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In my previous post on why girls act bitchy we discussed how many beginners, and even more experienced players, often force themselves into consecutively approaching (groups of) girls without getting actual results.

Even more, by doing so they cause more harm than good to themselves, as constantly getting rejected without any success will have a negative impact on your confidence and can lead to some serious trauma. How can you get good if you are not enjoying yourself?

In that post, what I concluded was that, although at first doing some approaches to get used to it might be a good idea, overdoing it for many months is not. Instead, I vouched for you becoming more selective in your approaches. By this I meant that you approach girls or groups of girls who would most likely be receptive – or at least who seem more receptive – so that a higher percentage of your approaches lead to something more than just a rejection.

In this post we will further elaborate on this concept, though the main intention of today’s post is to introduce you to a technique for approaching women I use that is very efficient.

And the best part is: it is very easy to pull off; a seducer of any skill level can do it.

It is recommended, but not required, that you read my previous post. However, if you haven’t, don’t worry, as I will cover the major points in this one also.

Now, let us begin.

Howdy gents,

Few concepts are more viral in contemporary culture than the notion of the “alpha male”.

Many men want to become “alpha males”, but there is surprisingly little agreement on what characterizes this social role.

Even more, it can actually be argued that many guys should NOT try to be alpha males in the biological sense if their goal is to be a man who attracts women.

Does that mean that you should be a weak, submissive man?

Not at all.

There is a kind of strong man who is not the alpha male in its original sense but who may actually be a better archetype for many students of seduction.

When approaching women, sometimes you will encounter a bratty attitude, where girls act like they don’t want to be approached even if they actually do.

Throughout this article, I will be referring to these “bitchy girls” as having “approach walls” (also called “bitch shields” in the pickup community, but let’s use a nicer sounding term!).

Today we will look at why women sometimes become this way when we approach them, and then we’ll talk about how to handle that behavior. After reading this post, you will never again have to wonder why women are being bitchy to you when you approach them. And, believe it or not, rarely is it about them not being attracted to you…

This one is not so much for beginners as it is for guys who are intermediate+. If you score “Journeyman” or higher on the diagnostic quiz, read on – otherwise, you can still read this one if you like to get a taste of what lies ahead, but after that you’ll probably want to file it away for later... it won’t apply to you just yet (but will a little later on).

No doubt you remember when you first started out with girls... it seemed like everyone around you was light years beyond you social calibration-wise.

And that was especially true of women.

At all times, they were 3 or 4 chess moves ahead: thinking ahead, planning ahead, and half the time you’d fall into weird social situations of others’ design that took you places you never intended or wanted to go. Ugh... irksome, bothersome, and really just kind of annoying.

When’s the last time that’s happened to you recently, though? If your answer – despite plenty of active socializing – is “it’s been a while”, you may have started realizing something else – that no longer are you playing social skills catch-up with the rest of the world, but they are playing it with you.

You’re a major league player to their little leagues by comparison.

What’s more, you’re beginning to realize that a lot of what you used to write off as “rudeness” and “aloofness” and girls “being bitchy” or “giving you the cold shoulder” in your earlier days were just plain old fashioned social awkwardness from women who didn’t know how to respond to you otherwise in a way that would both accomplish their objectives and not open them up to unnecessary social risk.

And if you really want to take your results and run with them, doing the same old stuff you did back when you were just starting out isn’t really going to fly anymore.

Ah… sexy girls. There’s really nothing better in this world, is there?

It’s nice to see them in their pencil skirts, high heels, sun dresses, lululemons, or any other form of flattering attire that accentuates their wonderful curves.

It’s great to have them smile at you, and dance with you, and hug you.

It’s amazing to smell their aromatic perfumes and shampoos and admire their long, flowing, finely kempt hair.

But how do you get them to give you more than a kiss on the cheek? How do you get them to treat you like more than someone they find as “nice or adorable” or worse – “creepy”? How do you get them to reveal their bodies and willingly beg you to take them to your bed (or any other room/surface that you would like to have them on)?

That’s what today’s topic is on: how to successfully seduce sexy girls and put yourself in the position of actually sleeping with them.

As I walked into my favorite nighttime venue this past Friday, I was immediately greeted by a couple of girls whom I had seen out a couple of times previously.

I gave the first a big bear hug, picking her up off of the ground for a moment, and then slowly and gently placed her back on to her feet. I then wrapped an arm around the second girl, looked down at her at an angle, then asked her how life’s been treating her.

As the evening progressed, I came to a bit of a realization as I noticed the various ways different men interacted physically with the women they were talking to.

You see, most guys pretty much fit into two camps when it comes to touching women:

1. Guys who are less physical than they need to be, or not at all, and
2. Creepy, manhandling weirdos

The first type gets flaked on by confused girls who don’t know what they want from them, eventually becoming the shopping partner or texting buddy, and pretty much never get laid.

The second type is the overly-physical guy. This is the guy who touches women in inappropriate ways before generating any level of attraction, hangs all over them, and causes them to become more and more uncomfortable until they find an excuse to slink away from all of the unwanted groping and clutching.

The thing about concepts such as touch compliance and physical escalation is that they get the girl used to you touching her in certain ways, but what do we know about how and what these communicate to a woman via sub-text and undertones?

Well, in addition to compliance and basic escalation, touch (when done correctly) is also an important means to implicitly communicate things to a girl, such as:

• You are a sexual male who is confident about getting physical with women
• She turns you on / you’re sexually attracted to her
• You won’t disappoint her if she allows herself to be isolated with you
• The pace you set, while fast, won’t be too fast for her
• It also tells her that you’re just used to this, and that you touch women all the time
• Finally, different types of touch communicate different things

That last bullet point is crucial, because you want to know what types of thoughts and feelings are being conveyed to a woman when you touch her. I will get into that a bit later in this piece, but first I want to explain how to communicate the right way via physical touch.