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Articles by Author: Alek Rolstad

3 Theories on a Girl’s Hotness vs. How Hard She is to Get

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Hot girls are the hardest to get. Or is it average-looking girls who are, paradoxically, the hardest? 3 theories dig in and explain.

Previously we challenged the notion that hot girls are always harder to get, and that the hotter they are the harder it is to date and sleep with them. To do this, we looked at six (6) different variables aside from beauty that have an impact on how difficult it is to pick her up. Those were:

  1. A girl’s personality
  2. Her mood
  3. Her sociocultural background
  4. Her social circle
  5. Where and how you meet her
  6. And her self-awareness of her looks

You can read more about these variables in my previous post. If this is the first time you’re encountering them, you will find they shed a new light on the common misconception that “hotter = harder”.

Today we will delve deeper into what makes a girl more or less difficult to date and bed. This post is all about seduction theory. We’ll have a look at different theories on how looks alone affect a girl’s level of difficulty. Thus, the main focus of this post will be on the “look variable”.

The theories covered in this post might seem contradictive to some. One theory we dissect will be on why hot women are harder to get. Another theory we’ll look at today rests on the claim that average women are harder to pick up than more attractive ones.

My opinion on such theories is that they are all more or less correct and do not contradict each other – they just explain two different phenomenon.

6 Things that Make a Girl Harder (or Easier) to Get

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Guys often think a girl’s hotness = how hard to get she is. But there’s a lot more to it than just her looks. 6 more things, in fact.

Men often think hot women are harder to get than women of average looks. The usual rationale here is that hot women are AWARE of their hotness, which leads them to grow pickier in the mating game. Being hot, a girl is regularly hit on by men, and gets used to her surroundings telling her she’s beautiful.

Even though there is some truth to this theory, in today’s post we’re going to have a look at six of the other things that come into play... Six more variables that help to shape the how difficult (or not) you’ll find it to seduce a particular girl. Beyond and below these six things, we will see there are so many key variables that one might wonder if it’s even worthwhile to dwell much on them.

The quick answer to that last question is no... Dwelling on the various items that make a girl easier or harder to get has little (if any) effect on your actual in-field performance. Reason for this being that it’s very often hard and even impossible to tell at the start of things whether a girl will be hard to get or easy.

Not only is it hard to tell whether a girl is hard to get, even with the knowledge of all the variables at play, but it is very difficult to pin point which variable is actually having an impact on a particular girl... Plus how that variable affects the difficulty level of picking her up.

That being said, I believe awareness of these other factors might challenge the common (limiting) belief that just because a girl is hot she is hard to get (we might call this the “only hotness matters” belief). The notion that a girl is hard to get as a result of being hot might sometimes be the case but is far from always the case. Remove this mental limitation, and you may even start to feel more confident when you approach hotter girls.

Lastly, I also believe you’ll find this article an interesting read in itself (or at least I hope so!). Let’s have a look at those variables.

5 Signs a Club is Good to Meet Girls At

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How do you know which nightclub is good to meet girls at? Because it’s almost never the popular club. Here are 5 signs to help you find the best nighttime venue.

Not all clubs are equal. Some think that success with girls is all about knowing how to pick up chicks. Yet in truth, it is logistics: everything that surrounds the process plays a key role in the process.

Have you ever noticed how you never or very rarely get laid in those super famous or popular local clubs? Everybody seem to love them and vouch for them, yet every time you head there you get nowhere.

I will discuss why that is so in this post.

In addition to that, there are a few signs one should keep in mind when selecting a venue. These signs will stand out to you after you read this article... Yet these aren’t signs regular men are aware of usually. This post and its five (5) signs will make club game much more enjoyable/effective.

Now keep in mind that no clubs are perfect... Or at least, very few are. However looking out for the best possible venue is key. Clubs that score positive on several of the factors in this post do exist. Yet, there also are far too many clubs that score low on every factor we’ll discuss – and yet those clubs may become popular regardless.

Let us begin with our first sign a club is good to meet girls at, and examine a common misconception... Namely, that huge clubs are the best clubs.

Hook Her Emotions to Yourself in Nightclubs

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Nightclubs are a sea of stimulation for girls. And you can lose them if you let them grow TOO stimulated. So how do you keep control?

Hi everyone. Last week I discussed how states affects women in night clubs. Today I will discuss why focusing only on buying temperature – i.e. making her excited and horny, can often be a bad solution in clubs.

It is commonly believed that in clubs it is all about making her horny and excited – you need to be bold, physical and fast. It is absolutely possible to get laid by doing so, but oftentimes it is because the luck factor kicks in.

Unaware of this many clubbers believe this is the best way to get laid, because it worked a few times and it seemed so easy, only to discover that their upcoming outings where not as consistent as they had hoped for.  They will get make outs, but the girls will just run away and either just disappear or she might not as into your anymore or worse she might hook up with somebody else. How frustrating, right?

However, before one truly gets really demotivated, they tend to rationalize their failure with “just being unlucky” and they tend to persist hoping to finally score the girl. I have seen this happen so much. Now even though this can work if they play the numbers game for long enough, it is not ideal.

There are cases where focusing on buyers temperature – i.e. making her horny and stimulated (usually by escalating physically) actually worked, and I will get to that later. Let me first cover why only focusing on stimulus is so often be a bad idea.

