7 Times to Eject from a Girl You've Just Met
You’ve heard it’s good not to eject too soon with a girl you’ve
just met. So when SHOULD you eject? Any of these 7 times, as it were.
Slightly more fun article today.
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You’ve heard it’s good not to eject too soon with a girl you’ve
just met. So when SHOULD you eject? Any of these 7 times, as it were.
Slightly more fun article today.
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What do you do when you get a girl who will let you touch her and
cuddle with her, but not touch her breasts, buttocks, or crotch? You
touch her other places... in sexy ways.
You’ve got a girl back at your place, making out with you, yet she’s resistant to sex. “We shouldn’t do this,” she tells you. “I have to get going.” Et cetera. You’ve heard it all before.
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Do you want to plow ahead? Just keep trying? That can work. You won’t always have the drive for it though.
Here’s the deal: so long as she’s there, spending time with you in an intimate situation, you are still able to touch her and do things to turn her on, even if she yanks your hand off her crotch or won’t let you get her shirt off. There are more things you can do, and they seem harmless enough she will let you do them. And as you do them, she’ll get more and more turned on – and after you’ve done them for a while, those shirts, bras, pants, and panties come flying off.
I’m not going to go into a full discussion of foreplay today. You can read my articles on how to get a girl in bed and physical escalation once she’s in bed for more on that. You might also want to read our articles about giving women cunnlingus if you need details on that.
Today we’re just going to talk about places you can touch and ways to touch that turn girls on, without being full-on erogenous zone foreplay.
You won’t always be certain. But you need to be able to at least
appear certain, when you are in leader-follower (or male-female)
situations that demand certainty.
You might have it in your head that you are certain about something, and being certain will help demonstrate certainty. But if your certainty isn’t visible, people will not be fully sold on your certainty, and thus not follow you as wholeheartedly. In seduction, even the slightest error can have her questioning your sincerity, confidence, and any other facet of your personality.
In the first article of this series, we covered the three types of certainty (certainty of knowledge, desire, and morality), then we detailed how to become certain in part 2, and now we will cover how to demonstrate certainty.
In
order to succeed with women, a man has to get out there and meet
some. Although we can learn all we want by reading, at some point, in
order to win something in the game, a man has to step out into the
world and walk the walk.
We’ve discussed a lot about different locations and venues that are good for meeting women. Whether you’re a day or night gamer or use some kind of online service like Tinder, Bumble, or OkCupid, venues can be difficult to master. A growth-oriented man must go out and put in the effort and time to find, approach, attract, and hook women… then extract them to a seduction location. Overall, this basic strategy has been working for men for centuries. But some venues and locales are just easier to navigate than others.
Today I’m going to share the most exclusive and undiscovered locale I’ve found since discovering the seduction community. You can find all kinds of women here – in all shapes, sizes, and backgrounds.
Before we really get into it, I need to quickly talk about the age thing. You may have realized the delights of older women but capped your interest with girls who are 5 or 10 years your senior. A lot of guys have come to love these “cougars,” as they’re commonly known. And believe it or not, there is a whole other spectrum of women out there just waiting to be taken into your bed. All of them have been young, and they can all teach you a thing or two about the horizontal mambo. Sure, if you’re out to make babies, you’ll need a younger gal – but that’s not what we’re talking about here. We’re talking about getting all the sweet vag you can handle.
And the venue I’m about to drop on you is a place where you can find women who love being around you and will accept you for who you are; they’ll listen to virtually everything you have to say and will follow your lead with little effort. These are women with whom you can create unforgettable sexual experiences.
And that place, dear readers, is nursing homes.
Before you freak out, we’re going
to work to free you from your limiting beliefs
around age and sexiness. And we’re going to show you why
overlooking
this incredible venue is one of the ultimate rookie mistakes – one
few truly veteran seducers
make.
I will be covering my personal secret hotspots and some raunchy pickup lines that would make grandma wish she didn’t have arthritis.
As soon as you wrap your mind around the idea and liberate yourself from the constraints of age, nursing homes are an undiscovered mecca. There you can find and create harems as large as you like.
If she likes you, but opts not to hook up with you, what does it
mean? Why, it means you’ve failed her Chad test – and now she’ll make
you wait.
You’re back alone at your place with a girl. What you know about her: she’s adventurous, independent, and, by all indications, probably has been with her fair share of men. Perhaps she’s shared some of her old war stories with you: guys she’s been with, wild hookups she has had, sordid escapades gone by.
For some reason, it feels slightly off. You feel like she likes you, it’s just... her walls are up.
You decide to go for it anyway. She’s near you on the couch, with her body turned slightly away from yours. Her arms are folded, her expression slightly tensed. “Come here, you’re so far away,” you tell her. She scoots a little closer, but she doesn’t seem excited to do it. You put your hand on her chin to turn her face toward yours. She stops you.
“I don’t feel ready for that yet,” she says. You feel let down. After all that talk about all her crazy past hookups... and now she “isn’t ready?”
“I should probably go,” she tells you. You figure she’s blowing you off. And to be honest, you’re not really feeling it yourself either. Her defensiveness has killed any interest in her you had earlier. You walk her to the door. “I had fun,” she says. “We should hang out again soon.” You grunt a response and let her go.
