In "Why I Quit Dating Girls Who Club, Party, or
Drink", a reader notes:
“Anyways,
I've been having problems with something that should be fairly simple
for most people, but I fear that it is far more nuanced than it seems:
disagreeing with woman. I remember reading an article about addressing
women objections, other one about not saying "no", but I can't seem to
find one on "How to disagree with women" or "How to show disapproval".
My point is that, as time goes by and your confidence goes up and you
become more comfortable leading women, what happens a fair number of
times is that she'll do or say something you do not like. And while a
"nice guy" would just suppress that thing in his mind and get over it,
I do not. But I must be doing something very wrong, because I'm under
the impression that every time that I do this, me and the girl end up
arguing, or feeling that our connection is somehow weaker, etc.
So, I ask you, is there a "right" way to say/show you *don't* agree
with an attitude she had (or any other thing that comes to mind)?”
The way you'd hear it from most men, disagreeing with women cannot
or should not be
done, at least not in a way that's anything remotely close to effective
at getting your point across or changing her mind.
You've pretty much got to
just bite your tongue and let it slide... unless you really want to get your
hindquarters handed to you in tatters.
While I used to subscribe to the old advice of "stay unreactive" -
basically, sit there like a lump of coal and do nothing and say
nothing, no matter how crazed, incorrect, or offensive she becomes -
I'm only a (pseudo-)fan of that these days in certain situations.
These days, I'm a big
believer in dealing with disagreeable statements swiftly, the moment
they come up. How you disagree with women depends on the situation,
though - sometimes it's going to entail direct confrontation, but many
times you'll take a far subtler approach.
Either way, if being completely unreactive is out, you're going to need another set of tools
to deal with disagreements.
And I've got just the tools you need.