The Abundance Trap: Why More Hot Women Can Mean Less Sex
Jun 30, 2025
Why scoring hotter women can backfire—leaving you with less sex. Discover the ‘Abundance Trap’ and how to escape it to enjoy more success with women.
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Jun 30, 2025
Why scoring hotter women can backfire—leaving you with less sex. Discover the ‘Abundance Trap’ and how to escape it to enjoy more success with women.
Your sexual intuition tells you what to do with a woman, when. And there are two distinct flavors of it: instinctual intuition, and learned.
Sometimes you strive to be the best you can be; sometimes you demand others accommodate you. But what do you do when both ways fail?
Everyone puts things off. But trusting “future you” to do what you think he’ll do isn’t always the best path to getting what you want.
There’s a temptation in bars and nightclubs to stay passive and not rock the boat. But if you do this, it can be hard to meet new women.
Guys can really struggle to pick up women in nightclubs – especially if they do okay with women elsewhere. Why? It’s due to 3 key obstacles.
If you have trouble believing anyone truly wants to help you or contribute to your life, sometimes that’s because you’re confusing good with bad.
One easy ‘trick’ for better evenings out: self-amusement. Only, this isn’t a technique, per se – it’s a mindset… a way of viewing the world.
Most men take things too seriously when they head out to meet girls clubbing. What should you focus on? Not getting a big head, avoiding assumptions, and simplicity, to start.
True freedom is mental freedom. But sex alone will not get you there. You must also be free of judgment, blame, and false autonomy.
With dating, most are either jaded (“Girls are a rigged game!”) or naïve (“I’m sure it will all work out on its own!”). Which one’s better?
If you’re a “fast out of the gates” guy, you can get frustrated without rapid results – only for the frustration to make things worse.
When value’s ambiguous, you’ll doubt she even wants to talk to you. Yet, you can’t know what your value to her is before you talk to her.
An article on taking (lots, hopefully) more action. Note the irony inherent in the very premise. Maybe don’t read this. Just go do.
