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Rounding out this week's posts on what girls look for in men and what they value in men come 11 universal things women find attractive in men.

It's easy once you've been at this for a while to lose sight of explaining to guys how to attract women - like, what actually gets girls going and feeling some desire for a guy? Once you've got it down, it gets automated - and then your focus turns to, "Okay, now what do I do with it?"

It's also a lot faster to teach guys what to do with women they've already got attracted - they just have to throw a few steps and procedures into the mix and *BOOM!* - they're getting results. It's a lot longer of a process for a guy to internalize all the things women find attractive and begin morphing himself into that kind of guy (note: there're a lot more benefits to adopting these traits than simply wooing women - the traits that are about to follow are attractive in men for a good reason... namely, that they're extremely beneficial traits that help you succeed more in all kinds of life's arenas).

That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, though. In fact, it's an essential element of getting truly good and consistent in picking up and getting the girls you want - ultimately, the more attractive you make yourself as a man, the more women you'll find want to get to know you better, and the easier your job (whether that's meeting THE girl of your dreams, or meeting a LOT of girls of your dreams) becomes.

Today's excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams lists out 11 things women almost universally find attractive in men, and the descriptions for each of those things.

So, you won't need to guess about what women find attractive - I spell it out for you in my book, and I'm going to share part of that spelling-out with you here.

I'm taking a week off from writing a Tactics Tuesdays post to write another post that is, I suspect, long overdue: a post on social proof. It isn't something we talk much about on here, nor one that I think you want to devote an inordinate amount of your time or attention to.

Yet, it is one that, used properly, can be an absolutely incredibly powerful tool for picking up girls and for changing the minds of the ones you already know.

I'll go into some example below of just what social proof is, how you can use it, and why you don't want to miss using this potent and effective tool, both for lifestyle design and for using in your own pick ups on the fly - whether you've got friends around or not.

Onward...

Welcome to the first edition of the Carnival of Dating Advice! Today from around the 'Net we're bringing you some of the very best articles on dating, relationships, sex, self-improvement, and more - so put on your reading caps and lets dive in.

Most of our submissions this first time around have come from online dating websites, since they tend to be the most active on the carnival circuit - which, really, makes sense... online dating sites tend to have pretty big online presences and know a thing or two about online promotion, right? Ideally, as this carnival grows, we'll get a healthy mix of online and other sorts of dating and relationship articles here every week.

On with the carnival...

A few days back, in the Tactics Tuesdays post on how to get approached by women, we talked about some of the ways you can tell a girl likes you. Learning how girls show interest helps you out in a variety of ways: it lets you zero in on the girls who already like you; it lets you discriminate between women who will be receptive to you and women who will take your time but not give much back; it lets you move faster and get results faster. There are tons of benefits to being able to read the signs she likes you.

But what are those signs? If you read that second article linked to above, I outline a bunch of them. You need to get in the habit of recognizing them when you see them - and acting on them when you do.

In today's excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams, I give you some of the most common of those signs she likes you that you'll see. Look for these when you're out - and capitalize on them when you get them.

In a previous article, we discussed contingency planning for questions like "What if she doesn't have time?" in great detail – and today I want to go into more depth and give you some SPECIFIC things to say in situations you will inevitably find yourself in sooner or later… word by word, what to say if you want to meet a girl.

Yes – it doesn’t matter that much WHAT you say, as long as you project the right vibe - see our series on how to pick up girls for more on that. That is true.

But, I clearly remember when I was first learning this stuff, I got incredibly frustrated with that advice.

“Okay, it doesn’t matter what I say – but I still do have to say SOMETHING… can you at least give me a few examples of what to say? Surely I don’t want to talk to her about the weather or about how bad traffic was today?”

There are some topics that girls respond better to than others, so ideally you want to have the right vibe AND an interesting conversational repertoire.

But especially for beginners and for people who are just getting back into the “game” after a long hiatus, it can be useful to have some training wheels and crutches to get yourself up to speed again quickly.

Yesterday evening I was out walking home, when I noticed a tall, thin girl with long hair and a good body in front of me, walking very carefree in heels, tight jean shorts cut off just below the butt, and a tank top, swinging her hips very sexy as she went. She turned around and looked back in my direction, then started singing in a very sweet voice. She turned around to look back a few more times - I was walking faster than her, so gaining on her and closing the distance. I thought about approaching, but then thought about what it takes to get approached by women.

Here was a girl throwing off tons of the things you'll see when girls show interest:

• She was blatantly looking back at me (she probably knew I was there before I knew she was; even when you're very socially aware, girls are still often going to be the first to spot you before you spot them)

• She kept looking back at me, which means there was something that was very interesting to her... or, she was trying to get my attention

• She started singing, which you might not realize, but women will often start to sing or talk on their phones to attract male attention (you can use this same tactic yourself; we'll see that in a moment)

I didn't particularly feel like approaching - I was tired and worn out from a long day, and I wasn't dressed the best. So instead, I wanted to see if I could get approached.

And that's what I'm going to talk with you about today: how can you get women to approach you instead of you having to always approach them?

“How do I get motivated?”

It’s a question you run into at some point when you start tackling something you know you ought to do... but just can’t seem to get yourself to do. And getting better at dating and relationships - while certainly one of, if not the, most rewarding skills to get down - is quite possibly one of the most difficult things to get yourself motivated to work on.

One of the hardest things in this game – and in any endeavor in life, really – is to stay motivated when the going gets tough.

And it will.

In fact, many people argue that the most important part of Napoleon Hill’s book Think and Grow Rich is Chapter 9 – the chapter on persistence.

Because if you think about it – if you just stick with ANYTHING long enough, you’re BOUND to get better at it… and eventually the results will come as a mere side effect of getting better and better at your craft.

But if that’s true, then the question is… why isn’t everybody doing this?

Why aren’t all people more persistent with their goals, if that’s really all it takes?