Two weeks later – you haven’t bothered to message her – she texts you, asking what you’re up to and why she hasn’t heard from you. It seems so weird... this girl resisted intimacy when you brought her back, but she still wants to meet up anyway. Why? For what?
Slowly it starts to dawn on you: she likes you... just not enough to make you one of the men she gives it up too fast.
You have, in other words, failed the Chad test.
State control (your ability to manage the mood you’re in) is
vital and powerful for seduction. Yet, like anything, lean on it too
much, and it can become a crutch.
In my past article about what makes a good, consistent seducer, I listed a few related traits:
The ability to handle logistics
Good decision making
Good calibration
Good timing
Awareness
State control and cool-headedness
Today I will discuss the last aspect, state control. There is a lot of info regarding this online, and many dating companies are obsessed with notions such as “state” and “inner game.” And even though there is a lot of truth there, I find them to be sometimes overemphasized (meaning, they’re leaving something out).
I do believe having the right mindsets and a positive reality that reinforces seductive behavior is essential. The problem is that your belief system and your inner game, even though attractive, have to somehow be conveyed in order to have an effect. Conveying those traits requires a form of “outer game” – or rather, technical game.
Either way, today’s topic is related to state control. Many seducers are very obsessed with getting in state when meeting and picking up girls. What they refer to is basically getting in the mood. Even though I agree that “feeling it” and generally feeling good (i.e., having energy, feeling confident, and being in a social state as well as a sexual state) is beneficial, I believe aspects of it are exaggerated. I will discuss why I think so, and also how you can keep your head cool in tricky situations.
Monogamy and non-monogamy each face their own unique challenges.
Women in monogamous relationships can grow bored; women in
non-monogamous ones, jealous.
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1. Exclusive Relationship Challenges
2. Managing Boredom/Complacency
There are many different kinds of relationships available to the romantically gifted man. There’s classical monogamy, of course. There are friends with benefits relationships and fuckbuddies. Open long-term relationships (polyamory). There’s one-sided monogamy. Even pimp-ho and master-slave relationships, if you really want to explore the dark side (which we won’t do here).
All these, more or less, fall into one of two categories: open (in which the partners may see other people) and exclusive (in which the partners don’t – or at least aren’t supposed to – see other people. Sometimes people are naughty though). Today’s article explores the two primary challenges each style of relationship faces: the biggest challenges to the health of exclusive and non-exclusive romantic relationships.
I recently kicked off a series (the “How to Build a Harem” series) to convey what I’ve learned about non-monogamous relationships and steer guys who are interested in such relationships in the right direction. I realized that before I can delve into non-monogamy, I need to showcase it as a comparison to the conventional model we all know about. I want to highlight the distinctions between challenges in both systems (if you’re in either one, you might see these in action in just a matter of months, but really they are inevitable).
No system is better than another. There are advantages and disadvantages to all flavors of relationship, but the challenges differ vastly by system. I’ll lay these out to help you figure out which system is right for you while also creating the best outcome for yourself long term.
The relaxed bar opener lets you meet girls in a bar in a relaxed,
natural, sociable way. All you need to do it is a cool wingman, and
halfway decent fundamentals.
Much of what we talk about when it comes to cold approach centers on walking up to new women solo and delivering an opener. Often we discuss going out alone to meet girls. Or we might talk about rolling with a wingman, yet treat it as little different from rolling solo; just two guys roving the streets, bars, or parties on the prowl, and when one guy sees a girl he likes the looks of, he goes in.
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Today’s article is about a more relaxed approach you can take while out with a wingman in a social venue (bars, parties, nightclubs), that makes it easy for you to meet new girls in a laid back, low pressure way, without looking like the ‘guy on a mission’ who goes around and chats up every available girl.
If you’re new to approaching and want an easy way for you and a friend to transition into chatting up new women, this is a prime candidate for that. Or even if you’re an old hand and simply prefer a more relaxed evening on the town, this approach serves nicely.
Let’s talk about what this approach is.
In Part 1 of this series, we discussed the
fundamentals of certainty – The Triumvirate of Certainty.
The Triumvirate goes like this:
Certainty of Knowledge
Certainty of Desire
Certainty of Morality
If any of these pillars are missing from your mind, your certainty will be imperfect. You will be uncertain. This article is dedicated to managing these uncertainties.
Let’s get to it.
If you get your hackles up, or start to feel defensive, it’s easy
to turn adversarial on dates and in conversations. Yet do this, and you
will quick run into walls with women...
Here’s an insidious problem it’s easy to overlook.
Sometimes if you hit the bars, or the street, or a party, and your first few approaches don’t go well, and you pick up a couple rejections, you can start to sour on the whole ‘chat up new girls’ thing.
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1. The Problem with ‘Adversarial’
2. Being Less Adversarial with Girls
Or sometimes if you have a history of rejection... or you’ve been reading too much anger-inducing content on the Internet... or you’ve just had a terrible day in general... this can happen.
Basically: you start to expect the worst, and either bristle for it, go in adversarially, or both.
And when a woman talks to you, she can feel it: you’re defensive, guarding against rudeness, insult, or dismissal. And/or you’re aggressive, treating her like an opponent whose defenses and objections you must ‘beat’, instead of as a friend you’d like to help lead around those objections (and into bed).
Yet the more adversarial you let your approach become, the worse it will usually do.
You need to not do this to make things work better with girls.