s also tricky to get – she may have plans, or
want you to think she does.
You know my usual advice on scheduling your dates... go for midday if you can (11 AM start time), when she’s likely to have the whole day free. Or if you can’t, after 7 PM Monday through Thursday is good.
But avoid Friday and Saturday. Especially Friday and Saturday nights.
Why? Well, most girls are busy then. Or at least they’d like you to think they’re busy then. Any girl who’s read The Rules knows she’s not supposed to agree to a date Friday or Saturday night. Makes her seem too available, after all.
On top of this, you don’t want to seem too available. You’re a single guy. Shouldn’t you be out partying on Friday night? Or maybe hooking up with a friend-with-benefits? Having drinks with the boys? If you’re free on a weekend night – especially if she isn’t – you risk looking a little, well... lame.
However, there’s a catch here. And that catch is that if you can pull off a Friday night or Saturday night date, you get a date during the most sex-primed part of the week. It’s easier to sleep with girls on Friday or Saturday night. And if you get them out one-on-one with you on Friday or Saturday night? Hoo boy.
The art, of course, is how to get girls out for a Friday night date or a Saturday night date, without the seeming like the guy with no plans and no social life. That’s the real trick.
Technology offers myriad colossal benefits. Yet, it can hurt your
ability to meet and succeed with women just as much as it helps.
Errol Flynn, gazing into his girl’s eyes, taking her face into his excited hands... getting closer to her, just about to kiss… and *bliiim* he gets a Snapchat notification, opens it, and starts chatting and sending duck-face selfies.
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1. Is the Internet Killing Your Convos?
2. How Technology Makes You Look
Difficult to imagine such a situation, right? Well, it’s not THAT far from what’s happening today with young generations. You’re probably thinking “Nah, Davi is exaggerating, I’m not THAT addicted to technology. No worries on my end.” But let me tell you, technology’s influence on your game can be WAY more subtle, and even good seducers get trapped in some of the modern world’s pitfalls.
Now, don’t get me wrong. This is not an anti-tech piece; rather, it is meant to illustrate how tech can hamper your success with women if used improperly.
In this article, I’ll detail three different categories in which today’s technology has an impact.
First of all, conversations: we have so many different communication methods now, and they all have their own rules. People are having more and more virtual exchanges than vivid, real-life discussions. And they take the digital world’s rules as face value and apply them in real life – DANGER.
I’ll also cover the impacts this has on approaches, before talking about three specific problems affecting your seducer-you: investment/availability, power delegation, and immediacy.
Girls sometimes ask screening questions over text. How you handle
these is the difference between vanish or date.
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I recently read a private report from one of our senior discussion forum members. It was of a girl he’d met via street stop, took a phone number from, and later slept with a few dates in.
In the text conversation that followed his brief initial meet, she hit him with a few screening questions:
In between these, she asked other questions. It was friendly enough. But these types of text message screens can be deceptively dangerous.
There’s no subcommunication you can use to make an answer playful over text. No body language, voice tone, or facial expressions to flesh out your response. Things you’d say in-person that would work great in that medium (“I’m a traveling vagabond”) may completely disqualify you over text. Yet just the same, if you are boring or flat, you may lose the girl too.
The way to deal with text screens is straightforward enough. Yet the challenge is, can you resist the urge to be too clever... without completely following her lead?
The bonding phone call lets you build a stronger emotional
connection
with a girl you’ve just met. If you need a boost before the date, this
is it.
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In a comment under my article on over-the-top romanticness, Sadeqh asks about the bonding phone call:
“Hi chase
Salut you for your ethereality that makes dating life more valuable.
I have to know what you do mean when you say bonding phone call because you haven’t really opened it yet not in your records on GC nor I could found it in your inscriptions anywhere else.
It’s like a lost necessary fragment that could fill the time you wouldn’t make a date because you are away or have not yet handled the logistics for reasons.
What’s better to say how to do it and other stuff related you could teach performing it jovial.
Mania è Dementica, Sadeqh”
Sadeqh is correct, this is something I’ve referred to here and there, but not described to any great detail.
What is a bonding phone call? It’s a phone call in which your objective is the creation of a stronger emotional bond with a girl. Your chief aim with a bonding phone call is to make yourself more familiar, more trustworthy, and more comfortable to her. A secondary aim will be to make her (sexually) excited about you.
How do you do it, how is it executed, and what does it look like? Step inside and let me show you.
