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Note from Chase: This is the first article on Girls Chase by Peter Fontes, a friend of mine and someone I've known for a few years who specializes in meeting women via social circle and in bars and nightclubs. In this article, Peter runs you through the pros and cons of using social circle for meeting women, and introduces you to a bit of his own method for using this - which is a bit less conventional, and a lot more productive, than how most men use social circle to meet girls. Hope you enjoy - here's Peter.

Ahhh, social circles and their potentially entrenching romances. Meeting women through social circle and all its accompanying tricks and snags can be a minefield punishing to navigate without a map.

While it's a common opinion among men who study the social and seductive arts that there's only a limited number of women available in social circle, and that getting flirty with them almost always engenders drama, good management of your social circle interactions may garner you some of the easiest seductions you'll ever get while mitigating many of the downsides.

In addition to heaps of pretty girls, done right, there are also a lot of other benefits that'll swing your way if you become a social circle master. In this series of articles - my first on Girls Chase - I'm going to introduce you to the best way to handle dealing with girls in your social circle.

This first article focuses on the pros and cons of social circle approaching so that you can understand more fully some of the benefits and trappings before you embark on your quest to cultivate social circles and refine your social circle game.

So, let's check the lay of the land.

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Recently we've been getting a lot of comments from guys asking how to pick up girls at bars and nightclubs. I've even had a few commenters on here asking if any of the material on Girls Chase works in nighttime venues.

Well, that's funny to me, because almost everything I discuss on here was developed, tried, and tested first in bars and clubs.

In fact, to this day, these remain my preferred venue type for picking up. You won't find girlfriend-quality girls hanging out much in these places... and you'll even find some downright crazy girls at times.

But if you want to pull off quick pickups and bring girls home within hours or minutes of meeting them... if you want to put yourself in a venue where much of the screening is already done, and a healthy chunk of the women there are looking for something right now... and if you want to really train and hone and test and refine your skills and abilities with women in a fast-paced, ultra-competitive, extreme-as-extreme-gets environment, bars and clubs are it.

Now if all that appeals to you, well... where do you begin?

Lately we've had a number of readers asking about more ways to talk to women and keep the conversation going. Here's JFav, answering the question of what he'd like to see in the new forum's bonus book:

“Love to see something on keeping the conversation going. Some strategies a newbie could possibly use to deep dive.”

Wanting to know more about conversation, particularly for newer guys.

And on the recent article about how to pick up girls shopping, Maxz commented:

“Hey Chase, another rocking article.

Question for you man, I have been having problems on the conversational aspect of the game lately. When you talk about deep diving and all, is it all about asking girls qestions about themselves? I can't seem to truly crack this nut. Some of the girls I have talked to lately, we usually just end up in strange silences at some point in the conversation. What kind of easy probing questions will you suggest to carry on these conversations?

Thanks Chase, love every single lessons on here.”

I referred Maxz to a few articles to help him get his bearings, but I realize that a lot of guys need a more basic layout of how to talk to women properly than is laid out in the article on deep diving or being a conversationalist.

So, today's article has been put together to be exactly that: talking to women for beginners (with a few neat tips thrown in here and there to spice things up for the old pros), broken down into four lessons with five points each - a total of 20 ways to talk to women and make it go swimmingly.

Let's dive in.

We've had a few questions on here lately about the difference between chasing women vs. persisting with women. A few weeks back William B. raised the point when I asked for ideas on what the new forum's bonus book should be on:

“I'd like to see something fleshing out the nuances between chasing and persistence.”

And more recently, a commenter on the article on how to find the woman you want asked:

“I guess what i want to know is how does all this play in with not chasing her...if you leave enough time between your proposals it doesn't count as chasing?”

I've seen a few other people ask about it on other articles as well.

What's the difference between chasing women and persisting with them, anyway? Aren't they one and the same?

Actually, the two are VERY different - and women are right for desiring persistent men to a point... and fleeing from men who chase after that point.

Let's have a look at why that is, and how you can better walk the line between chasing and persistence.

