Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it's bad or it doesn't work.
Just that it's overrated.
A lot of guys make out nightlife to be this mystical pinnacle of seduction.
It's been sort of built up in movies and it has this whole dreamy, seductive mood about it.
But take it from a guy who's picked up plenty in nightlife and worked in the nightlife industry for years... it's not the best.
When you lock eyes with a girl and she smiles, it’s one of the clearest invitations you’ll get to approach. If you’re in the market for a woman or two, go meet her.Ever look at a girl and have her smile at you?
It's one of the oldest approach invitations in the book, and also one of the clearest.
Whether she smiles at you first or you smile at her, then she smiles, if she holds eye contact with you while smiling at you, you've got a ringer.
I've used this approach invitation to identify girls it'll be real easy to meet for years.
I've even had girls I held eye contact with and shared smiles with do the opening themselves. There's something about that mutual locked eyes, shared smiling signal that emboldens even women to make an approach.
I've used this to prompt a fair few girls to approach me themselves in social venues. I would've approached them myself later had they not made a move, but sometimes once she's had that smile and locked eye contact from you she's going to dive right in.
One of the few times I've been street-stopped it was by a really good-looking 20-something girl in a tan business suit on my way to the subway midday on a weekday after we locked eyes and shared smiles. She was so forward it took me aback; I doubt she'd have had the confidence without that prolonged smile and eye lock.
A lot of guys overthink this invitation.
"She's just being friendly," they think.
"Maybe she's just having a good day."
"She could be smiling at someone else."
Yet the vast majority of the time a woman is holding eye contact with you and smiling at you somewhere, it is not because she's just having that splendid of a day, but instead that she likes you and would like to meet.
The world’s changed, and so has the game… for some men. But the changes to the game that’ve come to looks-status-money men haven’t come to all men. Why’s that so?On my article about your opinions of women betraying your success (or lack thereof) with women, a reader writes
Hey Chase,
Set some sexual frames, and watch her become aroused, compliant, and hooked in. Sexual frames make a seduction easier – and there are 8 ways to set them.Hey guys. Welcome back!
In my last article, we discussed sexual frames, what they are, and how they differ from social frames. If you want to learn about sexual frames, I recommend reading my previous post. Sexual frames help make your interaction “sexual.” They frame you as a sexual guy, affecting her perception of you. They guide the interaction between you and the girl to be sexual, giving it an underlying sexual meaning, since that’s what frames do.
Why would that be so important? Not only does it arouse her and put her mind on SEX, but it may also make her perceive your non-sexual moves or words as sexual since she will perceive YOU as a sexual being. It will change the filter through which she sees the interaction and you.
But, if you are not convinced yet, I will give a few more reasons why sexual frames are important – not just important but CRUCIAL. I will start by listing some benefits they provide. Next, I’ll present the main reasons why sexual frames can save you from a lot of trouble. (Last-minute resistance? Friendzone? Interactions that go nowhere?)
I will end by giving you some clues on how to set a sexual frame!
So, let’s jump into it.
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A jealousy plotline can be a mighty tool in picking a new girl up. However, use it wrong, and you risk sending the woman you desire fuming off in auto-rejection. Follow 6 steps to do it right.Jealousy plotlines are great tools for upping and maintaining attraction in situations where you can't immediately pull (or the girl needs more priming before the pull).
They set up competition for you between women. They get women laser-focused on you as the prize they're trying to win. And they preselect you to the hilt.
They are fantastic tools, used right, to pick girls up with.
There's just one problem:
If you're uncareful, women you run jealousy plotlines on can auto-reject.
The girl you want may decide you are simply too big a flirt... that you are only toying with her, with no real intention to escalate things anywhere with you... that this is just a thing you do with girls, where you suck them in for your own validation, then cast them aside.
More mature women will often just leave whatever venue they're in where they think you're 'taunting' them, and simply not reply to your messages after that.
