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In a thread on the discussion boards about negative mindsets, a forum member named Black writes:

“But when I have to take action there’s this feeling:

- I have absolutely NOTHING to offer her.

- I have NOTHING to say to her.

- She’ll be creeped out just for me going out of my way to say anything to her. It’s crazy I’m showing my face anywhere at all to begin with.

- She may have accepted to hang out with me – but sex is completely out of her mind (because of this I stalled things with girls that were saying we should “hang out” sometime; they ended up dating another guy a week later).

- She will make a scene if I go in for the kiss, ask her out or try to lead her to a hotel; then she will tell everyone we know if it’s social circle (even if it does happen to a small extent, almost no one seems to care).”

You might think it’s just you when you’re just kicking off, but this is actually a surprisingly normal set of thoughts/emotions to encounter before you approach a girl (when you’re new).

It’s due to something I’d call ‘ambiguous value’, and the doubts you’ll have surrounding yourself because of it.

And it’s not even just a ‘meeting new girls’ thing... although that’s the context we’ll discuss it in today.

Previously we discussed how to build attraction by escalating physically. Today we will discuss this topic even further. There is a lot more to say about this topic. Consider this post an expansion of the previous one.

As mentioned last time, this is just a toolbox. This means that you can cherry-pick the techniques you like and disregard those you don’t. It is not like you have to use every one of these escalation techniques to get laid – sometimes just following a basic escalation ladder is all you need, while other times more is required.

I do recommend you to try out all these techniques though. Field experience is the only true way to find out whether something works for you or not. Try them all out at least a few times and add those you like to your arsenal. However, never disregard any technique completely, as maybe on a future occasion you might find it come in handy (in such cases you can always review this post).

Now, let us start straight away into the good stuff:

Note from Chase: this is our second article from Jerome Wu, a friend of mine originally from China, who has been living in the United States (and sleeping with girls off of cold approach in nightclubs, the street, and the beach) for many years now. Three years ago, Jerome talked to us about Asian guys and white girls; today he’s here to talk about another sticking point for many men: being short. Here’s Jerome.

To be tall and handsome, is that really the splitting image of every woman’s true desire? Let’s look at what it’s like to be a short guy in the dating game, and some strategies we can use to alleviate whatever shortcomings might be associated with being a short seducer.

I measured myself the other day, and I found that technically I stand at 5 foot 5 ½ inches. Mr. Chase has mention in some articles on this site that I am near 5’3” to 5’5” – I am hurt, butthurt that is, by the inaccuracy... LOL.

I was supposed to write this article in 2014 – I’m kind of late! I didn’t understand the question Chase presented to me. I just didn’t think my height was an issue until I researched it. I also wrote an article on being Asian. Writing all these articles on being Asian, short, and introverted has made me somewhat insecure. I never realized this was such an issue until now. I guess I’m totally late again, or perhaps I simply forgot about this issue, or maybe I’ve just been too busy living my life...

Anyway, let’s begin.

Last week I wrote about how to get good at night game quickly. This week I am writing my guide for efficient day game.

Day game is a lot easier than night game. This is due to the fact that interactions aren’t nearly as long and there aren’t nearly as many distractions.

The problem a lot of guys face with day game is, first and foremost, approach anxiety and poor strategy. Approach anxiety never fully goes away, but the one thing that helps me with it is the phrase “Think Do” – anything I think I should do, I do. This gets me out of my head and approaching quickly, but despite that, approach anxiety will still be a demon you face for as long as you’re in the game.

This article is mainly concerned with approaching day game with an efficient strategy. This is so you can get the girls you want in a realistic time frame.

Welcome back to our series on dance floor seduction. Prior editions:

• Part 1: Dance Floor Foundations
• Part 2: Warming Up on the Dance Floor
• Part 3: Targeting on the Dance Floor
• Part 4: Dance Floor Opening
  

Previously, we discussed some theoretical elements of dance floor seduction. We also discussed how to get in mood, while focusing a lot on opening and selecting the right target.

Today we will start discussing the “attraction building phase”.

I spent years making the same mistakes in night game over and over again. I realized recently that it doesn’t take that long to get good at night game as long as you are making the most out of your nights.

My biggest growth spurts in game have come from times of full immersion; going out three to four nights a week to bars and clubs for hours at a time.

Here is a list of things I wish I knew from the beginning about getting good at night game. Some of what I suggest will sound extreme, but making up for years of not going out in a few months will be an extreme experience.

There’s an undeniable allure to the blonde bombshell.

Hers is a unique spot in the Western pantheon – with her own sexual iconography, even; one that makes her tremendously desirable to a large segment of the male population.

And if you want a gal like her, you may find yourself hitting the same obstacle again and again: why does she keep turning her nose up at me?

It’s a question we’ve been seeing here a lot recently... some of it from minority guys, those of Indian or Middle Eastern birth or descent; some of it as well from plain old apple pie Americans.

They want to know how you get these girls.

The standard response is “get your fundamentals in order, get your game in order, and you will get the women you want – including the blonde bombshells.” And it is correct.

Yet, one of the things you do learn along the way is that different sorts of girls need different sorts of details.

In the case of blonde bombshells, they’re more like punk girls with piercings and tattoos, or feminist girls with closely-cropped blue hair and unshaved armpits, than most guys seem to recognize. Because the blondes men in North America lose their shirts over are not the blondes who were born that way; rather, they’re ones who decided they wanted to fit into a certain mold, then did.