I wonder how many of you fellow sexy men can identify with being a
“hard case”? For how many of you is learning seduction, becoming a
better, sexier man, and getting better with women not just a way to
“have more control over your sex life”, but also a vital necessity,
because otherwise “settling down” in the evening would be beyond
How many of you found this site not after a bad break-up (or
several) but because you’ve never even had someone to have a bad
break-up with in the first place?
When I first started on this path I was like that – completely,
utterly terrible with women and seemingly beyond repair. So much so,
that it took me YEARS just to get that first lay.
I remember thinking how much I hated the fact that I was struggling
with something that came naturally to others.
Even though I had one friend at the time who impressed me immensely
with his sexual conquests, his results were so far from my reality that
even in my wildest dreams I couldn’t imagine that one day I’d be in
a position where, like him, sex was just a few text messages and a
drink or two away. Or that I’d compete with another natural buddy for
the same women in bars (for mutual self-amusement) and be the
one taking them home more often than not.
No, during those early years I would’ve sold my soul just to be
“normal”; to find a nice, simple girl, who would like me (alright,
who are we kidding, I would’ve settled with “tolerate me”);
one who I could treat like a princess and be monogamous with. I had
those fantasies despite knowing full well that it wouldn’t work
long-term and that I would never feel fulfilled being monogamous;
But for me even this “Plan B” was not in the cards.
It’s funny, but looking back, I
consider myself to be very
fortunate to not even have had the option to succumb to this temptation.
Or, simply said, being completely terrible with women was one of the
best things that happened in my life, as it pushed me not to resort to
the seductive mistress that is mediocrity.
I’ll be frank – with this article my goal is not to teach you
anything in particular, maybe just show a different way to look at your
This article is meant to motivate, to keep you going after a night
out or a date when nothing really worked and you’re lying in your
bed, lonely and wondering how much more wonderful life would be if only
you could be “like normal guys” or if you “had a nice
girlfriend” (or something similarly silly).
This article is also going to be very personal, as I will share some
of the most embarrassing moments from my learning process and how
“taking a beating” early resulted in disproportionate rewards later
And in the same regard, I would like this article to be a sort of
introduction. You’ve probably already seen my articles on becoming
physically sexy (fashion, grooming), but the stories I’m
share will set the context for some of the articles I will be writing
in the future, and you’ll be able to have a better understanding of
my background, my style, the way I do things, and, in turn, decide if
that’s something you want for yourself or if maybe another author’s
style is more suitable to you.