Early in my “career” I noticed a rather peculiar phenomenon – when I
was out with guys (and gals) who saw me as a sort of master seducer
(usually due to a combination of my image, behavior, and, occasionally,
seeing my previous successes), I would find myself performing much
better with women. Every single part of the seduction dance would
become noticeably easier without any additional conscious effort on my
part.
Would you like to guess why this happens?
Sure, being in a good mood because you’re hanging out or meeting
people you like plays a significant role, and an occasional comment
like
“Oh yeah, he’s very experienced in bed” said jokingly in a group
setting does its job to create a reputation of someone who knows what
he’s doing.
But that’s not it; the change that
makes the biggest impact turns
out to be in our head.
You see, when I hang out with people who already see me as someone
who’s successful with women and expect me to act like that, it puts a
certain positive pressure and, in a way,
makes it socially okay, even
expected, to act sexually.
In turn, I would find myself assuming the role of a sexy guy who
pulls women left and right,
which, as we’ll learn later in the article,
becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy – cool, right?
Note that this is happening almost
exclusively in our head and, more
often than not, without conscious interference – a change in
self-perception based on the environment.