As I’m packing my things for a four-day music festival, I remember
all the crazy stuff from the past events – pure, unadulterated fun.
Well, at least the parts I can remember. For some reason, many of us
have no trouble letting go and having fun during vacations, music
festivals, or camping trips, but fail to do the same when we’re at a
local bar, looking to meet someone new.
And this is what this article is going to be about – having fun.
Essentially, I’ll try to convince you in about 2000 words to do
something that comes natural to every child, and something that should
be completely obvious to every adult.
Yet for too many this simple act doesn’t come naturally – we’re too
invested in forcing a particular outcome and planning every single
step, as if we can prepare for dynamic social interactions in the same
way we prepare for a weekend road trip.
And while we’re sitting there, pondering what line to use as an
opener to get that girl into bed (yeah, as if it works
that way)
or mindlessly grind approaches telling the same damn lines and
analyzing the night’s results (wait, was it 33 or 34 approaches?)
life is happening in the background.
With the corner of your eye you catch a glimpse of a random group of
people laughing and telling jokes over drinks. You think that they
sound fun, but there’s no time for fun – you’re here to get women.
Unsurprisingly, for many guys, seduction and meeting women becomes a
chore; something that they need to dedicate blocks of time to every
week and just work through like a bad case of paperwork.