Genuine Interest Dynamite
It's tough going direct -- which is to say, expressing genuine interest in a girl. It's tricky, it's risky, and it can sometimes elicit all the wrong kinds of reactions. But it's also the most potent, powerful way that you can begin a conversation with a girl and gives you the best chance of getting strong attraction, fast, from the very outset of the interaction.
If a guy's genuine interest opener sounds insincere -- if he doesn't really mean it and she can tell -- it'll fall flat on it's face. So always compliment her on something you geniunely like about her. For instance, if you see a girl with a killer sense of fashion, you walk up to her and say,
"You know, I saw you sitting over here, and I just had to come tell you," pause, "that you have the most killer sense of style I have seen all day." Then introduce yourself.
Basic genuine interest, right? If you're well-dressed, well-groomed, comfortable, confident, your body language is handled correctly, and you get in close -- get into her personal space; no orbiting out in the awkward-feeling "polite zone" that strangers usually hang out in upon first meeting each other -- you stand a good chance of getting a good reaction. But remember, there are always going to be women who will respond really well to this kind of approach, and others who may even act put off or annoyed by it. That's how it goes though -- you have to take your risks that some won't respond well in order to find the ones who'll respond really well.
Here's a little dynamite, though, to take those response rates to the next level. These two things will make your genuine interest / direct openers open more consistently, and with bigger responses from girls accompanied with greater levels of attraction.
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Nose wrinkle, squint, and launch into a small smile. It sounds silly, but it's very powerful. In the part of the opener where you *pause* (see example above), you wrinkle your nose a little bit -- just like how you might if you were about to sneeze -- and you squint your eyes. As you do this, go from the sexy hint of a smile you were giving her before into a smile as if you were trying to contain a (small) laugh. It's a subconscious trigger for women that displays you're both socially savvy and comfortable opening her direct. A guy who's thinking she's out of his league will NOT do this. But a guy who's thinking, "Isn't she cute?" will. It's the same reaction you'd have to a puppy or a little kid doing something obnoxiously cute. "Awwwwwww, that's adorable!"
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Slow-spreading smile. I know I've written about the slow-spreading smile before, though I don't think I have it up here on Girls Chase. So here it is, summed up: a smile that spreads slowly across your face, growing larger and larger, and ultimately terminates in a smile that looks like you're just about to crack up laughing. Your mouth should be closed (closed-mouth smiles are sexier than open mouth smiles, by the way); your eyes will squint naturally. When done right, 99% of women will smile with you. It's almost impossible for a gal to not smile. I'm trying to think of specific examples... you've no doubt seen it in movies. Think of a guy looking at a woman who's staring back at him seriously, and a slow smile begins spreading across his face until he looks like he's going to erupt in laughter. What happens? Suddenly, a HUGE smile bursts onto the face of the woman in question, and she may even laugh herself to relieve some of tension. And she feels good.
When you combine these two with genuine interest, you give yourself a higher opening percentage with it, and the girls who open well will hook harder and be more into you from the start, because you've displayed attractive traits and you've made them smile with you. They're a couple of easy, surefire means of taking the most powerful way to approach a new woman and make it even more powerful.
It's dynamite for your direct openers. So get out there and start blowing stuff up!
Chase
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Hi Chase. I've been using direct openers like this for a while a while now. I almost always operate during day time. In some occasions the girl blushes after the opening and comments on how bold I am, which I guess is a good a good thing. At other times they seem to freeze up, and after I've introduced myself they seem to neither respond to questions nor statements. I used to think that the latter is a sign of disinterest but after reading your website I'm starting to think that maybe they feel too pressured.
Some of my female friends know that I'm studying and practicing pickup and almost all of them think that a direct opener puts too much pressure on the girl or is too sexual or too cheesy. One of them commented that if a guy opens her with anything that's associated to her looks then she'll immediately dismiss him because she wants to be liked for her personality, not her looks. I told her that the focus on looks is only for the opening and that during the rest of the conversation, looks wouldn't return as a topic (after all, qualification should be about something other than looks) but that didn't matter to her - you're out of if you begin to talk about looks.
Another girl commented that if I begin direct like this, the girl will feel pressured and uncomfortable, and that I should start with something low-pressure instead such as asking her for directions. But from my point of view this comes over as weak. After all you're hiding your intentions, and girls should like men who are confident and assertive.
Now the weird thing is that all non-flakey closes I've had so far are the result of low-pressure (situational/opinion) openings. As you may understand I'm starting to doubt the effectiveness of direct opening. But maybe I'm still doing something wrong, I'm not sure. What are your thoughts on this?
I'm getting the feeling that the effectiveness of direct opening also strongly depends on the demographics. I live in the Netherlands and girls occasionally respond well to direct opening. I was in Belgium last week - they say that Belgian girls are more reserved - and almost all of my direct openers resulted in blank stares after the introduction. After I switched to situational/opinion openings girls seemed to become more open for conversation.
Where does Chase say to
Where does Chase say to compliment her looks? The examples he gives are always complimenting:
-Sense of style
-Walk
-Accessory or item
Your female friends are right about the looks compliments. It doesn't help at all. All the above things to compliment are personality-related.
I disagree, sense of style
I disagree, sense of style and accessories *are* part of looks (I had this discussion with the girls too and they agreed). Looks are not limited to just the body; anything that you can look at with the eyes is part of looks as far as my definition is concerned. You're probably thinking about something along the lines of "I think you're beautiful" but I've never done that. I usually compliment a girl about the vibe/energy that they radiate as they walk. But anyway, my point still stands.
Then I'd say your female
Then I'd say your female friends are lying to you.
If a sexy charming guy was to approach them using this, do you think they would turn him down because of the "pressure"?
Of course not.
Those who get turned down are the ordinary guys who use the same lines they always get. Those guys get an autopilot rejection.
Hey Chase, Great post! Do you
Hey Chase,
Great post! Do you have any image or video examples of these two tactics? It would be great to see it being done, to better understand the nose wrinkle eye squint.
Thanks!
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