Nightclubs’ Effects on a Girl’s Sexual State

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The chaotic atmosphere of nightclubs makes them perfect to build sexual state in – and equally perfect to lose it. To succeed in clubs you must be able to beat the risks.

Last time we discussed the role of sexual state and how you can generate it. Today we will focus on how to use sexual state to your advantage: how the communication of your sexual state (for example physical escalation) affects women, the different factors that can affect your delivery both positively and negatively, and how to best deal with those factors.

In order to avoid confusing you, this thread will focus on communicating sexual intent.

Your sexual state lets you communicate your sexual intentions. You do this either by talking about sex, or non-verbally, by, for example, physical escalation - a concept you'll recognize from seduction literature as "vibing."

You do not need to be in a sexual state to communicate sexual intent - but it definitely helps. Read my previous article about how to enter a sexual state.

This article will cover the different factors that affect your delivery. Keep in mind that some of these factors can affect each other. They are not distinct categories but rather "blurry" components in a model of how things work in real life. If you aren't a technical guy, just consider this a post on escalation and the different factors that come into play when escalating.

Let's start out by discussing a situation factor...

How to Get into Sexual State (and Make You and Her Horny)

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Sexual state lets you project sexuality and attract girls with your vibe. To get it, you must imagine sex, quit masturbation, and get laid more.

Hi there. Today I will discuss sexual state – as in, the feeling of being horny and desiring sex – and how it can benefit you in the field. I will discuss how it works and how you can use it to its fullest potential. Sexual state is a biologically informed mental state in which you want to bond on a sexual level with someone.

So let us first discuss the masculine aspect of sexual state – how can we use sexual state in field to attract women? Then we will talk about how you can increase your chances of getting into a sexual state to begin with.

Can Casual Sex Emotionally Satisfy You?

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Hey guys!

Here is another reflection of mine. Lately I have discussed with other well-experienced seducers about “meaningfulness” in seduction – a topic that has really caught my attention lately.

What is the meaning of all this?

Many men tend to look at this in a very black and white fashion – as in either sleeping with lots of different women or settling down with one particular girl.

Truth is, it doesn’t have to be that black and white. This post will briefly discuss the pros and cons before covering an alternative to those forms of lifestyle – a lifestyle I and a few other seducers are discussing or even endorsing.

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How to Figure Out Your Standards for Hookups and Flings

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Today I will just discuss something that I have been thinking about a lot lately – namely, your hookup standards. By standards I am referring to the different elements or traits in a woman that you enjoy, making you willing to pursue her.

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Standards are very personal, meaning that there is a subjective element to them. Remember that at the end of the day, you decide which women you want to put effort into.

This post will just be a reflection over standards and not make any claims about what is right or wrong, but rather what choices will give you the most success in the long run. It is the practical element that I am about to discuss.

The perspective of this post is to discuss how one can either:

Anyway, let us get on with it.

Sexual Dry Spells, Negative Momentum, and the Big Picture

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Hi there. I hope everyone is doing well. Today we are focusing more on some theoretical stuff and less on beginner material.

This post is fit for everyone practicing cold approach pick up (the most exciting form of pick up, in my opinion).

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I have in the past already discussed social momentum quite a few times already. Today we will also discuss momentum, but look at it from a different perspective: from a macro perspective.

Social momentum (micro) - discussed previously - covered how you felt; your emotional state when out meeting women. Positive social momentum could help one get laid, as he will not only feel more like interacting with strangers, but also be more comfortable doing so. When you have (micro) social momentum, you feel like an unbeatable god, as you:

  • Approach more women, feeling on fire

  • Have bigger balls and are bold in your approach, as you don't really care all that much about rejections

  • You will in many cases be more high energy and hook more girls (as you will come across as more exciting) - the pitfall here is that you will have to tone it down when getting into "seduction mode" (unless you want to end up being perceived as a dancing monkey)

  • You will feel more confident

If you have been out in the field a few times, you have probably already reached this type of momentum. I will not cover "how you get there" in this post, as I have covered this aspect already a few times. If you need advice on how to reach social momentum, then check out these post:

Pickup for Beginners: How Novice Seducers Best Learn

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Note from Chase: this post from Alek got lost in our editing department (it was a case of a vanishing email, apparently), and was supposed to precede Alek’s prior piece. So this was actually Part 1 of the series.


Hi there. I hope you are doing well. It is now time for me to write a post for you beginners, as I have spent a lot of time writing more advanced posts lately. I hope this post will be useful, as it is all about how one can get good fast in an era where there is an overload of great seduction material out there.

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In a PM, a poster named Gifted wrote the following:

I know this is probably a big topic. I hope you’ll cover it in a forum post or on Girls Chase. Honestly, I’d love to read a post on how you would learn game yourself if you were put in a total beginner’s shoes tomorrow. I go out very regularly with the intention to improve. It’s been slow going though because I think I’m just not doing the right things to get good quickly.

So the idea is to write about how I would actually learn pick up, considering I had no seduction skills right now. This is a very hypothetical scenario and it is hard for me to really put myself in a beginner’s shoes, but I will try to do my best. Let us consider that some evil magic took place, putting me back at square one – a beginner in the art of seduction. Here is how I would do things.