Reaching the hook point -- that moment in a conversation where women really engage, start contributing, and become as interested in you (or more so) than you are in them, so that they actually stick around and don't excuse themselves to the bathroom or run off with their friends -- can be one of the most challenging aspects of meeting women that a guy has to tackle. You can struggle for a long time with getting girls hooked -- long after you've mastered opening, bantering, rapport-building, and a whole lot more. If you ask any given guy who's been at this for a while what his biggest sticking point is, quite often the answer you'll end up getting is "reaching the hook point."

This post, then, is on how to hit the hook point, an excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams. I've got a few quick tips for you here that will help get you helping women to hook with you faster and get more engaged in your conversation right off the bat...

“Often one of, if not the, most consistently challenging aspects of meeting women is reaching “the hook”. Just like in fishing where far too often fish will take the bait without getting caught on the hook, so too in socializing do many women respond to a man’s opener without getting further “hooked” on talking with him.

Reaching the hook is reaching the point where a woman has decided that she wants the conversation to continue further. Reaching this point sometimes happens instantly (where a woman begins pelting you with questions soon after meeting you), but sometimes the hook takes longer (she seems reserved until you hit on some topic or nerve that causes her to light up and engage).

Unfortunately, there’s no magic pill for reaching the hook, and nothing will guarantee a hook every time. There are, however, things you can do that will improve your chances of hooking.

Who would've thought scientists'd ever get around to proving something like this?

A decade and a half ago, I found that if I wore outrageously cool and different clothes, I attracted a lot of attention to myself. When I later took on a tougher persona in university, I took to wearing a lot of (what I'd now describe as really tacky) gold jewelry all over: big chunky gold rings with huge fake diamonds, gold necklaces, a really flashy gold cubic zirconium-studded bracelet that people would stop me to comment on and more than a few bouncers and DJs tried to buy off me or barter for.

I wouldn't be caught dead in that getup these days, mainly because I have a very different image now, but it got me attention, and what I did with that attention was up to me.

And what else I found was that it caught a lot of women's attention. And I couldn't prove it, but they seemed a lot more interested in me than most of the other averagely-attired guys in my classes.

What to do when a girl doesn’t text back? First: don’t panic. Second: do things right next time. Third: read this and get her texting again.

A reader writes in:

I found something strange. Everytime Im having long interactions with girls in pickups on the streets, I bomb. I mean, she dont text back. It reminds me of Murphies law: If everything cant go wrong, IT WILL. I recently approached 10 women of which gave me attraction signals. They touched me, called me cute, called me the most interesting person, smiled, was high energy, stayd 20 minutes with me, and asked me to text them. I had good interactions with them and was smoothe and confident. I bonded wtih them and made plans to see them. They never texted back and I dont nkwo why.

I did another experiment where I cutted my interaction short about 3 minutes and asked for the number. Most of the shorter ones agreed on dates and texted back, and note, most of them gave me negative signs first. Is it because women use guys that they give fake "attraction signals?" Why do they seem so much into me at first but never bother to actually get into contact again? It happens over and over so much that when a girl give me signals thats too good to be true,I can almost predict that I will never hear from her again and Im alwasy right. I know it sounds counter-intuitive but I think the women who give you immediate signals are maybe time waster"? And what is your thoughts, do you find the same?

Brings back memories.

When I first started chatting up girls more, I noticed an odd trend: the women I spoke to for longer periods of time, who seemed more into me, ended up being less likely to ever return my phone calls or texts!

How bizarre, I thought to myself. This certainly doesn't make much sense.

But the numbers didn't lie. So, I did the only logical thing I could think to do: I worked to shorten the time I'd spend with girls whose phone number I intended to grab, and only spend a longer time with girls I intended to take home that day or night.

Almost overnight, the problem of girls not texting back and girls not calling back all but disappeared. But it still left me scratching my head a bit... why did spending more time with a girl and having her come to like you more lead to her falling off the face of the Earth and not returning text and calls later?