(3) Journeyman

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I’ll discuss a gambit I love: the female submission gambit. I have been using this a lot lately and it is part of my current stack.

This gambit was originally from a 2019 forum post. See Sex Talk: The Submission Gambit.

I’d like to make this information available to a broader audience. I have successfully used this gambit, so I wrote a blog post about it. I'll include more details, comments, and analysis, then thoroughly explain the female submission gambit because it deserves it. Even better, this gambit is highly relevant today.

Preselection need not be an accidental boon. You can cultivate it deliberately with women, too… using these two angles to get girls VISIBLY chasing YOU.

Preselection is perhaps the single most powerful attractant there is.

The attraction boost you receive when a woman sees a beautiful girl behaving in an attracted way with you is +25% (study). The effect a beautiful, attracted woman flirting with you has on your attractiveness to other women is larger than looks, dominance, height, money, or confidence.

The one tool I recommend to every single guy who comes to me saying, “I feel like I’ve completely blown it with this girl; what do I do?” is preselection.

Let that girl you’ve blown it with see another good-looking girl blatantly flirting with you, and she’ll be back chasing after you as if you’d never even blown it. Sometimes (even oftentimes) it is the ONLY thing that works.

Today I’ll give you a simple-yet-nefarious tactic for eliciting OBVIOUS preselection from girls who may not even actually be all that into you.

The benefits should be obvious – but just in case they aren’t, I’ll spell them out.

Note that this is an article for intermediate-level playboys and up. You don’t have to be a seduction mastermind, but you do need a little charisma and some social savvy to pull this one off.

When you are “in the field” with women, it pays to be able to adapt your girl-getting strategies on the fly. Savvy strategic calibration helps you do this.

Hey guys and welcome back.

My students seek coaching to learn new material and understand what material to use, when, and in what order. They leave knowing when and how to use all types of material in a seduction context.

It's essential information for a successful seducer. What differentiates the pro from the intermediate is that the pro has this snap that less experienced guys lack. And that snap comes from pristine timings.

Good timings come from using the right material at the right time. When you learn this, your material truly hits-you get 100 % of its effect. A mistimed use of material will make it come off much duller and you'll obtain weaker results. This type of calibration is meso calibration, which means knowing which techniques to use and when.

Pros typically deliver techniques smoothly and calibrated: not too much or too little of the good stuff. This falls into the micro calibration category.

The third dimension is micro calibration, which is choosing which overarching strategy to opt for. Did you select the right strategy for the venue tonight? Did you choose the right venue?

For more, read about the three dimensions in the first part of this series, here:

Strategic Calibration: 3 Levels of Seductive Adjustment

Today, I want to guide you through thinking about strategic calibration in-field. It may inspire you to find your own way of reflecting on calibration while out. Other experienced guys may think a bit differently from me, although I I believe their thoughts follow a similar pattern.

Below is an example of how I think about calibration in-field. It is only an example. I hope these examples inspire you.

Let's begin by reviewing a few questions to ask yourself in-field that will help you make better decisions.

Socratic questioning is a powerful rhetorical technique for breaking people out of dogmatic beliefs. Use it to bust bad opinions… and turn girls into fans.

Everybody’s had the experience of being in a conversation with someone and hitting points of resistance every which way.

You’re talking with a girl and she brings up some opinion you don’t agree with… then when you try to get her off the topic she won’t budge, insisting on staying with this disagreeable topic. Maybe it’s a political opinion, or a cultural one, or something else. Whatever it is, it’s grating to your ears, and it’s allll she wants to talk about.

If you express the contrary opinion, you’re certain she’ll blow up. And in any event, debates about opinions aren’t sexy. Not conducive to seduction.

If you just go along with her opinion and feign agreement, you risk looking insincere, especially if it’s an opinion you don’t hold, and especially if it’s one that undermines you (e.g., her: “Men are just so obsessed with sex it’s disgusting. I hope you’re not like that”).

