When a guy doesn’t do well with girls, usually he finds something
to blame. But most of the time, what he blames is not the true culprit.
Everyone is an expert, as the saying goes. The less you know, the
more you are convinced there’s nothing you don’t know.
People will
repeat non-stop how your success with the opposite sex is
predetermined. I have too many friends who have been approaching women
for years, still whining about things they cannot control instead of
focusing on improving what they’ve got. It is ridiculous.
But it makes you wonder: how much
is there for the average person to
improve, given proper practice and incremental development?
“Hey, Denton,
how do you balance being grounded and not being
affected by others while also not being weak, a pushover, or being seen
as passive?”
How can you assert boundaries without appearing reactionary? When
your girlfriend is acting up, you cannot possibly ignore her. If a guy
is aggressively crossing the line, you cannot simply stand by. What is
one to do?
These are great questions! And they are often a source of dilemma
for many guys.
Well, I find the biggest misunderstanding is the huge difference
between being grounded and being passive.
Where you put your focus makes all the difference in how fast (or
slow) you progress with dating. Should you booze, is it about the
hours, and what should your focus be?
Guys keep asking me how to get good with the opposite sex – fast.
I used to slack
off at times. There was a time I only had the willpower to go out and
take one major blowout before calling it quits and going home for a
while.
It is hard to be consistent, especially when you are new at this
and you have to combat years of social conditioning telling you it’s a
bad thing – or painful – to talk to strangers.
Back when I first started in the sector of learned success with
women, I would only go out a few days a week, and progress was slow, if
non-existent. With my mistakes so far spread out, it was hard to see
patterns and make meaningful corrections. But what could I do? Go out
every day? That would be insane, I thought.
What if you could read a girl’s mind? It’s possible to get inside
anyone’s head – but you’ve got to know the techniques.
It is uncanny how some people seem unnaturally good at getting into
your head. They can understand your needs and wants. Know when you are
feeling a certain way. And do it as if they possess a weird sixth sense
that lends a window into your mind.
Sometimes it makes you wonder if these people are born with a
special ability.
But, as cool as that
sounds, I do not believe in ESP.
What these so-called mind readers
are
incorporating – either consciously or subconsciously – is a set of
techniques that allow them that extra edge. What are these
techniques,
and how can you master them?
Through my adolescent years I was caught in a social fog, unable to
read people or their feelings, let alone their thoughts. I struggled
and grasped at seemingly nothing, trying to find a firm hold on what
was going on around me. Interactions with my peers seemed to buzz by me
in a flurry, and I just could not keep up no matter how hard I tried.
People utterly baffled me. After several years, amazing mentorships,
and loads of experience, I can say
now that I am no longer that
confused kid. Now a veteran seductionist, I am in the top percentile of
social acuity. But it is not because I was born this way. It is because
of the tricks and interactions I have accumulated in my five plus years
picking up women.
With this learned knowledge and skill, I can cold read someone with
85-90 percent accuracy using what I am about to teach you.
Sometimes a girl rejects you much harsher than she needed to. If
you let it, this can ruin your night. Yet, it does not need to.
One of the things you are not going to avoid while learning success
with women is the occasional tough rejection.
Maybe she freaked out
unnecessarily.
Maybe she said something that felt like a knife shoved
in your sternum.
Either way, it sucks when a girl rejects you, especially
when it comes
out of the blue and is tactlessly delivered. But what if I were to tell
you that the water runs deep on this issue and everything is not as it
appears? What if you could completely
turn around the way you see
rejection?
Touching girls can seem scary when you’re inexperienced with
women. But even experienced guys get touch wrong. With these 7 rules,
you’ll get touch right.
Is “more the merrier” true when it comes to physical escalation?
These are some of the most common questions of beginners, and
probably the biggest misconceptions from intermediates. Everyone is
under the impression that the more physical you get, the more likely a
girl is to go home with you.
Yet, get physical at the wrong time, and your touch may have the
opposite of the desired effect.
Is physicality sinking your chances at sealing the deal?
For those of you who are new to Girls Chase, think of it like this.
If a stranger walked up to you and asked you for a favor, would you be
more likely to do it if the guy was seemingly homeless or was wearing a
suit and tie?
In a way, the same thing is true for women when it comes to
attraction. Girls are looking for
proof that you are a guy who is good with women (aka a man of value),
and what better evidence of that is there than you being seen around
other attractive women?
There are enough articles on this subject, so I will not bore you
veterans with the details. If this is the first time you’ve come across
this concept, all you need to know is that for those top tier women,
being a guy who is great with women is paramount to getting them.
My game hinges on this idea. When I am out trying to take a girl
home, it is my job to manufacture this so I can cash out on the hottest
girl I possibly can. By the end of the night, I ideally want everyone
to love me and every girl to be attracted to me – and when the time is
right, choose my ideal girl out of the lot, and take her. Welcome to
the deadliest style of game.
Spin is used to influence how others think about things. But are
you
using spin on your own thoughts? Odds are, you are – and it risks
sabotaging you.
Some of my greatest teachers in seduction were my coworkers in car
sales. In a world in which they were highly distrusted, they were still
able to finagle hundreds of thousands of dollars from unassuming
customers.
I personally do not condone some of the tactics I was
taught, and I probably would not teach most of them for morality’s
sake. But a few ideas and concepts were definitely worth teaching, and
there is one in particular I would like to share with you today.
That particular technique is the technique
called “spinning”; or, “taking off the market.”
Being centered offers one of the biggest leaps forward with
dating, self, and life. There’s no easy way to it – it comes from
enduring pain and trial.
The protagonist walks toward the camera, face emotionless, calm.
Then suddenly an explosion erupts behind him. Does he flinch away from
it. Does surprise touch his face. No. He stays calm as the world is
blown to bits – and he’s seemingly untouched from it all as he
nonchalantly walks toward the camera.
You have probably seen countless versions of this scene in quite a
few movies, and it has probably sent goose bumps creeping up your arms
as a side effect. What is it about this scene that puts us in such a
state of awe?
Why is something like this so inspiring – and duplicated so many
times over? Many of us would like to not just see this as a protagonist
on the screen, but a hopeful reflection of ourselves. We want to be the
guy who cannot be affected by the world
no matter how chaotic it is. We want what we see on the television to
be the reflection we see in the mirror. We want to be grounded just
like that figure so often portrayed.
The concept of being grounded has always been the hardest for me to
explain, let alone teach. It is one of those things I cannot show on a
boot camp or fix over the course of days or even weeks. It is something
you have to choose to do in your heart. Because, as cheesy as it
sounds, only once you decide you are going to do what it takes to
deepen this part of you, only then can you achieve it.
Firstly, what is being grounded – what makes a centered warrior?
Think of waves crashing on rocks. Are the rocks strong and resolute, or
are they weak and brittle? Do they stand for ages, or do they quickly
become dislodged or shattered like obsidian? Or maybe it is a tree in a
storm, standing tall and unbroken, maybe bending under the torrent of
wind or outright being broken in half. The idea is that no matter what
is thrown at you, you are always at ease, completely in control of your
emotions.
When you talk to a stranger, this is one of the first things they
may notice about your character, either consciously or subconsciously –
not by what you do, but by what you don’t do. It is as simple as
displaying a warm tone despite receiving
anything but. A steady gaze.
Lack of fidgeting. Being grounded is being unaffected when the
surroundings get testy. When a guy is drunkenly belligerent and tries
to push your buttons, do you let him? When a girl calls you
ugly, do
you care?
