If some guy tells you “bros before hoes”, you should probably put
your guard up. It isn’t always a conscious thing when men violate this
Whenever I hear a guy say “bros before hoes,” my first thought is
“Sure, unless there’s a really hot ho in the room.”
As with most morality, you can
rest assured that if someone is espousing it or is enforcing it on
others, it is in the service of self-interest. This doesn’t
necessarily negate the positive outcome of enforcing the specific
ethic, but one should be skeptical of anyone virtue signaling, because
despite the possible positive outcomes of the ethic, you might still become
a casualty when the espouser
doesn’t follow it.
This is the nature of trust, is it not? You expect one to act a
certain way, especially since they’ve professed to be a keeper of such
virtue, because you will bring them into situations where, if they
don’t follow it, they could hurt you.
Unfortunately, almost without exception, every person who earnestly
supports an ethic will at some point contradict it.
Thus it is highly advised that you be careful who you give the
chance to put one over on you.
Now, I’m not saying that nobody is your friend or that any guy would
cross you if it lands him a hot girl; but I am saying that, most of the
time, he will, excluding the following conditions.
His chances with the girl are low, even if he does cross you
You provide A LOT for him
In other words, he might be able to tool you or be rude to you for a
girl, but he probably won’t if his odds with the gal are low, or if you
provide for him, socially or monetarily. That girl’s pussy might feel
good, but is it worth losing a connection? This is how sociopaths think
twenty-four hours a day.
This may seem like a cynical view, but my experience says otherwise.
You can see the dark truths of the world and still be optimistic. You
can love life but not walk down Southside Chicago at 2am. It’s
Same with thinking that guys are going to value your friendship over
the prospect of pussy. It’s unnecessary and ignores the primal truth of
the world – we’re in this for the pussy (and the gals are in it for the
This should be your first assumption with most of your friends, if
not all of them.