You can agree and amplify, which is going to work in some cases by turning it from a serious debate into a funny bit of banter… but if she’s too deep into ‘rant mode’ (or she’s one of those totally humorless chicks) even this may backfire.

What if there was a way you could defuse all her wound-up energy around this opinion, while allowing her to feel a lot more connected to you, while at the SAME TIME even potentially pointing out some cracks in her thinking that lead her to reconsider her most staunchly-held beliefs?

There is such a way:

Socratic questioning.

What makes cool guys unflappable with girls… when so many other guys blow their lids? Why do girls have such hard times ‘getting’ to truly cool dudes?

Over the years, I have been noticing men taking women more and more seriously. The result of this is that men and women alike are both becoming angrier and lonelier.

It might seem counterintuitive that women would get angrier and lonelier from men taking them more seriously when women themselves are the ones demanding to be taken seriously. At least, it would seem counterintuitive – IF you were taking women seriously.

I’ll explain. When a woman says, “You need to take me seriously!” if you react to that in a serious way and say, “Wow, I guess I’d better take her seriously,” you are already taking her seriously, and she is only going to get angrier, and lonelier, and so are you.

The right way to respond to a woman doing something emotional is to interpret it as her being perturbed in some emotional way, possibly related to what her actual words are saying, but most likely not. Any relation that does exist is likely to be tangential or superficial, with the true motivator for her emotion left unvoiced.

Often this is not your problem to solve, but hers. Though you can help her. But NOT by taking her seriously!

Guys who take women seriously take on this huge burden of trying to figure out exactly what women are so exasperated about, then adapt themselves to whatever they think women need, so that they can do the male thing and ‘solve the problem’, based on what the women are saying, as well as whatever they can guess about what the women might actually possibly want, which usually doesn’t actually get them to the real root problem at all, frustrating both the women and themselves.

Cool guys do none of this, though.

Cool guys do something different:

They let a woman’s emotionalism roll right down their backs, with the result being that women are much happier around them, much more at peace, feel much more secure, and do not feel the frustrating isolation they do around men who are taking them seriously.

When you’re face-to-face with someone cockblocking you aggressively, your first response may be to get territorial. But this usually won’t do the trick!

Commenting on my article about girls saying you’re too old for them, reader Aiming Higher asks:

Hey Chase,

Appreciate a little advice on adroitly navigating cold approach scenarios where she's out with a friend or group and she or her mates remarks on the age discrepancy.

I'm guessing respond in the same way you outlined according to objection type, but address the person remarking as well as the woman and reversing the frame, if possible.

In particular, I'm wondering about this line: "You seem like a great friend and you also look incredible btw (not sure about a compliment here but maybe to defuse any tension?) though are you also her agent(s) who police who she can date or something? What next...you instruct her on what time she has to be home by and if she's done her homework (obviously appropriate facial expressions required and if she's clearly not school age).

Cheers,
Aiming Higher

What do we do here? Is it wise to compliment, then set the friend straight?

Or… is there a better strategy?

This step-by-step guide lays out a process for consistent first date lays. Want to stop having to wait for the 2nd (or 3rd) date? Just follow the steps…

This post, written by forum member DoWhatWorks, first appeared on our forum here.

Been in more of a taking vs giving trend (for my own standards) recently so thought I'd just give value in this post by going into my 1st date lay process.

As many of you know I'm a numbers guy so I'll say this to build credibility not brag - this month (April) I've slept with 5/6 girls first time from dates.

(x4 from online dating, x1 night game where I number closed then followed up)

In my past posts I was a big proponent of the Date 2 method & I think it's a useful a tool in your toolkit but after a certain level it makes more sense to go for 1st date lays.

It's more efficient, girls hook better & it just sets all the right frames from the start.

Before I dive in, Chase's post >here< is a must-read and covers the fundamentals. I'm going to add details that have levelled up my consistency.

Some are very obvious, but when you simply do the basics well and avoid mistakes you're halfway there.