Phone sex isn’t just a great deal of fun, it makes getting actual
sex with her easier, too. These 10 steps let you give her the best
phone sex of her life.
Do you ever use phone sex?
Don’t laugh if it sounds cheesy at first. “It’s not real sex”, I know.
But here’s the thing: phone sex has a lot of uses. And one of them is to make dates fly by with girls you haven’t had sex with yet, and make that actual penis-in-vagina sex happen a whole lot faster with far fewer roadblocks.
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In this article, I’m going to tell you exactly how to pull phone sex off. And I’ll tell you the many uses of it, too.
Aside from that though, I’m also going to give you some real cautionary notes… Because just as phone sex can speed up her path into your bed, it can speed up her path into ANOTHER man’s bed instead, if you use it in the wrong way and at the wrong time.
Due to some of the trickiness of the technique, I recommend this one only for intermediates on up.
Preface aside, let’s dive into phone sex, see how to use it, what it’s used for, and some of the things you can do with it.
Picking up girls online works different from meeting them in real life. From how you frame yourself to when to seed the date, it’s another game.
If you’ve been reading Girls Chase for a while, you’ll have noticed a lot of articles by Chase and other contributors talking about online pick-up: message writing, Facebook pick-up, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, and broad online dating related topics such as profile pictures and other details.
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3. Making Her Laugh/Having a Good Time
4. Using Chase Frames/Creating MEB
5. Introducing the Date Early On
However, every day we see new websites, dating apps, and new social networking apps; we also see old apps/websites getting new features. All this impacts online pick-up, and sometimes it’s hard to adapt in stride with the growth of these platforms. Luckily, even though the tech evolution has changed the medium of dating, the principles of seduction remain the same!
In this article, using an extremely pragmatic approach, I’m going to cover what it means to use online pick-up. We’ll go over some basic concepts that don’t change over time. Then we’ll analyze four guidelines that you should always keep in mind during your online approaches and see how we can adapt this to the tech evolution.
To tie it all together, we’ll show you how to formulate a proper process for your online pickup.
Finally, I’ll share a word about the worthiness of doing online approaches, even if I end up writing a whole article about the relationship between the seducer’s role and technology.
Let’s get to it, shall we?
A slew of helpful
mindsets, prevention tools, and firefighting techniques for handling
flakes. What do you do when she cancels on you?
Flakes are an area of dating charged with emotion. A lot of men take flakes personal in a big way. They feel insulted and like their time’s been wasted.
We have a few articles on Girls Chase already on flake-handling. They are:
Today, I want to share with you my views on flakes. Guys at different stages of their journey will give you different takes, and there a lot of different ways to handle flakey acquaintances. At this point, I’ve spent my time in the approach grinder, bedded well over 100 women, and I’ve accepted flakes as a part of the dating game – I’m beyond taking it personal. So my views are going to be different than those of a guy trying to have sex with 100 percent of the women he interacts with.
These mindsets and techniques won’t help you hook up with everything that moves. Not even Hollywood star status, world-class game, or a billion bucks in the bank will do that. And the stage you want to aspire to reach is the one past the stage where you feel the need to hook up with everything that moves. However, along the road to mastering this skill set, men should oscillate between both extremes to ensure proper growth.
With that said, here are my tips on flaking and text game.
On the heels of Alek’s recent post on fractionation, I want to talk about a fun little technique that uses fractionating your medium of correspondence to get somewhere with girls who aren’t responding well.
This technique is, simply, switching back and forth between texting and calling.
Now, if you’ve done things right from the beginning with a girl, you won’t usually need to use this – a great first impression, framing for the date before you get the number, then solid text game to set things up; that’s usually going to do everything you need it to do.
Usually if you need this technique it’s because you’ve done something wrong:
However, you can still have things unravel sometimes even if you were ‘perfect’; this is if, say, you do it all right, but the day she gets your “hey, let’s get things scheduled” text is a really bad day for her and she puts it off, anchoring negative emotions to texts from you / texts about dates from you in the process. Sometimes a girl can get it in her head that ‘XYZ thing is hard’ (like figuring out where on her schedule you fit), for reasons she isn’t aware of (anchoring), and an otherwise promising connection suddenly goes cold.
For any such situation, you have one neat tool in your toolbox – just vary the means of correspondence, between texts and phone calls (note: email / instant message is basically the same thing as texting, so doesn’t work to vary things enough – we’re talking ‘text-based’ vs. ‘voice-based’ here).
