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How Long to Wait Before Calling (or Texting) Her

how long to wait before callingOne question that confuses the hell out of a lot of guys (and also confused the hell out of me when I first learned all this sexual Jedi mind power stuff) is how long to wait before calling (or texting) a girl… and how to move things forward towards a date and beyond once you do call her.

You may have heard that you should not be too eager, and you may even have heard about the three day rule… get in touch with her after three days.

Then again, that one is so common now that a text or call after three days doesn’t really surprise anyone anymore

What’s a man to do?

And what about dates… how can you really sweep a woman off her feet anymore, or should you even be concerned with that question?

What if you don’t want to drink alcohol… and even if you do, can’t “drinks” be too stiff or formal?

What’s the right way to go?

Ricardus DominoAbout the Author: Ricardus Domino

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?” opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.

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Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase, I was wondering how to really move from going to her/my place to having sex? I've gotten to a point where I can take girls back, but something always comes up and we never end up sleeping together (roommates, need for sleep, etc.) How do I get to this next level?

Will's picture

Hey there,

I am just another of many guys who read this site quite regularly. In my opinion you are experiencing last minute resistance, which happens to all of us ; even if you have a good close game and can get her back to your place. Luckily there are a few posts on here that deal with such topics that may be beneficial for you to read.

All 3 of these articles are full of great info and even might just be a reminder that you are looking for. Hope this helps.

Nicholas's picture

Hey Ricardus,

"once you have 100 of those, text them all at once and see if someone bites… you might get one or two of them after all"

Do you have a standard text to send those unresponsive numbers? My thought is to reference something about her or something we talked about but not ask her out straight away. Thoughts?

And how long is an appropriate waiting period?



JustAGuy's picture

Hey man,

it can come over like a creep if after some time you still remember what she was talking about..

you better can use this:

"You know what? You’re actually the first girl I’ve met in ages that isn’t stalking me with texts. Then again, this super saintly saint always falls for bad girls because I am sooo sweet and saintly and innocent.... :p"

it will tease het to reply...

hope it helps.

Lars's picture

Hey chase, I went on a date with a girl a few nights back. It went quite well, had a good time. Unfortunately, it only lasted about 3 hours because she said she had to go see a friend whom she made plans with for later that night. However, she did mention to me that the next time we hang that I should come over to her place where we could have some drinks, and she even mentioned that her mom wouldn't home until very late. Unfortunately she couldn't tell me when this would happen because she said she needs to check her work schedule first. Hypothetically, if she were not to text me in a few days of when we could do this, should i go out of my way to ask her? Should I start off with some little small talk before I ask her or should I just get to the point with the first text for our next meet up? And if so, what would be the most appropriate way to go about it?

Anonymous's picture

hey chase,
I have always had the ease to go chat up girls, talk to them and flirt with them, Ive had this natural confidence. But I cant seem to get to the point where I want to bring them back to my place. Sometimes on a night out, I can't be bothered to go past the point when I'm talking to her. I think I've lost that spark that helps me get to the next level of hooking up with her. What should i do ?
I really wanna get back to that stage where I would go for it.

rrr's picture

Part about kissing and why you don't do that at all actually baffles me. It doesn't match my experience at all.

Whenever I kiss a girl, I'm usually the one who has to pull out, and it's the girl who pretty much presses me for more kisses. Maybe because I kind of find kissing to be boring by itself, but maybe they like it very much. I doubt what's going on in girls' heads at that point has very much to do with calculating, whether there is still "plausible deniability" or not as you call it. Why does it even have to be there in the first place? We are adults, we can make our own decisions, if we crave someone's proximity so much that we decide to have sex, it's a mutual decision based on a visceral need and not something to be shamed/judged about.

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