Pickup Tech

Sometimes you’ll approach girls, only to have them flirt with other guys and try to make you jealous. What do you do? Ignore it… or, pull out the BIG guns.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Last week we discussed handling congruence and compliance tests. We also covered “weird tests” when a girl puts you in tricky catch-22 situations. I went through the more common tests, although some tests are unique and require case studies like in this post.

Today I want to resume my discussion about tests. We will address a common but frustrating test called the jealousy plot test. This test occurs when the girl you are with talks to other guys in front of you, even when you have a good hook going.

I won’t waste time describing the situation. If you have been going out for a while, you likely have experienced it.

This situation is more common during night game and social circle gatherings.

In romance, sometimes women will test you. They test to see what kind of man you are… but some of their tests are tough. How do you pass them? With these tactics…

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Today I’ll discuss my go-to methods for handling tests. I will cover my three favorite methods and share examples.

Last week, we went over common reasons women test:

• For congruence – if you are who you say you are.

• For compliance – to see how compliant you are to them. If you are too compliant, it signifies they have the full power of the interaction and may use you at will. It can also mean that you are a sucker, not a “real” man.

• As a challenge – to place you in a challenging situation and see how you react. This test screens for attractive traits.

• For limits – linked to testing for compliance. They will use rude behavior to see how you respond. Women seeking very dominant males may screen for this character trait.

We will cover these techniques today:

1. Congruence
2. Compliance

These techniques can be useful for other tests, too. However, from my experience, they are best suited for the two types listed above. However, there are other situations when they may work. I will give examples later.

Pickup lines, flirtatious comebacks, and witty one-liners: all the stuff of good teasing and flirtation. Use these 50 one-liners as a springboard for your own flirtations.

Compendium of pickup lines and other flirtatious one-liners for use in 2022 and beyond.

PDA can be lots of fun in relationships. When you use it with girls you haven’t bedded yet, though, it backfires. Why’s it so different pre- vs. post-sex?

Most folks have some kind of opinion on public displays of affection (PDA).

Some like indulging in them, some don’t. Although some can go either way.

If you’re inexperienced at picking up women, but you’ve had prior relationships with PDA, you may associate such displays with “doing really well with a girl.” You’ll be out somewhere with your girlfriend, start feeling each other all up, tonguing each other down heavily, and by the time you finally get each other alone somewhere the clothes just come flying off and the passion and intensity of the sex is phenomenal.

However, when you start cold approaching, or meeting women at parties, or anywhere else you encounter strange women, and you begin using PDA on them, you start running into a different phenomenon:

The passion explodes… a girl seems really, really into you… everything is unfolding exactly how it has with prior girlfriends of yours you’ve done PDA with… yet just as you’re assuming it’s a shoe-in, this girl’s about to be yours, she ups and leaves and you don’t get the girl.

What happened? How on Earth did you lose her?

She was so into it… why would she leave?

The answer is female state control – and it’s a phenomenon you won’t (usually) see in women you’ve already consummated a sexual relationship with… but absolutely will with girls prior to consummation.

Girls you meet in different kinds of nightlife venues have tastes. Some like this type of guy… or that type of approach. The secret? Macro calibration.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week I covered how to calibrate to high-end venues. I presented different parameters or variables you can adjust that help calibrate to maximize your results in high-end venues.

That post looked at the most high-end venues—the top tier. Most cities (unless it’s New York City or London) won’t have super high-end places. You may find higher-end places, but not the top tier. That’s okay because you won’t have to consider every variable. It will be more relaxed.

There’s no true dichotomous and categorical distinction between high-end and non-high-end venues. High-end venues can fall all over a broad spectrum at different places. I reviewed some of the most selective venues when writing my last post because it forced me to provide examples of extreme cases, so I could elaborate on all variables that may require calibration. You may not have to assess every factor. Your focus will depend on the venue, and you have to go many times to experiment and see which variables give you positive results. I cannot break down every venue on earth, but hopefully, my guide will help you adjust to higher-end venues.

Today, I’ll discuss other venues that are not selective, or meet markets, but are usually considered niche venues. It’s a broad category, so anything goes.

First, let’s look at some general info about the “anything in-between” category before focusing on niche venues.

When the situation isn’t perfect for a smooch, use the slow-build kiss. Seed the kiss, get her thinking about it, then –once you’ve prepared her for it – kiss her.

Sometimes you find yourself in a situation – whether in public or alone – where you know you should kiss a girl, but the setup just isn’t right. Even if you know how to kiss a girl you just can’t pull it off properly.

You might be physically far away from her, with no smooth way to bridge the distance.

She might be putting up walls, one of those “she wants it but she’s afraid of it”-type scenarios.

You might have created a moment, only for her to pull away or otherwise disrupt it.

If you go charging in like a bull and just go for it, well… it might work.

It might also lead to her recoiling, and now you’ve got a lot more work to do to smooth things out to build back up to a kiss again – when instead you could’ve done it right from the get-go.

The way you kiss a girl right in imperfect situations like this isn’t barreling in.

Instead, it is by using the slow-build kiss – a kiss that primes her for what’s coming, building anticipation for the kiss, before your lips ever touch hers.

High-end venues can intimidate. Everyone’s dressed up, and girls don’t signal to approach. Yet, with game, these venues get easier to pick up girls in.

A few weeks ago, I shared a post about picking up girls in meet markets. Today, I’ll follow up by covering pick-up in higher-end venues. The more a place is a meet market, the more my previous advice applies. Similarly, the higher end the place is, the more today’s advice applies.

You’ll also find places somewhere in between both types, and elements of both may apply. I cannot write a post for every venue on earth, so you must rely on your gut feeling, observations, and trial and failure.

Like my initial post on meet markets, we will discuss the stereotype of real high-end venues.

I delayed writing this post because it was important to share two posts first:

• Which staff members to befriend, why, and how. You will see how this comes in handy (it also is handy in meet markets but is especially handy in high-end venues).

• Knowing how to get into higher-end venues. A big part of the “high-end venue game” is understanding how to get in. It’s easier said than done, so check out last week’s post if you haven’t already.

Remember that game is game at the end of the day, and we are talking about adjustments, not a full 180-degree switch. It is a matter of calibration. You do not need to relearn game from scratch just to go to the high-end venues.

It just requires a few outings, a few moments of reflection, preferably reading posts like these, then chatting with other co-seducers with experience with such venues to handle them without problems.