Less mature women may try to 'get back at' you, by running their own jealousy plotlines... flirting with some other guy, touching some other guy, making out with some other guy, going home with some other guy.
But there's a way you can maintain a loud, clear signal to women you're running jealousy plotlines with that they are your prime choice.
You can keep yourself attainable, even as you leave women in suspense, wondering if they really will get you or not.
The thing you'll do is simple, but it sends a loud, clear message to the woman you want -- and causes the other girls you flirt with to switch into overdrive trying to win you over.
There’s an epidemic these days of men bitching, whining, and moaning about women. Yet a man’s attitudes toward women tell women a whole lot about him…In influence, there is this phenomenon known as social proof.
When you run into a potentially awkward situation with a woman, you need to ask yourself: will she be the one who controls the frame, or will it be you who does?How much of seduction is words, appearance, or actions... and how much of it is just frames?
If I walk up to a woman and she acts like she doesn't want me and I accept that frame, that was frames.
Likewise, if I walk up to a woman and she acts like she doesn't want me, then I persist with her in a charming way that conveys I know she really does want me, and she decides she finds me intriguing and starts to feel attraction, that was frames too.
If someone accuses me of something, and I accept the accusation and feel ashamed and bashfully apologize, that's frames.
Just the same, if someone accuses me of something, and I parry that accusation and making a convincing case that in fact I was in the right all along, and the other party backs down, well that too is frames.
Frames run as a constant undercurrent throughout all social interaction. If you've followed along with Alek Rolstad's latest series on frames, you know you can divide frames up into social and sexual, for instance. You know, from his series and our other pieces here on frame control, of various ways you can adjust, tweak, and impose your frames.
Good frame control consists of the expert interplay between known facts and offered explanations. If I saw someone grab my basketball and walk off the basketball court with it, and I believe he stole it and am about to alert the police officer standing nearby, you won't change my mind by insisting that I'm wrong and I didn't see it and that guy did not steal the basketball. However, you might change my mind by telling me he's a good guy and he only just took the basketball to reinflate it because it was low on air and getting flat, and that he'll be right back with it.
If you're telling the truth, you'll have saved a good Samaritan from a run-in with the police; if you're lying, you'll have allowed a thief to escape with my basketball. Either way, by pulling me into your frame, you have altered the course of events.
Frames won't always be as cut-and-dry as 'stealing or not stealing' either.
Many times what is being framed is something fuzzy:
In the end, what determines how a great many things in your social life go is how good you are at framing: how expertly you frame, how well you tie the frames you establish to known facts and details, and how believably you convey your own belief in the frames you purport to hold.
Sexual frames are crucial to taking your courtships out of the platonic. Yet unlike social frames, they won’t set themselves. You must set them intentionally to see romance blossom.Hey guys, and welcome back!
So far, we’ve learned what a frame was in my post, “What is a frame?” We discussed how frames are internal and external points of view in the way we interpret something.
Setting a frame in a social interaction becomes the art of affecting the way someone perceives:
A discussion
A phenomenon
Its interlocutors (you) and their role with the contribution to the frame
We have previously discussed social frames, namely the social aspect of seduction.
Women have an internal social frame. It’s the way she sees herself in the social world. These aspects play key roles:
Social identity
Value system
In her selection of mates, she is more likely to allow herself to be stimulated mentally and sexually (and hence hook up) with a mate that suits her social frame. These include her social identity (socio-economic and cultural background), value systems, and all the expectations that stem from them.
When a man sets a social frame incoherent with hers, resistance occurs. Most likely, she will hold herself back from getting carried away by your escalation (we call this female state control, or FSC).
How'd you like to meet more girls during the daytime -- more easily?
In this video, in advance of the release of Hector's day game course Meet Girls Everywhere, I interview Girls Chase's own Hector Castillo about all things day game.
Hector reveals some of his day game secrets... how he got started in day game (and how he got good)... how day game compares to other forms of game... and more.
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